u/MemeMaker197

So I (21M) matched with a girl (20F) on Bumble about two weeks ago. We switched to WhatsApp pretty quickly and immediately had this insane connection. Same music taste, same interests, same sense of humour, lived literally 2km apart, colleges 300 meters from each other. We talked non-stop for days, had a 2 hour phone call, and it just felt weirdly rare.

For about a week before meeting, she was very active. She replied quickly, initiated conversations, called me cute, said she liked my calm energy, said things like “we need to meet soon,” “where were you all this time,” “I want you to myself,” etc. The chemistry seemed mutual.

She suggested a pretty intense first date plan early on. She had a one-night hotel stay at a 5 star from some competition/prize and suggested we meet, have dinner, and maybe go to the room after. I was initially suspicious, but I was curious too. We planned dinner at a mall and then maybe, just maybe, going to the room for a bit. She even suggested we should bring and exchange a small memoir for each other, so I brought a bookmark I had made years ago, since she reads a lot, and she brought me a cute looking highlighter.

On the actual date, we met, walked around, did some shopping/exploring, had dinner, vibed really well in person too. Then we went back to her room. Things got physical. This was my first time doing anything sexual, while she had previous experience. We didn’t have sex because we didn’t have protection and I didn’t want to do anything risky, even though in the moment she was very into it and wanted to go further. I kept that boundary and we stopped before sex. She seemed to enjoy it a lot and was very physically into me. I enjoyed it too, of course. When I was leaving she literally pulled me back at the doorway. Also sidenote, I'm not very attractive either. I'm a pretty average looking guy, not tall, not very muscular or anything like that.

After I left, we texted a little. The next day, she asked how it was for me, said she liked it, apologized a lot for sending me away quickly afterward, and said she’d make it up to me next time, we discussed meeting again at her place.

Before the date she was fast, active, playful, and initiated a lot. After the date, she started replying very slowly or disappearing. On Monday night we had another call, mostly sexual again, and when I tried to ask what she was looking for, casual, relationship, etc, she gave a vague answer like if we vibe/connect deeply then maybe relationship. Later, when I asked why she was so unresponsive that day, the call suddenly cut and she texted “wait, my mom is here.” After that she didn’t continue.

I messaged the next day asking about something she had mentioned, whether she ended up going on a family trip. No reply for a day. Eventually she came back saying sorry, her mom took her phone and she wasn’t active. I replied casually, but then again she didn’t continue the conversation.

A few days later I sent a playful message like “are you still alive” She replied and then called me. On that call, she explained that her mom had seen her talking late at night, asked questions, grounded her, and took her phone. She also said she went on a family trip. But she mentioned she had her laptop, and she has WhatsApp on it, so I was a little confused why she couldn’t reply at all.

That call again became mostly sexual. She asked about that night, what we wanted to do next, whether I knew any makeout spots nearby, whether I could come to her place when her parents weren’t home, whether she could come to mine, etc. I asked a few times if she wanted to also meet normally, like just take a walk, get coffee/food, hang out without sexual stuff. She didn’t really answer clearly. We did talk about one or two normal things as well though, like where we'd want to live after graduating, etc. Toward the end, I said I had a serious question and started asking whether she wanted to meet normally too or only for sexual stuff. Before I could fully ask it, she cut the call and messaged “wait.” That was the last proper thing she said.

I called her Monday morning, she didn't pick up. Sent one more casual, playful message Tuesday. Then noticed her profile photo disappeared and my message stayed on one tick. Checked the encryption verification and it said "please verify another way." Pretty sure she blocked me.

The whole thing lasted two weeks. The pre-date chatting was incredible, music, books, life stuff, deep conversations, real connection. Post-date it shifted almost entirely to sexual. Every time I nudged toward something more real she deflected or disappeared.

One more thing that confused me: on the last call, she herself brought up whether I was still talking to other girls or still using dating apps. I told her I wasn’t talking to anyone else, and she said she had deleted the dating app after we moved to WhatsApp. She also said she wasn’t romantically talking to anyone else or her exes. So that made me feel like she was at least somewhat invested/possessive, which makes the later disappearing/blocking even harder to understand.

