u/NarinIshkandar

THERAPIST SAID IT'S STUPID THAT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE MAKES MY ADHD WORSE

I feel terrible after what my therapist said a week ago and I still feel like I am overreacting and I think about it a lot and I feel like my therapist actively says things that make my emotional dysregulation worse...and I need to know if this is as messed up as it feels...

I opened up to my therapist about my past with being a victim of domestic violence and how it seems to make my ADHD symptoms significantly worse.

extreme distractibility when I feel unsafe and constant overthinking

, emotional dysregulation shooting up, shutdown/freeze responses that look like “laziness” from the outside, binge eating, binge scrolling, doing everything to not feel or think, time blindness getting worse during stress

Instead of validating that or consoling or offering any solution, she told me it’s “stupid” to think domestic violence would affect my ADHD and that it's common and I should not be so sensitive,

I felt… dismissed, worse actually. It felt invalidating and honestly kind of...weird

Because from what I read, trauma and ADHD absolutely interact. trauma affects executive functioning, emotional regulation, memory.

So now I’m sitting here questioning

Am I wrong for connecting trauma to my symptoms? does ADHD exist isolated from trauma? or does trauma actively make ADHD worse? is what I have been through even...trauma? or am I just making excuses for my ADHD and my poor memory and executive function??..

Or is this just bad therapy?

I Would really appreciate hearing from others what they think about this :/

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I am sorry, I do not know if such a post belongs to this sub, I am new to reddit, I read all the rules before posting

I feel terrible after what my therapist said a week ago and I still feel like I am overreacting and I think about it a lot and I feel like my therapist actively says things that make my emotional dysregulation worse...and I need to know if this is as messed up as it feels...

I opened up to my therapist about my past with being a victim of domestic violence and how it seems to make my ADHD symptoms significantly worse.

extreme distractibility when I feel unsafe and constant overthinking

, emotional dysregulation shooting up, shutdown/freeze responses that look like “laziness” from the outside, binge eating, binge scrolling, doing everything to not feel or think, time blindness getting worse during stress

Instead of validating that or consoling or offering any solution, she told me it’s “stupid” to think domestic violence would affect my ADHD and that it's common and I should not be so sensitive,

I felt… dismissed, worse actually. It felt invalidating and honestly kind of...weird

Because from what I read, trauma and ADHD absolutely interact. trauma affects executive functioning, emotional regulation, memory.

So now I’m sitting here questioning

Am I wrong for connecting trauma to my symptoms? does ADHD exist isolated from trauma? or does trauma actively make ADHD worse? is what I have been through even...trauma? or am I just making excuses for my ADHD and my poor memory and executive function??..

Or is this just bad therapy?

I Would really appreciate hearing from others what they think about this :/

​

I am sorry, I do not know if such a post belongs to this sub, I am new to reddit, I read all the rules before posting

I feel terrible after what my therapist said a week ago and I still feel like I am overreacting and I think about it a lot and I feel like my therapist actively says things that make my emotional dysregulation worse...and I need to know if this is as messed up as it feels...

I opened up to my therapist about my past with being a victim of domestic violence and how it seems to make my ADHD symptoms significantly worse.

extreme distractibility when I feel unsafe and constant overthinking

, emotional dysregulation shooting up, shutdown/freeze responses that look like “laziness” from the outside, binge eating, binge scrolling, doing everything to not feel or think, time blindness getting worse during stress

Instead of validating that or consoling or offering any solution, she told me it’s “stupid” to think domestic violence would affect my ADHD and that it's common and I should not be so sensitive,

I felt… dismissed, worse actually. It felt invalidating and honestly kind of...weird

Because from what I read, trauma and ADHD absolutely interact. trauma affects executive functioning, emotional regulation, memory.

So now I’m sitting here questioning

Am I wrong for connecting trauma to my symptoms? does ADHD exist isolated from trauma? or does trauma actively make ADHD worse? is what I have been through even...trauma? or am I just making excuses for my ADHD and my poor memory and executive function??..

Or is this just bad therapy?

I Would really appreciate hearing from others what they think about this :/

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Think about it.

Bananas: S-Tier. Easy to open, no mess, instant reward.

Apples: Mid-Tier. Good, but the core is a nuisance.

Pomegranates: High Difficulty/High Reward. It takes 20 minutes, a bowl of water, and a prayer to get the seeds out without looking like a crime scene.

What’s a fruit (or any food) that you love, but absolutely hate the 'mechanics' of eating? I need to know if I'm just lazy or if the fruit industry is testing my ADHD.

as someone with ADHD, even though I love eating fruit, I can't eat most of the fruit I like, because there's a lot of friction involved in eating them like... watermelons, pineapple, muskmelons, and pomegranate, it takes too much time to just...get them to an edible state

I am sorry, I do not know if such a post belongs to this sub, I am new to reddit, I read all the rules before posting

I feel terrible after what my therapist said a week ago and I still feel like I am overreacting and I think about it a lot and I feel like my therapist actively says things that make my emotional dysregulation worse...and I need to know if this is as messed up as it feels...

I opened up to my therapist about my past with being a victim of domestic violence and how it seems to make my ADHD symptoms significantly worse.

extreme distractibility when I feel unsafe and constant overthinking

, emotional dysregulation shooting up, shutdown/freeze responses that look like “laziness” from the outside, binge eating, binge scrolling, doing everything to not feel or think, time blindness getting worse during stress

Instead of validating that or consoling or offering any solution, she told me it’s “stupid” to think domestic violence would affect my ADHD and that it's common and I should not be so sensitive,

I felt… dismissed, worse actually. It felt invalidating and honestly kind of...weird

Because from what I read, trauma and ADHD absolutely interact. trauma affects executive functioning, emotional regulation, memory.

So now I’m sitting here questioning

Am I wrong for connecting trauma to my symptoms? does ADHD exist isolated from trauma? or does trauma actively make ADHD worse? is what I have been through even...trauma? or am I just making excuses for my ADHD and my poor memory and executive function??..

Or is this just bad therapy?

I Would really appreciate hearing from others what they think about this :/

ADHD feels like a disability in ways people don’t see. I wake up tired even when I have slept well, even 10 alarms can't wake me up... I stare at something simple and feel like my brain refuses to comply it is like there’s a wall between my body and my brain and something is missing..It’s knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it. Not because you don’t care. Not because you’re lazy. But because something inside you just… won’t start.

watching other people do life so easily, They reply to messages, They finish tasks, They show up on time, and I just sit there wondering why everyone is 10x more efficient than me

people always tell me “just try harder” and I want to scream because they don't understand, I ALREADY AM, I feel broken in a world that keeps moving like I don't matter, Some days it really does feel like a disability, Just in a quiet, exhausting, everyday way that no one believes in because I look fine...