u/K_martin92

I feel like im a fairly active person. I work a manual labor job so have some muscle mass and i routinely get between 12k-18k steps in a day. The problem is i have been gaining weight the past 2 years due to my lack of self control with food.

I just love flavors so much. I dont snack as much throughout the day as i used too, but there is a common occurance where i go and eat because im bored at work (we get 1 hour lunch breaks) or i eat until i am beyond the point of full. If i go grocery shopping i will buy the whole store, even if its not something that sounds good in the moment. Or i will buy a full meal from the hot bar to eat in the car before i go home to make dinner.

I tried packing a lighter lunch at work, but i will finish eating that, and decide that i still want a quesadilla meal from taco bell.
I’ve tried leaving my debit cards at home, i will download a fast food app to order online because i have my card number memorized.
Atleast once or twice a week i eat to the point where i know im full, and i shovel more down my mouth to the point of almost throwing up.

Im 33 years old, 6’3 and i just passed 240lbs. I guess that was my number to scare me but im not sure how to control my eating habbits because i have a noticeable stomach now with hair loss rapidly happening the past few years.
Any advice former over eaters?

As the title says, me (33m) and my fiance (30f) have been together for 7 years and engaged for just under a year. Things have genuinely been fantastic, and with me being divorced once before when i was young and dumb i really thought she was the one.

About 2 months ago she had lost her job and started having a lot of free time at home. She was actively looking for work but also joined a large Discord server community to make friends and play games with in her free time. It turns out that server was run more with the intention to date / flirt than to actually socialize which she did not know when she joined.

Being one of 20ish females in an online group of 500 she naturally starting getting many messages very quickly. She had about 15 guys in her DM’s within a week or two and actively talked with most of them. I am also in the server and have played with some of the guys. Some are genuinely nice and cool, and others are very flirty which i do not mind as my fiance and i can also be flirts, she had just never crossed a line before. Well, one day when i was at work she had a 6 hour private voice call with one of the guys. Long story short they had phone sex.

Its been about a month since the incident and she has refused to stop talking to him. I talked to my therapist about the incident and i came to the conclusion i dont want to give her an ultimatum because i want it to be her choice and not forced to harbor resentment. It all came to a head again yesterday when i found out she had sent him $500 for his birthday and “for being there for her after losing her job” as he lives across the country and also doesnt have a job.

We start couples counceling on Monday, but she told me she needs a councelor who will explore and open relationship discussion because the idea of being married to one person scares her. She admitted that it was fun to have phone sex with a stranger and because she never had a “hoe phase” before her relationship with me she will always wonder what if.

Im upset, and i know reddit is going to tell me how easy it is to call off the engagement and leave her. But i love her. I have never wanted an open relationship. I want to be mono with her until the day i die. Im wondering if she really does want an open relationship, or if she just likes the attention and pro’s of being single while using me for the pro’s of a relationship.

As the title says, me (33m) and my fiance (30f) have been together for 7 years and engaged for just under a year. Things have genuinely been fantastic, and with me being divorced once before when i was young and dumb i really thought she was the one.

About 2 months ago she had lost her job and started having a lot of free time at home. She was actively looking for work but also joined a large Discord server community to make friends and play games with in her free time. It turns out that server was run more with the intention to date / flirt than to actually socialize which she did not know when she joined.

Being one of 20ish females in an online group of 500 she naturally starting getting many messages very quickly. She had about 15 guys in her DM’s within a week or two and actively talked with most of them. I am also in the server and have played with some of the guys. Some are genuinely nice and cool, and others are very flirty which i do not mind as my fiance and i can also be flirts, she had just never crossed a line before. Well, one day when i was at work she had a 6 hour private voice call with one of the guys. Long story short they had phone sex.

Its been about a month since the incident and she has refused to stop talking to him. I talked to my therapist about the incident and i came to the conclusion i dont want to give her an ultimatum because i want it to be her choice and not forced to harbor resentment. It all came to a head again yesterday when i found out she had sent him $500 for his birthday and “for being there for her after losing her job” as he lives across the country and also doesnt have a job.

We start couples counceling on Monday, but she told me she needs a councelor who will explore and open relationship discussion because the idea of being married to one person scares her. She admitted that it was fun to have phone sex with a stranger and because she never had a “hoe phase” before her relationship with me she will always wonder what if.

Im upset, and i know reddit is going to tell me how easy it is to call off the engagement and leave her. But i love her. I have never wanted an open relationship. I want to be mono with her until the day i die. Im wondering if she really does want an open relationship, or if she just likes the attention and pro’s of being single while using me for the pro’s of a relationship.

As the title says, me (33m) and my fiance (30f) have been together for 7 years and engaged for just under a year. Things have genuinely been fantastic, and with me being divorced once before when i was young and dumb i really thought she was the one.

About 2 months ago she had lost her job and started having a lot of free time at home. She was actively looking for work but also joined a large Discord server community to make friends and play games with in her free time. It turns out that server was run more with the intention to date / flirt than to actually socialize which she did not know when she joined.

Being one of 20ish females in an online group of 500 she naturally starting getting many messages very quickly. She had about 15 guys in her DM’s within a week or two and actively talked with most of them. I am also in the server and have played with some of the guys. Some are genuinely nice and cool, and others are very flirty which i do not mind as my fiance and i can also be flirts, she had just never crossed a line before. Well, one day when i was at work she had a 6 hour private voice call with one of the guys. Long story short they had phone sex.

Its been about a month since the incident and she has refused to stop talking to him. I talked to my therapist about the incident and i came to the conclusion i dont want to give her an ultimatum because i want it to be her choice and not forced to harbor resentment. It all came to a head again yesterday when i found out she had sent him $500 for his birthday and “for being there for her after losing her job” as he lives across the country and also doesnt have a job.

We start couples counceling on Monday, but she told me she needs a councelor who will explore and open relationship discussion because the idea of being married to one person scares her. She admitted that it was fun to have phone sex with a stranger and because she never had a “hoe phase” before her relationship with me she will always wonder what if.

Im upset, and i know reddit is going to tell me how easy it is to call off the engagement and leave her. But i love her. I have never wanted an open relationship. I want to be mono with her until the day i die. Im wondering if she really does want an open relationship, or if she just likes the attention and pro’s of being single while using me for the pro’s of a relationship.