u/Introverted-Chad

I’m honestly a bit confused and not sure how to feel about this.

I was in therapy for about 3 months (around 12–13 sessions). I originally went because I tend to overthink a lot, get stuck in my head about the past/future, and I’ve been dealing with family pressure that makes me feel like I don’t really have much control over my life. Also some social anxiety and just feeling stuck overall.

Last session, my therapist told me she wants to end therapy. She said she wasn’t seeing enough progress, that we were kind of going in circles, and that she felt stuck and mentally drained trying to find a way forward.

The thing is… from my side, I actually felt like things were starting to improve.

I wasn’t overthinking as much, I was focusing more on the present, getting my routine back (gym, studies), and even started questioning some beliefs I had about my situation being “completely stuck.” But I never really told her any of this properly. Most sessions I just talked about what was going wrong, especially stuff at home. So I can see how it might have looked like nothing was changing. At the end I tried to explain that I was improving, just didn’t communicate it well. She understood, but didn’t change her decision. She did say I can reach out again after 3–6 months. I also ended up crying in that session, which made it hit harder than I expected. I think I didn’t realize how much I valued having that space until it was gone. Now I’m stuck thinking: did I mess this up by not communicating properly? or was this just a mismatch from the start? Also not sure if I should go back to her later or just try someone new. Starting over sounds exhausting, but I also don’t want the same thing to happen again.

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u/Introverted-Chad — 8 days ago

I’ve been in therapy for ~3 months (12–13 sessions), mainly for rumination, religio-conservative family pressure/control, feeling stuck, and social anxiety.

My therapist recently ended sessions saying:

she wasn’t seeing enough progress

we were repeating the same things

she felt stuck and mentally drained

But from my side… I felt like things were finally starting to work.

I was:

ruminating less

focusing more on the present

getting my routine back

even starting to question my “nothing can change” mindset

The problem is, I never really told her any of this. I mostly talked about negatives (especially family stuff), so I think it looked like nothing was changing.

I tried explaining this at the end, but she didn’t reconsider. She did say I can reach out again after 3–6 months.

I also ended up crying in the last session… it felt like I lost a space where I could finally be honest.

Now I’m confused:

did I mess this up by not communicating progress?

was this just a mismatch?

should I go back to her later or try someone new?

Would really appreciate any perspective.

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u/Introverted-Chad — 8 days ago

I’ve been in therapy for ~3 months (12–13 sessions), mainly for rumination,religio-conservative family pressure/control, feeling stuck, and social anxiety.

My therapist recently ended sessions saying:

she wasn’t seeing enough progress

we were repeating the same things

she felt stuck and mentally drained

But from my side… I felt like things were finally starting to work.

I was:

ruminating less

focusing more on the present

getting my routine back

even starting to question my “nothing can change” mindset

The problem is, I never really told her any of this. I mostly talked about negatives (especially family stuff), so I think it looked like nothing was changing.

I tried explaining this at the end, but she didn’t reconsider. She did say I can reach out again after 3–6 months.

I also ended up crying in the last session… it felt like I lost a space where I could finally be honest.

Now I’m confused:

did I mess this up by not communicating progress?

was this just a mismatch?

should I go back to her later or try someone new?

Would really appreciate any perspective.

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u/Introverted-Chad — 8 days ago