u/Low_Practice5314

How do you start trusting yourself again after failing yourself too many times?

I feel stuck in this weird cycle where I really want to create something and build something I’m proud of, but at the same time I barely trust myself enough to even start anymore.

I get ideas constantly. Sometimes it’s for games, YouTube videos, coding projects, art, or just random things I think could actually become something good. At first I get super motivated and I think “this time I’m actually going to do it.” I plan everything out in my head, watch videos about it, think about the future of it, and for a moment it feels real.

Then after a few days the motivation disappears and I stop. Not because I suddenly hate the idea, but because deep down I already expect myself to quit anyway. And the worst part is that it has happened so many times that I don’t even fully believe myself anymore when I say I’m going to do something.

It feels like I’ve disappointed myself too many times. Every unfinished project just keeps adding to it. Now whenever I try to start something new, there’s this voice in the back of my head saying “you’re probably just going to abandon this too.” So instead of putting real effort into things, I almost hold myself back automatically because failing again would feel worse.

I think part of the problem is also that I spend more time thinking about creating than actually creating. I imagine the end result, the success, the feeling of finally making something good, but when it comes to the boring or difficult parts, I lose all energy instantly.

The annoying thing is that I still care a lot. If I truly didn’t care, this wouldn’t bother me this much. I still want to make something real and prove to myself that I can finish something. I just don’t know how to stop feeling like my own biggest disappointment.

Has anyone else dealt with this before? How do you rebuild trust in yourself after constantly quitting things or letting yourself down?

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u/Low_Practice5314 — 1 day ago

How do you start trusting yourself again after failing yourself too many times?

I feel stuck in this weird cycle where I really want to create something and build something I’m proud of, but at the same time I barely trust myself enough to even start anymore.

I get ideas constantly. Sometimes it’s for games, YouTube videos, coding projects, art, or just random things I think could actually become something good. At first I get super motivated and I think “this time I’m actually going to do it.” I plan everything out in my head, watch videos about it, think about the future of it, and for a moment it feels real.

Then after a few days the motivation disappears and I stop. Not because I suddenly hate the idea, but because deep down I already expect myself to quit anyway. And the worst part is that it has happened so many times that I don’t even fully believe myself anymore when I say I’m going to do something.

It feels like I’ve disappointed myself too many times. Every unfinished project just keeps adding to it. Now whenever I try to start something new, there’s this voice in the back of my head saying “you’re probably just going to abandon this too.” So instead of putting real effort into things, I almost hold myself back automatically because failing again would feel worse.

I think part of the problem is also that I spend more time thinking about creating than actually creating. I imagine the end result, the success, the feeling of finally making something good, but when it comes to the boring or difficult parts, I lose all energy instantly.

The annoying thing is that I still care a lot. If I truly didn’t care, this wouldn’t bother me this much. I still want to make something real and prove to myself that I can finish something. I just don’t know how to stop feeling like my own biggest disappointment.

Has anyone else dealt with this before? How do you rebuild trust in yourself after constantly quitting things or letting yourself down?

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u/Low_Practice5314 — 1 day ago

How do you start trusting yourself again after failing yourself too many times?

I feel stuck in this weird cycle where I really want to create something and build something I’m proud of, but at the same time I barely trust myself enough to even start anymore.

I get ideas constantly. Sometimes it’s for games, YouTube videos, coding projects, art, or just random things I think could actually become something good. At first I get super motivated and I think “this time I’m actually going to do it.” I plan everything out in my head, watch videos about it, think about the future of it, and for a moment it feels real.

Then after a few days the motivation disappears and I stop. Not because I suddenly hate the idea, but because deep down I already expect myself to quit anyway. And the worst part is that it has happened so many times that I don’t even fully believe myself anymore when I say I’m going to do something.

It feels like I’ve disappointed myself too many times. Every unfinished project just keeps adding to it. Now whenever I try to start something new, there’s this voice in the back of my head saying “you’re probably just going to abandon this too.” So instead of putting real effort into things, I almost hold myself back automatically because failing again would feel worse.

I think part of the problem is also that I spend more time thinking about creating than actually creating. I imagine the end result, the success, the feeling of finally making something good, but when it comes to the boring or difficult parts, I lose all energy instantly.

The annoying thing is that I still care a lot. If I truly didn’t care, this wouldn’t bother me this much. I still want to make something real and prove to myself that I can finish something. I just don’t know how to stop feeling like my own biggest disappointment.

Has anyone else dealt with this before? How do you rebuild trust in yourself after constantly quitting things or letting yourself down?

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u/Low_Practice5314 — 1 day ago

How do you start trusting yourself again after failing yourself too many times?

I feel stuck in this weird cycle where I really want to create something and build something I’m proud of, but at the same time I barely trust myself enough to even start anymore.