I’m confused because before the date she seemed genuinely into me, not just sexually. We had a lot in common and she was the one initiating a lot of the future-ish/flirty stuff. Even after the date, she said she liked it and wanted to make it up to me next time. But then her behavior became hot/cold, mostly sexual (which again, I would love being just fwbs but I needed to know if we would only limit it to that or have something more), and avoidant whenever I tried to ask for clarity or a normal hangout.

What happened here? Did I do something? And how do you get over someone you only knew for two weeks but felt more connected to than anyone you've met before? I'm wondering if she might unblock me after some time (she will be out of town on vacation for a couple of weeks) and contact again?

I guess I just would have liked to know why she blocked me, whatever the reason may have been, atleast there would be some closure. I know it sounds desperate, but I've been thinking about SMS-ing her, maybe after she returns from her trip after a couple of weeks, asking for clarity, assuming I'm not blocked there as well. I guess the worst part is that I haven't been able to stop thinking about this, for the last few days, my mind has been going back to our texts, calls, the date, all the time.

Also since many people might ask, yes she is 20 actually, is some years into college which is very close to mine and I checked her professional profiles as well to verify, and she wouldn't be able to book the room if not. I think the phone confiscation thing could be explained by us being in a different country with a different culture compared to the US

TL;DR: Matched with a girl on Bumble, had an intense two-week connection and a very physical first date where we didn’t have sex because we had no protection. Afterward she became hot-cold, mostly sexual, avoided clarity when I asked if she wanted normal dating vs FWB, and now seems to have blocked me. Confused whether I did something wrong or should just move on.

So I (21M) matched with a girl (20F) on Bumble about two weeks ago. We switched to WhatsApp pretty quickly and immediately had this insane connection. Same music taste, same interests, same sense of humour, lived literally 2km apart, colleges 300 meters from each other. We talked non-stop for days, had a 2 hour phone call, and it just felt weirdly rare.

For about a week before meeting, she was very active. She replied quickly, initiated conversations, called me cute, said she liked my calm energy, said things like “we need to meet soon,” “where were you all this time,” “I want you to myself,” etc. The chemistry seemed mutual.

She suggested a pretty intense first date plan early on. She had a one-night hotel stay at a 5 star from some competition/prize and suggested we meet, have dinner, and maybe go to the room after. I was initially suspicious, but I was curious too. We planned dinner at a mall and then maybe, just maybe, going to the room for a bit. She even suggested we should bring and exchange a small memoir for each other, so I brought a bookmark I had made years ago, since she reads a lot, and she brought me a cute looking highlighter.

On the actual date, we met, walked around, did some shopping/exploring, had dinner, vibed really well in person too. Then we went back to her room. Things got physical. This was my first time doing anything sexual, while she had previous experience. We didn’t have sex because we didn’t have protection and I didn’t want to do anything risky, even though in the moment she was very into it and wanted to go further. I kept that boundary and we stopped before sex. She seemed to enjoy it a lot and was very physically into me. I enjoyed it too, of course. When I was leaving she literally pulled me back at the doorway. Also sidenote, I'm not very attractive either. I'm a pretty average looking guy, not tall, not very muscular or anything like that.

After I left, we texted a little. The next day, she asked how it was for me, said she liked it, apologized a lot for sending me away quickly afterward, and said she’d make it up to me next time, we discussed meeting again at her place.

Before the date she was fast, active, playful, and initiated a lot. After the date, she started replying very slowly or disappearing. On Monday night we had another call, mostly sexual again, and when I tried to ask what she was looking for, casual, relationship, etc, she gave a vague answer like if we vibe/connect deeply then maybe relationship. Later, when I asked why she was so unresponsive that day, the call suddenly cut and she texted “wait, my mom is here.” After that she didn’t continue.

