Hey all! I’m 31 from US. I enjoy being outside and any type of sports, I do a lot of golfing and watching TV shows.
Looking for someone to chat with and just make the days go by quicker, going through a divorce currently and living in a city I know no one but her family. So if you need anyone to chat with hit me up I’m open to talk with anyone!
Me and my wife are not in a good place, I think I realized too late what I had and now it’s about to be lost.
All I want to do it text her and reach out but she asked for space (we still live together) so it’s been so hard to not want to talk to her or be by her.
She said she needs space to think if this is what she wants. But I think she already knows what she wants and is just keeping me around until I can finished my contracted job
Me and my wife have had problems for years - she says it’s mostly on me and I wouldn’t disagree. A few of the big ones she said are: lack of communication skills, I tend to shut down instead of talking to her, overlooking her feelings, not showing her love in ways that she wants, using intimacy as a way for her to show me love. Those are a few of the main ones.
She recently asked for space to figure out what she wants and says she’s unsure if she can forget the past and move on from it. We have done two couples therapy sessions and have another planned this week that I don’t know if we are even going to attempt to go to. I have done one therapy session on my own that I truly felt was a benefit to me, as well as reading books on how to improve our marriage. I am trying my best to make the change to be a better person.
I am fine with giving her space that she needs, it’s tough but I am trying. Where it gets more difficult is that we currently have to live together due to my family not living close and work holding me here. I get done with my contracted hours at the end of the month and have a 2nd job lined up to work on and build but if in the next 3 weeks she decides that she doesn’t want this anymore I would have to pack up and move 6 hours away to be with family and then have to scramble to find a job around there. Which is my biggest issue, I don’t have the extra funds or capability to have to spend time off work without pay. When I try to explain that to her all she says is she’s not sure right now…
Any advice on how I can process this?