I have a 2yo and a 4mo and I cannot figure out how to get my 2yo down for nap. He contact napped most of his first year before transitioning well to laying down together on his floor bed for nap and I roll away once he’s asleep. When the baby was born, she was content in the swing next to us while I got him down for the first two months and now she’s not. I did a few weeks of her side lying with me on the opposite side of him in his bed for nap and then we’d leave together. Now she’s too noisy and he can’t calm down to nap. So I’ve been trying getting her down in the bassinet and then getting him down. She’s contact napping for all other naps aside from that one. The problem is she gives me maybe 15min in the bassinet before she’s awake screaming. My 2yo needs me to lay with him 20min before I can roll away. So my options are my 2yo skips nap or my 4mo screams for 5min. Neither feels like an option because 2yo sleeps 2-3hrs and needs it and I think it’s truly cruel for my baby to cry it out like that. Anyone had similar? I know sleep is all just phases, will it pass? Any advice?
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I have a 2yo and a 4mo and I cannot figure out how to get my 2yo down for nap. He contact napped most of his first year before transitioning well to laying down together on his floor bed for nap and I roll away once he’s asleep. When the baby was born, she was content in the swing next to us while I got him down for the first two months and now she’s not. I did a few weeks of her side lying with me on the opposite side of him in his bed for nap and then we’d leave together. Now she’s too noisy and he can’t calm down to nap. So I’ve been trying getting her down in the bassinet and then getting him down. She’s contact napping for all other naps aside from that one. The problem is she gives me maybe 15min in the bassinet before she’s awake screaming. My 2yo needs me to lay with him 20min before I can roll away. So my options are my 2yo skips nap or my 4mo scream for 5min. Neither are working. Anyone had similar? I now sleep is all phases, will it pass? Any advice?
Does anyone else feel tension with their mom friends who are working moms? I feel like there’s this jealousy that’s mixed with belittling coming from several of them all the time and I’m getting fed up. Like asking me for advice as the sahm of the group (in a group of 8 there’s 2 of us that stay home) but then saying that would never work because daycare or being tired from work or xyz. There’s a constant stream of the “benefits of daycare” and talking that their kids are way better off because they’re “resilient, socialized, getting so many opportunities” it just strikes a nerve sometimes. I’m the only sahm that uses zero childcare (financially not doable regularly aside from very very rare date night aka once, and also no desire for childcare really), the other one has her 2yo in part time care to take care of their new baby. Idk what I’m looking for, probably just venting. Probably the wrong group of friends to look for anything relatable, but truly feels like they think I do nothing all day.
I’ve been reading through the books for the first time after being an exclusive show watcher and I’ve been loving it! However, I can’t tell if I’m being sensitive or if it seems Diana Gabaldon only writes negatively about babies? Like the flashbacks to Claire in Dragonfly in Amber as a young mom to baby Brianna it’s almost all bad? And then all the complaining from Claire, Jamie, and especially Roger about baby Jeremiah in Drums of Autumn? Like am I just hormonal and postpartum and obsessed with my babies or is this odd haha