Salut !
Tout est dans le titre, vous arrive t'il d'accepter un date avec quelqu'un tout en sachant que cette personne ne vous intéresse pas ? Si oui pour quel raison ?
Merci d'avance !
Hello everyone, I’m sharing my story here in the hope that some of you might understand what’s going on.
About two months ago, I noticed that a coworker who isn’t in the same department as me was often glancing at me and striking up conversations when I ran into her in the hallways. After a while, I finally asked for her number so we could go out for a drink together. She agreed, but when I texted her to suggest we meet up, she replied that she had no time this week without offering another moment where she could. I realized I must have read interest when she was just being friendly, and forgot about it.
A few weeks later, she texted me to invite me out for a drink with some of her coworkers. I didnt take it as a date at all (obviously, there are other coworkers involved), but it seemed fun so I agreed. I had a fun evening but nothing particular happened
We did this several times until last week, when she once again invited me to join them, but this time she seemed more interested in me : There was a friend sitting between her and me, and she kept looking at me for most of the evening. She said she planned to drink a lot that night and that it was a shame I couldn’t stay, even asking if there was any way I could stay there. Also when her friend got up to go to the bathroom—she took her spot next to me and turned toward me (we were sitting on a bench) with her hand near my leg, and she started telling me some pretty personal stuff about herself, saying she’d tell me more once she’d had a few more drinks. When her friend came back she didn't take back her spot next to me but instead left her to her.
Around 9 p.m., I finally had to leave and went to meet up with friends elsewhere. Around 2 a.m., I got a text from her asking if I’d made it home okay (which she’d never done before). I replied briefly, saying yes, and asked if she’d made it home okay too.
I didn’t got a reply until the next morning, when she told me, “Oops, I got home around 1 a.m.—I drank a bit too much 😅”
I interpreted that as a way of saying, “Don’t take my behavior from yesterday as a come-on,” so I simply told her "all right"
I haven’t seen her since, but I’d like to understand this behavior that I don’t quite get. At first, I thought she’d just had too much to drink, but she hadn’t had much to drink before I left. If you have any thoughts on the situation, I’d love to hear them, as I dont really know what do now now, especially since she avoided my first offer to go on a date
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Hello everyone, I’m sharing my story here in the hope that some of you might understand what’s going on.
About two months ago, I noticed that a coworker who isn’t in the same department as me was often glancing at me and striking up conversations when I ran into her in the hallways. After a while, I finally asked for her number so we could go out for a drink together. She agreed, but when I texted her to suggest we meet up, she replied that she had no time this week without offering another moment where she could. I realized I must have read interest when she was just being friendly, and forgot about it.
A few weeks later, she texted me to invite me out for a drink with some of her coworkers. I didnt take it as a date at all (obviously, there are other coworkers involved), but it seemed fun so I agreed. I had a fun evening but nothing particular happened
We did this several times until last week, when she once again invited me to join them, but this time she seemed more interested in me : There was a friend sitting between her and me, and she kept looking at me for most of the evening. She said she planned to drink a lot that night and that it was a shame I couldn’t stay, even asking if there was any way I could stay there. Also when her friend got up to go to the bathroom—she took her spot next to me and turned toward me (we were sitting on a bench) with her hand near my leg, and she started telling me some pretty personal stuff about herself, saying she’d tell me more once she’d had a few more drinks. When her friend came back she didn't take back her spot next to me but instead left her to her.
Around 9 p.m., I finally had to leave and went to meet up with friends elsewhere. Around 2 a.m., I got a text from her asking if I’d made it home okay (which she’d never done before). I replied briefly, saying yes, and asked if she’d made it home okay too.
I didn’t got a reply until the next morning, when she told me, “Oops, I got home around 1 a.m.—I drank a bit too much 😅”
I interpreted that as a way of saying, “Don’t take my behavior from yesterday as a come-on,” so I simply told her "all right"
I haven’t seen her since, but I’d like to understand this behavior that I don’t quite get. At first, I thought she’d just had too much to drink, but she hadn’t had much to drink before I left. If you have any thoughts on the situation, I’d love to hear them, as I dont really know what do now now, especially since she avoided my first offer to go on a date
Bonjour tout le monde, je me permets de venir raconter mon histoire ici en espérant que certains/certaines comprennent ce qu'il se passe.
Il y a a peu près 2 mois, je constate qu'une collègue de travail qui n'est pas au même service que moi me lance souvent des regards, initie la conversation quand je la croise dans les couloirs, au bout d'un certain temps je fini par lui demander son numéro pour qu'on aille boire un verre ensemble, elle accepte mais quand je lui écrit pour lui proposer qu'on se voit elle évite et je comprends que j'ai du voir de l'intérêt là ou il n'y en avait pas et je lâche l'affaire.
Quelques semaines plus tard elle m'écrit pour me proposer d'aller boire un verre avec des collègues à elle, je ne prends pas du tout ça pour un date (évidemment y a des collègues) mais je trouve l'offre sympa et j'accepte, je passe une soirée sympa ou il ne se passe rien de plus.
On refait ça plusieurs fois jusqu'à la semaine dernière, ou encore une fois elle me propose de venir avec eux mais elle est beaucoup plus "avenante" : J'ai une pote entre elle et moi et elle me regarde une bonne partie de la soirée, elle dit qu'elle compte bien boire ce soir et que c'est dommage que je puisse pas rester, demandant même si y a pas moyen que je reste ici, et pour moi le plus flagrant dans la soirée, quand ma pote se lève pour aller au toilette elle prend sa place et se tourne vers moi (on etait assis sur un banc) avec sa main près de ma jambe et me parle de trucs un peu perso sur elle en me disant qu'elle m'en dira plus quand elle aura un peu plus bu.
Vers 21h je fini par devoir y aller et je pars rejoindre des potes ailleurs, vers 2h du matin je reçois un message d'elle demandant si je suis bien rentré (ce qu'elle n'a jamais fait avant), je reponds succintement en lui demandant que oui et je lui demande si elle aussi est bien rentrée. Je ne reçois pas de réponse avant le lendemain ou elle me dit "Oups le bien rentré à 1h, j'avais un peu bu 😅" Dans ma tête j'interprète ça comme une façon de dire "Ne prends pas mon comportement de hier comme des avances" et du coup je lui répond sobrement en lui disant que y a aucun soucis.
Je ne l'ai pas revue depuis mais j'aurai aimé comprendre ce comportement que je ne cernes pas trop, à la base je me disais qu'elle avait juste trop bu mais elle avait pas beaucoup bu avant que je parte, si vous avez des avis sur la situation je suis bien preneur 😄