u/Last-Blueberry-3891

I don't want to be involved with my mom's care anymore. After growing up with her drinking and neglect, she expects me to help her doctor shop and let her see my son. She's in a long-term care home where they take care of her medical care and medication, but she insists that I should be taking her to other doctors. Finding doctors and pain medication has been the only thing she has cared about for most of my life. All I am to her is someone to manipulate into meeting her needs. I have refused to take her to doctors unless approved by her house doctor, but she still pushes.

Has anyone here been in a similar situation? I want to just walk away, but it makes me feel like a horrible person.

For as long as I have known him, my FIL has expected everything to go his way. To the point that he even threatened to not go to his own son's (my husband's) wedding because he said the date didn't work for him.

It was somewhat manageable before my son was born, but now it's gotten worse. When I was 7 months postpartum and really struggling with sleep deprivation and postpartum anxiety, he sent me and my husband emails berating us for forgetting to send a card for his wife's 70th birthday. He made no attempt to stop and think about the fact that my husband and I were taking care of a baby.

He is always annoyed with our son, now 9, for acting like a normal child. He expects his grandson to sit quietly at meals and in the car and say thank you at every turn to everyone. Needless to say, he's damaging his relationship with his grandson.

I know this is his problem (we don't have a single other grandparent who expects a kid to act like an adult), but I still take it personally. This is along with him making passive aggressive comments about everyone to their faces.

At this point, I don't know how to stop stressing out about his responses. I think about past interactions with him almost every day even if we haven't seen him in a while. If anyone has any advice, I would greatly appreciate it.