I messaged the next day asking about something she had mentioned, whether she ended up going on a family trip. No reply for a day. Eventually she came back saying sorry, her mom took her phone and she wasn’t active. I replied casually, but then again she didn’t continue the conversation.

A few days later I sent a playful message like “are you still alive” She replied and then called me. On that call, she explained that her mom had seen her talking late at night, asked questions, grounded her, and took her phone. She also said she went on a family trip. But she mentioned she had her laptop, and she has WhatsApp on it, so I was a little confused why she couldn’t reply at all.

That call again became mostly sexual. She asked about that night, what we wanted to do next, whether I knew any makeout spots nearby, whether I could come to her place when her parents weren’t home, whether she could come to mine, etc. I asked a few times if she wanted to also meet normally, like just take a walk, get coffee/food, hang out without sexual stuff. She didn’t really answer clearly. We did talk about one or two normal things as well though. Toward the end, I said I had a serious question and started asking whether she wanted to meet normally too or only for sexual stuff. Before I could fully ask it, she cut the call and messaged “wait.” That was the last proper thing she said.

I called her Monday morning, she didn't pick up. Sent one more casual message Tuesday. Then noticed her profile photo disappeared and my message stayed on one tick. Checked the encryption verification and it said "please verify another way." Pretty sure she blocked me.

The whole thing lasted two weeks. The pre-date chatting was incredible, music, books, life stuff, deep conversations, real connection. Post-date it shifted almost entirely to sexual. Every time I nudged toward something more real she deflected or disappeared.

One more thing that confused me: on the last call, she herself brought up whether I was still talking to other girls or still using dating apps. I told her I wasn’t talking to anyone else, and she said she had deleted the dating app after we moved to WhatsApp. She also said she wasn’t romantically talking to anyone else or her exes. So that made me feel like she was at least somewhat invested/possessive, which makes the later disappearing/blocking even harder to understand.

I’m confused because before the date she seemed genuinely into me, not just sexually. We had a lot in common and she was the one initiating a lot of the future-ish/flirty stuff. Even after the date, she said she liked it and wanted to make it up to me next time. But then her behavior became hot/cold, mostly sexual (which again, I would love being just fwbs but I needed to know if we would only limit it to that or have something more), and avoidant whenever I tried to ask for clarity or a normal hangout.

What happened here? Did I do something? And how do you get over someone you only knew for two weeks but felt more connected to than anyone you've met before? I'm wondering if she might unblock me after some time (she will be out of town on vacation for a couple of weeks) and contact again?

I guess I just would have liked to know why she blocked me, whatever the reason may have been, atleast there would be some closure. I know it sounds desperate, but I've been thinking about SMS-ing her, maybe after she returns from her trip after a couple of weeks, asking for clarity, assuming I'm not blocked there as well. I guess the worst part is that I haven't been able to stop thinking about this, for the last few days, my mind has been going back to our texts, calls, the date all the time. I know I probably sound crazy writing out an entire essay over just one date but it's just been bugging more than I would have liked.

Also since many people might ask, yes she is 20 actually, is some years into college which is very close to mine and I checked her professional profiles as well to verify, and she wouldn't be able to book the room if not. I think the phone confiscation thing could be explained by us being in a different country with a different culture compared to the US

TL;DR: Matched with a girl on Bumble, had an intense two-week connection and a very physical first date where we didn’t have sex because we had no protection. Afterward she became hot-cold, mostly sexual, avoided clarity when I asked if she wanted normal dating vs FWB, and now seems to have blocked me. Confused whether I did something wrong or should just move on.

So I (21M) matched with a girl (20F) on Bumble about two weeks ago. We switched to WhatsApp pretty quickly and immediately had this insane connection. Same music taste, same interests, same sense of humour, lived literally 2km apart, colleges 300 meters from each other. We talked non-stop for days, had a 2 hour phone call, and it just felt weirdly rare.

For about a week before meeting, she was very active. She replied quickly, initiated conversations, called me cute, said she liked my calm energy, said things like “we need to meet soon,” “where were you all this time,” “I want you to myself,” etc. The chemistry seemed mutual.

