u/Kiwi-Dense

So I (31m) met this guy (39m) around June/August of last year. He was very handsome, we tried talking and he was very non-committal/flaky and ending up not talking or going out, but we remained friends on social media.

One day, he posted about having job openings at the place he works and I applied. My experience was more than enough for the job and within three days I went through all the necessary interviews and got hired. I’ve been working along side him for about 7 almost 8 months now. We’ve hung out outside of work ie drag bingo and food. I’ve heard him talk about the guys he’s seen and the lore that follows him.

He could very clearly be categorized as a player and someone who just messes around with people. But I see so much more than that with him. We went to drag bingo on Wednesday and we hugged good bye. But, it was a lingering hug. It lasted like 5 minutes. Then he texted me about how he didn’t want to let go and that he wanted to keep me warm.

Last night, we went out to Mexican and then caught a drag show. The same thing happened only this time we made out for two hours in the parking lot and he told me that he just couldn’t hold back what he was feeling for me anymore. He said that he’s felt this way for a while but has been fighting it off because he’s been more closed off after his divorce a few years ago which is why he doesn’t get close to people.

I’m just not sure what to think or do. I would love to see where things go with him, but I’m also scared of getting hurt. I’m sure there’s more context that I could add, and there is the ethics of him being my boss, but I did know him before. I just need some good advice, because it felt so right and I don’t want to become some crazy in love guy for someone who is just gonna hurt me. Any thoughts?

So I met this guy around June/August of last year. He was very handsome, we tried talking and he was very non-committal and ending up not talking, but we remained friends on social media.

One day, he posted about having job openings at the place he works and I applied. My experience was more than enough for the job and within three days I went through all the necessary interviews and got hired. I’ve been working along side him for about 7 almost 8 months now. We’ve hung out outside of work ie drag bingo and food. I’ve heard him talk about the guys he’s seen and the lore that follows him.

He could very clearly be categorized as a player and someone who just messes around with people. But I see so much more than that with him. We went to drag bingo on Wednesday and we hugged good bye. But, it was a lingering hug. It lasted like 5 minutes. Then he texted me about how he didn’t want to let go and that he wanted to keep me warm.

Last night, we went out to Mexican and then caught a drag show. The same thing happened only this time we made out for two hours in the parking lot and he told me that he just couldn’t hold back what he was feeling for me anymore. He said that he’s felt this way for a while but has been fighting it off because he’s been more closed off after his divorce a few years ago which is why he doesn’t get close to people.

I’m just not sure what to think or do. I would love to see where things go with him, but I’m also scared of getting hurt. I’m sure there’s more context that I could add, and there is the ethics of him being my boss, but I did know him before. I just need some good advice, because it felt so right and I don’t want to become some crazy in love guy for someone who is just gonna hurt me. Any thoughts?

So I met this guy around June/August of last year. He was very handsome, we tried talking and he was very non-committal and ending up not talking, but we remained friends on social media.

One day, he posted about having job openings at the place he works and I applied. My experience was more than enough for the job and within three days I went through all the necessary interviews and got hired. I’ve been working along side him for about 7 almost 8 months now. We’ve hung out outside of work ie drag bingo and food. I’ve heard him talk about the guys he’s seen and the lore that follows him.

He could very clearly be categorized as a player and someone who just messes around with people. But I see so much more than that with him. We went to drag bingo on Wednesday and we hugged good bye. But, it was a lingering hug. It lasted like 5 minutes. Then he texted me about how he didn’t want to let go and that he wanted to keep me warm.

Last night, we went out to Mexican and then caught a drag show. The same thing happened only this time we made out for two hours in the parking lot and he told me that he just couldn’t hold back what he was feeling for me anymore. He said that he’s felt this way for a while but has been fighting it off because he’s been more closed off after his divorce a few years ago which is why he doesn’t get close to people.

I’m just not sure what to think or do. I would love to see where things go with him, but I’m also scared of getting hurt. I’m sure there’s more context that I could add, and there is the ethics of him being my boss, but I did know him before. I just need some good advice, because it felt so right and I don’t want to become some crazy in love guy for someone who is just gonna hurt me. Any thoughts?