u/Kaleidoscope_Tux5513

i used to be so smart and nice. got pulled out of public school by parents bc of their religion and i have such a hard time making friends and connections now.

i used to have a 4.6W/4.0UW gpa, now im about to graduate highschool with maybe a 4.2W/3.7UW, about to get my associates degree this fall, and no idea what to do next. subjects are so hard for me now when it used to be so easy. i feel like such an academic failure.

i haven't been able to hold a job longer than 6 months in a while. last job i got assaulted and taken off the schedule, that fucked me up so much. this one ive been so tired and haven't cared and i just got fired after ghosting my employer. it's all my fault. i have a new job starting monday and i feel like it'll be awful too. moreso I'LL be awful

i have no money, i don't come from any either. my parents think im a disappointment. im gay and my parents hate that and want to fix me

im so depressed and lost. i sh and i want to die sometimes. im so ugly and im a little overweight.

i get mean sometimes and im constantly bitter. i hate our country and evil evil men. they always hurt me. i hate the way people talk about women

im so scared. i feel like ill be nothing. i feel like everything i had the potential to be is hopeless now.

how do i make myself better ? how do i survive and feel better about my life

I was pulled out of school in middle school and homeschooled because my parents don't believe in "woke." They're very religious as was the homeschool environment I was in (to be clear, I am a non-religious leftist).

Ask me anything!

currently in community college, looking to transfer somewhere after i get my degree this fall. wondering if anyone knows anything about their teacher prep here? interested in the middle grades math education program

No real threat was made, and that was the only post wishing harm. She is a 17yo and she made the post about a 21yo man she works with after he harassed her. Her employer found her socials and terminated her employment. (This is fine, she had another job lined up because this place was abusive.)

She's worried about legal action. Would anything result from this? She's so young and doesn't want this to ruin future job/college. She's very scared right now.

registration for me opens tomorrow. im so close to finishing my degree and i NEED these classes. most are electives too with not many sections. am i cooked?

anytime i talk about it i get picked on and laughed at. recently made a post about it and i got a comment talking about my grammar instead (because i have autocaps off and my i's aren't capitalized) and it got so many upvotes, as did other comments that made fun of me. no one takes us seriously. if we go to the police nothing happens and when we don't people laugh and ask why not. im so tired i want to die

don't go to red robin all the food is awful

i worked there for over 6 months and they kept lying about my wage. hired some boy with NO experience, had me TRAIN him, and then paid him over 2 dollars more than they paid me

i was sexually assaulted by the shift leader ON SHIFT and when i reported it to my manager they TOOK ME OFF THE SCHEDULE

very traumatizing and bad experience there. food isn't even that good. plz don't go

Hey everyone! I posted here a few weeks back asking for encouragement and advice, and I'm following up to share my experience for anyone else who might need to hear an IUD experience that isn't terrible or scary.

For context, I'm 18, and I got my IUD a few weeks ago. I've struggled with paralyzing, nauseating periods since I got my period at 11. When I first went to the OBGYN (different from my current doctor), they dismissed me, and after changing doctors, my parents would allow me to go on any form of birth control. My periods only got worse, I had to call out or work, skip school, etc.

Finally, after talking with my OBGYN, we decided on Mirena. I'm very excited for this decision.

I'd seen nothing but people talking about how much it hurt. I was terrified. On top of that, I was going with my mother, and I had stick n poke tattoos I was nervous the doctor would mention. I reached out on here and got some good advice and words of reassurance, for which I am VERY grateful, because it calmed my nerves a whole lot.

The day of the procedure (before):

• Had film class at college an hour before
• Took misoprostol (prescribed) about halfway through the class (about 1.5 hours before my procedure)
• Started cramping pretty bad. Misoprostol hurts. Felt less bad than a typical period cramp, though. Not awful
• About an hour to 30mins before I was scheduled, I took 800mg of ibuprofen (prescribed)
• Got to the appointment and took a Xanax
• Tried my best to pee in the cup (it doesn't have to be a whole lot, I was worried about that but they don't need much)

Getting my IUD inserted

• Was called back, my doctor went over things and made sure I still wanted to get it, then my mother and the doctor left the room
• Got undressed (kept shirt/bra/socks on) and sat down, and put a sheet over my lap
• Very anxious at this point because I haven't really been exposed in front of anyone
• We got to it, got in the stirrups or whatever they're called, etc
• My doctor walked me through each step. She was very kind through my whole process and I adore her
• Speculum was a little uncomfortable but mostly just cold, didn't really hurt
• Attached these like, pinchers (tenaculum I think she called it), to my cervix. This was the first part that actually hurt, but it also wasn't terrible. Just a little pinch
• My doctor said she was measuring my cervix or whatever, but I wasn't told when she was measuring versus putting in my IUD, so I'm not sure what was what
• At first it hurt. Not super bad. Then there was this bigger pain, that made me jerk a little, mostly in surprise.
• The worst pain I felt during insertion felt like a really bad period cramp.
• It was not agonizing or excruciating for me, which I was very grateful for.

Immediately after:

• Did a vaginal ultrasound to make sure it was properly placed
• Put some peanut butter like stuff on my cervix
• My doctor gave me a pad, made sure I could sit up and stand, and left so I could get dressed
• (I made the mistake of wearing boxers to my appointment. Make sure you wear underwear you can use a pad with!)
• Got dressed and left
• Everything really ached but still, felt like terrible period cramps
• My mother checked out for me and talked to the receptionist while I ran out to the car

The day of (AFTER)

• I went home and basically changed into pajamas and sat around
• I was VERY miserable at this point, but it felt like I was on my period. It was no worse than what I usually experienced
• I ate zucchini boat tacos, drank a lot of water, and laid on the couch
• Make sure you have something you're looking forward to at home. Find something you can relax with. you WILL be on the couch / in bed a lot
• A little spotting, but no major bleeding
• I did NOT sleep that night
• I cried a LOT
• I had pain medicine prescribed for my shoulder, Meloxicam. I will admit, after I was clear from the ibu, I took this at around 3am-4am, as it was supposed to help with cramping
• Fell asleep (finally) around 5am to 6am
• Slept in a lot

The following days after

• The day after, I had zero cramping whatsoever. I felt pretty great
• Two days after, I had minimal cramping
• The following days and week, I had basically no cramping AT ALL
• It's been a month, I occasionally get some cramping that lasts up to a few hours, but it's very bearable
• I have not bled at all
• I have not had my period at all, and it's been due

That's been my experience so far. I am very excited to have gone through with this. I'm so happy to finally not have a week a month taken from me, curled up in pain and barely able to form coherent words. This is an amazing, life changing prodecure for me.

I just wanted to share in case anyone else is having fears or doubts, or needed to hear a positive experience. I know there's a lot of bad experiences out there, but I'm personally happy I didn't let it scare me away.

TL;DR - Insertion felt like a really bad period cramp. Only cramped afterwards for the first day, afterwards was a breeze. Positive experience