I get ideas constantly. Sometimes it’s for games, YouTube videos, coding projects, art, or just random things I think could actually become something good. At first I get super motivated and I think “this time I’m actually going to do it.” I plan everything out in my head, watch videos about it, think about the future of it, and for a moment it feels real.

Then after a few days the motivation disappears and I stop. Not because I suddenly hate the idea, but because deep down I already expect myself to quit anyway. And the worst part is that it has happened so many times that I don’t even fully believe myself anymore when I say I’m going to do something.

It feels like I’ve disappointed myself too many times. Every unfinished project just keeps adding to it. Now whenever I try to start something new, there’s this voice in the back of my head saying “you’re probably just going to abandon this too.” So instead of putting real effort into things, I almost hold myself back automatically because failing again would feel worse.

I think part of the problem is also that I spend more time thinking about creating than actually creating. I imagine the end result, the success, the feeling of finally making something good, but when it comes to the boring or difficult parts, I lose all energy instantly.

The annoying thing is that I still care a lot. If I truly didn’t care, this wouldn’t bother me this much. I still want to make something real and prove to myself that I can finish something. I just don’t know how to stop feeling like my own biggest disappointment.

Has anyone else dealt with this before? How do you rebuild trust in yourself after constantly quitting things or letting yourself down?

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u/Low_Practice5314 — 1 day ago

how to deal with losing a friend and being alone now?

I am 16 years old and since kindergarden I basically had one best friend who was there all my life. We did alot together, gamed almost everyday and he was a big part of my life for like 10+ years.

But around 2 months ago things slowly changed. We started talking less, gaming less, and I still tried asking if he wanted to play but most of the time I got no answer or just a “no”. Then I would see him online playing with others anyway. After a while I just stopped asking.

Now its basically just silence. We havent really talked in over a month and I dont really understand how something that lasted so long can just kinda fade out like that.

The hard part is he was pretty much my only real close friend outside school. I have people at school but not really anyone I hang out with outside of that. So now I’m just alone alot more and it’s kinda getting harder instead of easier. Especially evenings feel empty becaus gaming together was like the main thing I looked forward to.

There was no fight or anything, it just slowly disappeared and that’s what makes it weird to deal with. Part of me still misses it but another part feels kinda replaced or just left behind without any real explanation.

I know I’m still young but it honestly feels like I lost a big part of my life.

So yeah, how do you get used to being alone after something like this? And how do you move on when there was never really any closure?

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u/Low_Practice5314 — 5 days ago

how to deal with a friend lose and being alone now?

I am 16 years old and since kindergarden I basically had one best friend who was there all my life. We did alot together, gamed almost everyday and he was a big part of my life for like 10+ years.

But around 2 months ago things slowly changed. We started talking less, gaming less, and I still tried asking if he wanted to play but most of the time I got no answer or just a “no”. Then I would see him online playing with others anyway. After a while I just stopped asking.

Now its basically just silence. We havent really talked in over a month and I dont really understand how something that lasted so long can just kinda fade out like that.

The hard part is he was pretty much my only real close friend outside school. I have people at school but not really anyone I hang out with outside of that. So now I’m just alone alot more and it’s kinda getting harder instead of easier. Especially evenings feel empty becaus gaming together was like the main thing I looked forward to.

There was no fight or anything, it just slowly disappeared and that’s what makes it weird to deal with. Part of me still misses it but another part feels kinda replaced or just left behind without any real explanation.

I know I’m still young but it honestly feels like I lost a big part of my life.

So yeah, how do you get used to being alone after something like this? And how do you move on when there was never really any closure?

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u/Low_Practice5314 — 5 days ago

How can I learn to be comfortable alone.

I am 16 years old and since kindergarden I basically had one best friend who was there all my life. We did alot together, gamed almost everyday and he was a big part of my life for like 10+ years.

But around 2 months ago things slowly changed. We started talking less, gaming less, and I still tried asking if he wanted to play but most of the time I got no answer or just a “no”. Then I would see him online playing with others anyway. After a while I just stopped asking.

Now its basically just silence. We havent really talked in over a month and I dont really understand how something that lasted so long can just kinda fade out like that.

The hard part is he was pretty much my only real close friend outside school. I have people at school but not really anyone I hang out with outside of that. So now I’m just alone alot more and it’s kinda getting harder instead of easier. Especially evenings feel empty becaus gaming together was like the main thing I looked forward to.

There was no fight or anything, it just slowly disappeared and that’s what makes it weird to deal with. Part of me still misses it but another part feels kinda replaced or just left behind without any real explanation.

I know I’m still young but it honestly feels like I lost a big part of my life.

So yeah, how do you get used to being alone after something like this? And how do you move on when there was never really any closure?

reddit.com
u/Low_Practice5314 — 5 days ago