She suggested a pretty intense first date plan early on. She had a one-night hotel stay from some competition/prize and suggested we meet, have dinner, and maybe go to the room after. I was initially suspicious, but I was curious too. We planned dinner at a mall and then maybe, just maybe, going to the room for a bit.

On the actual date, we met, walked around, did some shopping/exploring, had dinner, vibed really well in person too. Then we went back to her room. Things got physical. This was my first time doing anything sexual, while she had previous experience. We didn’t have sex because we didn’t have protection and I didn’t want to do anything risky, even though in the moment she was very into it and wanted to go further. I kept that boundary and we stopped before sex. She seemed to enjoy it a lot and was very physically into me. I enjoyed it too, of course. When I was leaving she literally pulled me back at the doorway. Also sidenote, I'm not very attractive either. I'm a pretty average looking guy, not tall, not very muscular or anything like that.

After I left, we texted a little. The next day, she asked how it was for me, said she liked it, apologized a lot for sending me away quickly afterward, and said she’d make it up to me next time, we discussed meeting again at her place.

Before the date she was fast, active, playful, and initiated a lot. After the date, she started replying very slowly or disappearing. On Monday night we had another call, mostly sexual again, and when I tried to ask what she was looking for, casual, relationship, etc, she gave a vague answer like if we vibe/connect deeply then maybe relationship. Later, when I asked why she was so unresponsive that day, the call suddenly cut and she texted “wait, my mom is here.” After that she didn’t continue.

I messaged the next day asking about something she had mentioned, whether she ended up going on a family trip. No reply for a day. Eventually she came back saying sorry, her mom took her phone and she wasn’t active. I replied casually, but then again she didn’t continue the conversation.

A few days later I sent a playful message like “are you still alive” She replied and then called me. On that call, she explained that her mom had seen her talking late at night, asked questions, grounded her, and took her phone. She also said she went on a family trip. But she mentioned she had her laptop, and she has WhatsApp on it, so I was a little confused why she couldn’t reply at all.

That call again became mostly sexual. She asked about that night, what we wanted to do next, whether I knew any makeout spots nearby, whether I could come to her place when her parents weren’t home, whether she could come to mine, etc. I asked a few times if she wanted to also meet normally, like just take a walk, get coffee/food, hang out without sexual stuff. She didn’t really answer clearly. We did talk about one or two normal things as well though. Toward the end, I said I had a serious question and started asking whether she wanted to meet normally too or only for sexual stuff. Before I could fully ask it, she cut the call and messaged “wait.” That was the last proper thing she said.

I called her Monday morning, she didn't pick up. Sent one more casual message Tuesday. Then noticed her profile photo disappeared and my message stayed on one tick. Checked the encryption verification and it said "please verify another way." Pretty sure she blocked me.

The whole thing lasted two weeks. The pre-date chatting was incredible, music, books, life stuff, deep conversations, real connection. Post-date it shifted almost entirely to sexual. Every time I nudged toward something more real she deflected or disappeared.

One more thing that confused me: on the last call, she herself brought up whether I was still talking to other girls or still using dating apps. I told her I wasn’t talking to anyone else, and she said she had deleted the dating app after we moved to WhatsApp. She also said she wasn’t romantically talking to anyone else or her exes. So that made me feel like she was at least somewhat invested/possessive, which makes the later disappearing/blocking even harder to understand.

I’m confused because before the date she seemed genuinely into me, not just sexually. We had a lot in common and she was the one initiating a lot of the future-ish/flirty stuff. Even after the date, she said she liked it and wanted to make it up to me next time. But then her behavior became hot/cold, mostly sexual (which again, I didn't mind but I needed to know if we would only limit it to that or have something more), and avoidant whenever I tried to ask for clarity or a normal hangout.

What happened here? Did I do something? And how do you get over someone you only knew for two weeks but felt more connected to than anyone you've met before? I'm wondering if she might unblock me after some time (she will be out of town on vacation for a couple of weeks) and contact again?

