how do i f 16 gain freedom?
im f16 and 17 in 2 months and I haven’t been allowed to go out with my friends since I was 13 after being caught with a bf who i broke up with years ago.
For context I have good grades and I never get into any trouble unless its an argument about wanting to go out
a couple of weeks ago me and my friends made plans and i let my mom know a week ahead and she agreed to let me go and the day comes and im all ready and my dad says I can’t just decide to go out whenever I want and i’m just a child, i tell him my mom already said i could and begged to let me go this once (my friend lives down the road from us and we will be at a nearby park 5 mins walk) and he explode on me and read all my texts with her even the ones me tell her my private feelings with situations and begged him not to read that and allow me my privacy and he said I don’t deserve privacy as a child and went through my phone
We had a massive argument and my mom didn’t even tell him she already allowed me she just blamed me for arguing back at him and this is the first time ive actually asked to go out in years due to the fear of rejection and it turned out the worst way possible and he treated me like I had done this awful thing by just wanting to experience life and he said I don’t need to go out when I see them at school
(the next day he apparently cried to my mom that i’m not speaking to him and then she blamed me for hurting his feelings and gave me a 2 hr lecture on how i should be more considerate of his feelings)
Im gonna be an adult next year and they still wont let me do anything, Im not stupid enough to make dangerous situations so they are just worried for no reason I really just wanna go to a mall or something with my friends and have fun but everytime I ask it gets a worse response