marriage without parents presence
im a woman, 25, and its been about seven years since i stopped talking to my family due to physical and verbal abuse against me. ive been talking to this guy (in a halal manner, always in public settings whenever we meet), and i have been considering the possibility of marriage with him.
lets say i do get married to him, will my marriage lose barakah? would it be invalid? i do not understand how a wali needs to be put in charge of a womans marriage... it would be more sensible to think that the prophet PBUH would trust women to take care of themselves...
Btw, both of us are Muslim.
Also, IF I even told my parents about my marriage with this man (he’s white, I’m Indian) they would say no simply because of where he is from… there’s an ayah in the Quran that says we should mingle with other cultures, so I do not understand why interracial marriages are so opposed in the South Asian community.