u/Impossible-Power-937

My sister (22) is dating her bf (26) and been together for 2 1/2 years and during them times he hasn’t been to any family reunions or nothing like he doesn’t exist to the family. He doesn’t pay any bills and my sister covers everything and she says he covers their food when they go out but it seems to me he’s been spending all the money that he so called “building their future” on other women. He also has been cheating on her multiple times with multiple women on many occasions and my mom and I always have to go to her beck and call when they are so called breaking up. They are both toxic together and say they love each other. Just recently she seen on his tablet another women in bed with him and more women messages and even bought another girl a plane ticket for a one night stand while my sister was planning the weekend to come see us. We drove over thinking she was gonna break up and by the end of the night she is wanting to work things out again. I just can’t support her and be there for her anymore. I feel like that’s selfish but I just can’t handle the mental abuse from them any longer. I’m scared for her safety and health but I can’t keep this up much longer. I done distanced my self from her because I don’t know what else to do. My mother says she will always be there for her to rant about her boyfriend- I feel like that’s supporting it because it’s so repetitive and I’m thinking about distancing myself from my mother as well. She needs to leave him but I’m seeing advice on how should I take this or what she needs to do. Anything helps. FWI when they talk he manipulates her and makes her thinks she’s at fault and even tried manipulating my mom and I which didn’t work.

He’s also in the navy and does things with women there as well and lies constantly. My sister even said if there is actual footage and proof of it she will leave and she got it yesterday with the videos and things on the tablet and she’s still with him. Doesn’t make sense

My sister (22) is dating her bf (26) and been together for 2 1/2 years and during them times he hasn’t been to any family reunions or nothing like he doesn’t exist to the family. He doesn’t pay any bills and my sister covers everything and she says he covers their food when they go out but it seems to me he’s been spending all the money that he so called “building their future” on other women. He also has been cheating on her multiple times with multiple women on many occasions and my mom and I always have to go to her beck and call when they are so called breaking up. They are both toxic together and say they love each other. Just recently she seen on his tablet another women in bed with him and more women messages and even bought another girl a plane ticket for a one night stand while my sister was planning the weekend to come see us. We drove over thinking she was gonna break up and by the end of the night she is wanting to work things out again. I just can’t support her and be there for her anymore. I feel like that’s selfish but I just can’t handle the mental abuse from them any longer. I’m scared for her safety and health but I can’t keep this up much longer. I done distanced my self from her because I don’t know what else to do. My mother says she will always be there for her to rant about her boyfriend- I feel like that’s supporting it because it’s so repetitive and I’m thinking about distancing myself from my mother as well. She needs to leave him but I’m seeing advice on how should I take this or what she needs to do. Anything helps. FWI when they talk he manipulates her and makes her thinks she’s at fault and even tried manipulating my mom and I which didn’t work.

He’s also in the navy and does things with women there as well and lies constantly. My sister even said if there is actual footage and proof of it she will leave and she got it yesterday with the videos and things on the tablet and she’s still with him. Doesn’t make sense

My sister (22) is dating her bf (26) and been together for 2 1/2 years and during them times he hasn’t been to any family reunions or nothing like he doesn’t exist to the family. He doesn’t pay any bills and my sister covers everything and she says he covers their food when they go out but it seems to me he’s been spending all the money that he so called “building their future” on other women. He also has been cheating on her multiple times with multiple women on many occasions and my mom and I always have to go to her beck and call when they are so called breaking up. They are both toxic together and say they love each other. Just recently she seen on his tablet another women in bed with him and more women messages and even bought another girl a plane ticket for a one night stand while my sister was planning the weekend to come see us. We drove over thinking she was gonna break up and by the end of the night she is wanting to work things out again. I just can’t support her and be there for her anymore. I feel that’s selfish but I just can’t handle the mental abuse from them any longer. I’m scared for her safety and health but I can’t keep this up much longer. I done distanced my self from her because I don’t know what else to do. My mother says she will always be there for her to rant about her boyfriend- I feel like that’s supporting it because it’s so repetitive and I’m thinking about distancing myself from my mother as well. She needs to leave him. I need advice on what to do. Anything helps. FWI when they talk he manipulates her and makes her thinks she’s at fault and even tried manipulating my mom and I which didn’t work.

He’s also in the navy and does things with women there as well and lies constantly. My sister even said if there is actual footage and proof of it she will leave and she got it yesterday with the videos and things on the tablet and she’s still with him.