u/Justalittlesaltyx

Newly diagnosed, going through many emotions. One of them is bitterness.

Every psychiatrist, therapist, psychologist, special education teacher who overlooked my symptoms, they're all dumb. How were none of you people able to pick up on the fact that “Oh this kid needs to go into a separate room because the LIGHTS are bothering them” that doesn’t tip anyone off? The fact that I hid in bathrooms, started to refuse to eat in the cafeteria at school, none of you thought this needed further digging??

Oh no…Just drug me up with anti depressants and mood stabilizers and then some benzos for good measure.

My mom even asked a PSYCHIATRIST what was wrong with me “Oh, that’s just their personality.” Ok Brenda, cool. Good thing I was locked in a psych unit at the time because “it’s just my personality.”

WTF man. It’s too late now, I’m a grown adult who had no way to know how to cope or help myself throughout life. I don’t trust mental health professionals anymore. None of them helped me get better. The only decent one was the one who said to me that it was rather obvious I am neurodivergent and gave me my diagnosis.

I’ll get over being pissed off eventually I hope.

I’m gonna try to not make this too lengthy but am really wanting advice here…I’m (30s F) wanting to go on a summer vacation to a specific location (about a 5 hour drive) but my SO doesnt want to go anywhere.

My mom and my step dad do seem to want to go but when we tried to plan multiple trips last summer, my step dad kept changing his mind about going. They asked me to put down the deposit for the hotel but I’m leery because again, my step dad is known to change his mind and back out of trips.

I could then just go with my mom but…She has issues with her alcohol. It makes me nervous to go away on a trip alone with her.

So now I’m stuck wanting to go on a trip but feeling like it’s not even possible. I don’t want to go somewhere alone (I’m on the autism spectrum, I would not have fun going away alone without someone I trust there with me).

What should I do?

Specifically the types of people who have a child on the spectrum or work with children on the spectrum and therefore think they can diagnose on the spot. “You don’t look autistic! I know because I have a nephew with autism!” Stfu. It’s a spectrum Linda. Not every single autistic person, man, woman or child is going to seem just like your 8 year old nephew. Again, it’s a spectrum.

I’m a late diagnosed autistic woman, please stop this dumb crap. Autism is vastly under diagnosed and many people can’t even afford the thousands of dollars needed to get evaluated for the diagnosis. So the next time you wanna question someone who self diagnoses, ask yourself what credentials you have to decide who is and is not autistic.

My mom took me to a cooking class (surprise) for my birthday. Picture it: Lots of women crowded in one kitchen. A book with a long recipe and lots of ingredients. Everyone back and forth to the pans, to the cabinets, to the sink. All in each others way. I wanted to die. I could not concentrate worth a crap. I was agitated because of all the movement and chitchatting. I was panicking and kept going back to the book to reread the instructions. Over and over. My mom was walking around with a glass of wine having a grand ol time. I'm going around like an aimless zombie trying to find random nuts and spices.

Needless to say, never again. Never ever, ever again.