u/Mammoth-Elk1469

I (29F) met a guy (31M) in Paris — we had a great date, spent about 6:30pm to 1am together, and kissed. Since then, we’ve been texting daily.

I’m traveling to Portugal in a few weeks, and he wants to come see me for two nights. I already have a hotel booked, and he hasn’t said where he plans to stay.

I like him, but we’ve only met once, so I’d feel more comfortable if we each had our own place to start.

From a guy’s perspective, is that a reasonable boundary? How would you interpret it?

I 29/F met a guy 31/M in Paris — we had a great date and have been texting daily since. We have been together for 2 weeks.

I’m traveling to Portugal in a few weeks, and he wants to come see me for two nights.

I already have a hotel booked, and he hasn’t said where he plans to stay. I like him, but we’ve only met once, and I’m not totally comfortable with him staying in my room right away.

I’m happy to spend time together (and open to more if it feels right), I just think having separate places to stay at first makes more sense.

Is that a reasonable boundary?

I met someone in Paris and we had a really great date - we spent the entire evening together and ended up spending time together until around 1 a.m. We only kissed. Since then, we’ve been texting every day.

I’m going on a solo trip in Portugal in three weeks, and he wants to come meet me for two nights. He hasn’t explicitly said what his plan is for where he would stay, but I already have a hotel booked for myself.

Here’s where I’m unsure: I’ve only met him once, and while I like him, I don’t feel fully comfortable having him stay in my room. At the same time, he is coming to see me and I don’t want to come across as cold, especially since things have been going well. In addition, I know that costs will add up for him on this trip.

Is it unreasonable to draw that boundary? And how would you phrase it in a way that feels clear but still warm?

For context, I’m not opposed to spending time together at all — I just feel like having separate places to stay might be the right move at this stage.

Curious how others would handle this. Thank you!