r/sahm

Hey friends! 26F here. I have been throwing around the idea of becoming a SAHM. My husband is on board and he fortunately makes enough money for us to live comfortably if I decided to stay home.

Our son is 14 months old.

My MIL currently watches him when we both work, however we recently found out that she’s not listening to our rules when it comes to NOT using physical punishment. For example; he was pulling her glade scent plug-ins out of the wall, she chose to smack my child’s hand to tell him to stop (he didn’t) so both my husband and I have started to feel extremely uncomfortable with her watching our child.

Unfortunately, the daycares around our area have extremely long waitlists so they just aren’t an option.

So, that leaves us with the choice of me becoming a stay at home mom (temporarily until a spot in childcare is available) anywhere from a 12-18 month waitlist.

So ultimately my question boils down to this: does ANYYYYONE truly enjoy being a SAHM? I’m constantly seeing women talk about how horrible it is and that they always lose their sense of identity in staying home. But I would love to know the positive side of it all. Has it improved your day to day life? Does your child thrive? Do you have a better routine?

I play on using the time at home to finish my degree as well as work on my physical health. As said previously, it would only be temporary but I am obviously nervous about the potential transition.

I guess I need to rant…I wish this didn’t get to me the way it does but here we are…

FTM to a 5month old..,.it’s been 3 weeks now of him refusing to nap in his crib.

It’s so defeating that he won’t nap anymore. Spending 3+hours in a dark room is really starting to mess with me.

I spend more time trying to get him to nap than he actually naps.

I have tried everything. I just let him cry for 3 minutes over and over and over again. I hate letting him cry and have avoided this until this week…I contact nap and feed him before and have a nap routine.

I really don’t know what to do and need help.

Then I spend my entire time w him doing laundry, walking the dog, cooking, putting groceries away, cleaning that he doesn’t actually have any activity time.

From having him in the carrier and him getting heavier my right knee is starting to feel like it’s going to give out.

I don’t know what’s going on with me seems since the first of the year I have had no energy for life. I only have the will power to get up and take care of the kids. The house has suffered my husband picks up where I fall short but I don’t even have it in me for my hobbies. Last year I read 103 books and I crochet a huge mosaic piece this year I’ve read 10 books and crochet nothing. I’ve been to the doctors they did blood work told me I was fine. This doesn’t feel like depression I’ve had that for years it doesn’t feel like this. It feels like all my life force has been sucked out and I’m just going through the motions. Has anyone else felt like this? If you have how did you get out of it?

My husband and I have decided to have me stay at home as childcare costs are insane even when using a babysitter instead of daycare. I was barely working anyways w kid appointments and sickness. I’ve cut out everything fun in our budget and we’re still short like $500. My husband got a second job as part time through family but it’s been two weeks since hire and I guess that the seasons slow and they haven’t had him in yet. I’m getting worried and I want to help while I stay home I just don’t know what I could do. There’s nothing else I can minimize and cut in our bills it’s mortgage, cars/insurance water, electric, gas & groceries, phones and home security.

Parents who have ever worried something might be different about their child - quick question.

When you've needed to explain your child's behaviour to a school, doctor or specialist, how did you keep track of it all? Phone notes? Paper diary? Just tried to remember?

Just trying to understand how parents manage this. Honest answers really appreciated.

I've basically been a sahm or pregnant since 2021 so I haven't had a break really. My hormones have always been out of whack or it's been PPD. anyhow, I can't recall when it hit but it did after having my c-section daughter in 10/2024. there's this hollow loneliness inside of me. I love my kids to death and I love my husband. is it because I've lost sense of independence/self by kind of being isolated from public for so long? can any other mom's relate? and even when I do go out in public, I feel out of place. I feel like singing that yellowcard lyric "and even though you're next to me I still feel so alone" allllll the time

Gonna be crazy but welcome to my sahm life with an 18m old and almost newborn

We live on a VERY busy road, and have a large yard that constantly needs lots of work done to it. How do I keep my 20m old from running into the road? He can hang in the bouncer for a bit, but I feel bad and want to let him run around and play. He will play with his toys for about 5 mins before he is charging towards the road 🙃

My son is 19 months and he’s been throwing these random mood swing fits and I’m not sure what’s up. Like for example we could be playing with his blocks laughing and smiling and all of a sudden a beat later he’s frowning at the block trying to knock it over and throws the others. Is this normal?? Anybody else had this experience? I know tantrums over not getting what they want is normal but this is like not even triggered by anything. I don’t even know like do I just redirect him? Do I tell him that’s not nice? I normally do those things case by case when it’s a “I didn’t get what I want situation” but idk about this random change up in mood.

I impulsively quit my job and 2mo later found out I was pregnant. I kept applying to jobs and keep applying and still get rejected. my husband supports me and says it's his responsibility to take care of me but Im stubborn and like making my own money, I don't have reliable transportation and my license is currently suspended, with no car and no job I feel a severe lack of independence that I once had. I go days without even leaving the house, I need a way to make money make friends and get a life bc it's taken a toll on my mental health. any advice or even kind words would be appreciated.

my son is turning 1 in exactly one month, and i just can’t seem to get him to walk or stand independently, but he crawls, pulls up to stand, and cruises (walks while holding onto furniture/walls). he has a push walker, instead of the ‘traditional’ sit in one, and he does really well on it, but i think his balance is what makes him scared to stand or walk independently.

i knoooowww i should be waiting for him to walk on his own time, but i’m hoping to get him walking before his (outdoor) birthday party, so that he can explore and play on his own, without needing to be carried everywhere 🥲

so basically!! i’m here to ask, how did you guys encourage independent standing and walking for your little ones? how can i help him practice his balance and feel more confident?