So I (21M) matched with a girl (20F) on Bumble about two weeks ago. We switched to WhatsApp pretty quickly and immediately had this insane connection. Same music taste, same interests, same sense of humour, lived literally 2km apart, colleges 300 meters from each other. We talked non-stop for days, had a 2 hour phone call, and it just felt weirdly rare.

For about a week before meeting, she was very active. She replied quickly, initiated conversations, called me cute, said she liked my calm energy, said things like “we need to meet soon,” “where were you all this time,” “I want you to myself,” etc. The chemistry seemed mutual.

She suggested a pretty intense first date plan early on. She had a one-night hotel stay from some competition/prize and suggested we meet, have dinner, and maybe go to the room after. I was initially suspicious, but I was curious too. We planned dinner at a mall and then maybe, just maybe, going to the room for a bit.

On the actual date, we met, walked around, did some shopping/exploring, had dinner, vibed really well in person too. Then we went back to her room. Things got physical. This was my first time doing anything sexual, while she had previous experience. We didn’t have sex because we didn’t have protection and I didn’t want to do anything risky, even though in the moment she was very into it and wanted to go further. I kept that boundary and we stopped before sex. She seemed to enjoy it a lot and was very physically into me. When I was leaving she literally pulled me back at the doorway. Also sidenote, I'm not very attractive either. I'm a pretty average looking guy, not tall, not very muscular or anything like that.

After I left, we texted a little. The next day, she asked how it was for me, said she liked it, apologized a lot for sending me away quickly afterward, and said she’d make it up to me next time, we discussed meeting again at her place.

Before the date she was fast, active, playful, and initiated a lot. After the date, she started replying very slowly or disappearing. On Monday night we had another call, mostly sexual again, and when I tried to ask what she was looking for, casual, relationship, etc, she gave a vague answer like if we vibe/connect deeply then maybe relationship. Later, when I asked why she was so unresponsive that day, the call suddenly cut and she texted “wait, my mom is here.” After that she didn’t continue.

I messaged the next day asking about something she had mentioned, whether she ended up going on a family trip. No reply for a day. Eventually she came back saying sorry, her mom took her phone and she wasn’t active. I replied casually, but then again she didn’t continue the conversation.

A few days later I sent a playful message like “are you still alive” She replied and then called me. On that call, she explained that her mom had seen her talking late at night, asked questions, grounded her, and took her phone. She also said she went on a family trip. But she mentioned she had her laptop, and she has WhatsApp on it, so I was a little confused why she couldn’t reply at all.

That call again became mostly sexual. She asked about that night, what we wanted to do next, whether I knew any makeout spots nearby, whether I could come to her place when her parents weren’t home, whether she could come to mine, etc. I asked a few times if she wanted to also meet normally, like just take a walk, get coffee/food, hang out without sexual stuff. She didn’t really answer clearly. We did talk about one or two normal things as well though. Toward the end, I said I had a serious question and started asking whether she wanted to meet normally too or only for sexual stuff. Before I could fully ask it, she cut the call and messaged “wait.” That was the last proper thing she said.

I called her Monday morning, she didn't pick up. Sent one more casual message Tuesday. Then noticed her profile photo disappeared and my message stayed on one tick. Checked the encryption verification and it said "please verify another way." Pretty sure she blocked me.

The whole thing lasted two weeks. The pre-date chatting was incredible, music, books, life stuff, deep conversations, real connection. Post-date it shifted almost entirely to sexual. Every time I nudged toward something more real she deflected or disappeared.

I’m confused because before the date she seemed genuinely into me, not just sexually. We had a lot in common and she was the one initiating a lot of the future-ish/flirty stuff. Even after the date, she said she liked it and wanted to make it up to me next time. But then her behavior became hot/cold, mostly sexual, and avoidant whenever I tried to ask for clarity or a normal hangout.

What happened here? Did I do something wrong? And how do you get over someone you only knew for two weeks but felt more connected to than anyone you've met before?