u/Impossible-Cry-9724

Is anyone else opening their notes app to update their duaa list bc the day of arafah is coming up only to to realize it’s literally the same duas from the past 4 years 😭 and according to my period tracker I’ll probably get my period again this year right before Arafah so I might not even be able to fast and get the reward of expiating the sins of the previous and coming year, second year in a row btw lol

But my actual question is about duaa, I have certain duas I’ve been making for years, and not just on arafah but also during Ramadan, and whenever I pary witr or duha, I repeat the same things over and over bc I really want them so bad. And lately I started wondering, Is holding into these things what’s making me unhappy? Like if I wasn’t deeply attached to them, I wouldn’t keep making the same duaa for years, right? But doesn’t that kinda contradict the idea that Allah loves the servant who keeps asking him persistently?

Also another thing that’s confusing me, I always hear that Allah never ignores our duas, “وَإِذَا سَأَلَكَ عِبَادِي عَنِّي فَإِنِّي قَرِيبٌ أُجِيبُ دَعْوَةَ الدَّاعِ إِذَا دَعَانِ فَلْيَسْتَجِيبُواْ لِي وَلْيُؤْمِنُواْ بِي لَعَلَّهُمْ يَرْشُدُونَ .” (2:186), and ppl say duaa is answered in 3 ways, you either get exactly what you want, a harm is removed from you, or the reward is saved for الآخرة, so technically, the duas was already answered? Just maybe not in the first way? But then why do we keep repeating duas? Like genuinely I’m confused, if Allah already answered them one of those ways, what’s the point? I know this sounds weird and probably doesn’t make sense, but I can’t stop thinking about it this way 😭

Hi. I graduated a year ago (Mechanical Engineering), and I’ve been actively trying since then, I have been working on myself and applying consistently, I did land a few interviews but I keep getting ghosted.

I’ve attended conferences, tried networking, got an internship in a semi gov company summer 2024, stayed active on LinkedIn, and applied to 300+ roles even outside my field, (or even more I’ve lost count atp 😭) I tailor my CV for each role but I’m still getting rejected and most of the time ghosted.

Atp I genuinely feel stuck and a bit desperate, I’m open to anything even an unpaid internship just to gain experience and finally get my foot in the door.

If anyone has advice or has been through this, I’d really appreciate it, thank you so much.

(I’m a female born and raised and studied here in Qatar)

I genuinely don't understand why whenever ppl online or irl see a muslim woman 24+ and unmarried they automatically assume it's her fault, they will say stuff like she's too focused on her career or she's getting proposals and rejected them bcs she's too picky or she's influenced by western ideas. But why does no one talk about the women who are actually trying? Some of us don't have support systems, whether from family, parents, or community. We try to expand our circles and meet new ppl etc and it just doesn't work out, sometimes there aren't even any real opportunities, no one is pursuing us or introducing us to potential matches, so what exactly are we supposed to do???? Like fr, and when I say I will just focus on myself until something happens I'm accused of not caring about marriage or being too westernized, why is it always framed like we have to choose one thing anyway? Having a career and ambitions doesn't mean I don't want a family. I'm trying, it's just not happening for me rn, what do ppl expect me to do? put my life on hold? "You're getting old" okay? and what do you want me to do about that?