u/Important-Bell-1675
Recs needed (but kinda specific)
Looking for a why choose WITH MM romantasy NOT dark romance but...
Must have:
*actual spice and plentiful at that. Like 🌶🌶🌶🌶 at least
*multiple POVs NOT first-person
*still great world-building
*prefer over 300 pages and even better if it is a series
*ok with most micro-tropes
I want to like romantasy more but finds it is often milder lol
u/Important-Bell-1675 — 20 hours ago
▲ 130 r/workout
I'm a 40yo mom who's strength-trained for 20 years...I see a lot of women asking the same things so thought I'd share 🩷
If you’re a woman, new mom, etc etc trying to build a program/get stronger/grow glutes, please hear me:
Most likely you do NOT need:
- 50 random exercises
- constant soreness to feel like you did something
- frantic sweaty circuits every day or endless cardio
You need:
- solid movement patterns
- progressive overload
- consistency
- enough recovery to actually grow
An example of my previous programming (different now bc I am preparing for a competition)
- 4 lifting days
- 2 upper body
- 2 lower body
- 2 Zone 2 cardio days
- 1 mobility/bodyweight day (yoga, Pilates, mobility work, etc.)
I see so many people overcomplicate this thinking they need to do ALL the exercises
You really only need about 4–6 exercises TOTAL per lifting session if the program is designed well.
For lower body, I generally build around core movement patterns:
- Squat
- Hip hinge
- Unilateral movement
- Abduction/glute stability
Example:
- Squat
- RDL
- Lunges
- Clamshells
That’s enough. Pinky promise!
A lot of women have been conditioned to think exercise only “counts” if it leaves them annihilated and exhausted ALL THE TIME
Anyway. Hope that helps someone trying to build a sane, effective home workout routine. 💖
u/Important-Bell-1675 — 1 day ago
▲ 11 r/Europetravel
Ireland & Scotland Itinerary for Son's 18th Birthday
*My son turned 18 and wanted Ireland and Scotland instead of a party. So we went.
**DUBLIN (4 nights)**
*Book of Kells first day... they were doing restoration work when we visited so confirm hours before you go. That said, if you have any love for literature or old manuscripts, the tour is worth it.
*Guinness Storehouse: I think Guinness tastes terrible but the museum is actually really good and the view from the top bar is solid. Jameson cocktail class the same day. I don't really drink and it was one of my favorite few hours of the whole trip. Highly recommend even if you're not a whiskey person.
*Glendalough/Wicklow day tour was the best day in Dublin. Powerscourt Waterfall, the 6th century monastery, misty mountains.
*We used the Luas tram to get around Dublin and it was easy and cheap. Don't overthink transit there.
**BELFAST (1 night)**
*Titanic Museum is legitimately one of the best museums I've been to in Europe. Stayed at the Titanic Hotel which sits in the actual old shipyard. Weird and cool.
**THE CROSSING**
*Stena Line ferry to Scotland, bus, then train north to Inverness. I planned the route this way on purpose bc I wanted the full journey through both countries. Worth it. Next time I'm slowing down and spending more time in each place. Already planning a Scotland trip with girlfriends.
**INVERNESS (2 nights)**
*Full day tour: Eilean Donan Castle, Loch Ness, Invermoriston Old Bridge, Great Glen Gin Distillery, and Bealach na Bà. I'd researched guides ahead of time and Niall still cleared the bar by a lot. Bealach na Bà is one of the most gorgeous mountain passes that will make you grip the car door tho! Eilean Donan is exactly as dramatic as every photo suggests, maybe more.
**EDINBURGH (3 nights)**
*Scotland we pretty much walked everywhere. Edinburgh is incredibly walkable and you'd miss things in a car anyway.
*The Islander Bag workshop on Candlemaker Row, my son made a backpack. You pick your fabric and build it yourself in about an hour. He still uses it. The ladies were sooooo nice. Ghost tour through the Vaults: I booked it the night before and it was one of the best surprises of the trip.
**GLASGOW (day trip)**
*We got tattoos (not matching). Not my first. I researched the shop obsessively and got into contact months before and they delivered!
*Specifically designed the routing to hit both countries in one trip. No regrets, but give yourself more time than I did if you can.
*Happy to answer questions.
u/Important-Bell-1675 — 3 days ago
11 weeks out, 40yo, first comp
Trying to get comfortable with the vulnerability of showcasing my physique. ESP when I can see all the flaws. I'm a mom and almost 40. And going on stage TERRIFIES me but I wanted to go on this journey and prove I could do this next hard thing. To have the necessary discipline. Competing in Fit Model :)
u/Important-Bell-1675 — 3 days ago
▲ 21 r/WWE
How many live events have you been to? Which is your favorite esp if it's a PLE?
I ask because I surprised my husband with Smackdown last night since it was in our town and it's his bday. He thought he'd never like a live event bc we tend to be more quiet/introverted but since he got me into wrestling about 3 years ago, we've bonded further (even after nearly 20 years married) and I got tickets. We had a blast!
So now, I'd love to plan for a PLE in a few years. Wrestlemania is obviously THE big one but I feel Summer Slam or the Rumble could both be fun too.
If you've been to all or a few different ones, which have been your favorite? Why? Would love to read your stories!
Pic of the best one I could get last night. I WISH I had better photos of Rhea and Charlotte bc I am obsessed with both of them but I love Cody too :)
u/Important-Bell-1675 — 5 days ago
▲ 61 r/AddingWhimsy
Meet Marty!
I am new here (insert shy awkward kid wave) but I LOVE LOVE LOVE it and have been using the word whimsy forEVA. All your posts have srsly made me smile the last hour🩷
Here is my newest source of whimsy: my porch goose named Marty. According to my 17yo daughter, Marty is a divorced wife who loves margaritas and sangria and likes to vent about her saucy books to unwilling neighbors 🤣
u/Important-Bell-1675 — 6 days ago
▲ 48 r/WeightTraining
3 years difference and after 6 kiddos! Did pregnancy affect you too?
Pregnancy WRECKED me and it took time to get strong again. I'm still not done-always working :) First competition this summer! I have weightlifting since my teens but like I said, in my 20s, I wasn't as consistent due to momming lol
u/Important-Bell-1675 — 7 days ago
▲ 23 r/Aging
Do you grieve or just me?
Hey all! I'm a few weeks out from 40. I believe I'm in peri and have an appointment with Midi since my primary care doctor thinks my symptoms are ONLY bc of Graves. I do not. I specifically am concerned about some vanity metrics (and awful night sweats). My face over the last year has aged so damn much and I just...I go through days where I'm like "so what, I don't owe the world prettiness" but more days than not, I find myself obsessing over ever detail in my face that is no longer even remotely average, youthful, or pretty. It's so stupid and yet I cannot let it go.
I have a mostly happy life. Good marriage, job, hobbies, friends, etc and so I feel like a brat for literally crying and grieving the loss of youth and ruminating on things I should have done blah blah blah.
Is this just a mental stage that kinda passes? I'm practiced in mindfulness so I just allow myself to sit with these feelings but then when we go out, I start internally panicking everyone is looking at all my "ugly" features. Then I feel like a biatch too bc older features are not "ugly" on literally every other woman. Idk even know what I am exactly trying to say except to vent.
Anyone else?
u/Important-Bell-1675 — 7 days ago