u/Ill-Way2336

Hi everyone! I have been a constant lurker here and on many other such communities here on reddit occasionally asking my share of advices and affirmations for my prior uncertainties.

I was diagnosed with endometriosis when I was 19 and still in college. Despite having been gas lighted by mother that it's just period pain and i "apparently had low pain tolerance and women are able to bear even more"; I was hospitalized on one of the occasions of my very severe painful episode. The doctor said I had huge 9-10 cm chocolate cysts on both my ovaries, multiple fibroids in my uterus and the anatomy of my system was all disturbed. The doctor then recommended I do surgery only when the symptoms are unbearable and when I need to bear children. I was put on birth control and on which I remained for next 8 years. I did have irregular bleeds here and there but I was able to live my life by taking a withdrawal period bleed every 3 months. I was able to do well in career and enjoy my life. I met my now husband at 26 years of age and I told him about my condition after two months of dating and I told him he was free to leave me if he wanted to since conception would be difficult. He however to my surprise accepted me and I melted right away.

In 2024 we consulted many doctors while we began our journey to conceive. Many recommended that since my environment was not conductive, I undergo a laproscopic surgery which I did in December 2024. The doctor said it was a possibility that they would have to remove one of my tubes because it was all filled with blood. But by God's grace, everything went well and my anatomy was restored and endo was removed along with fibroids. It was a painful recovery. My work suffered but I bounced back through the help of my parents and spouse.

However I wasn't prepared for the journey to come. My Ahm had sharply declined due to endometriosis, constant use of pills and the surgery. Before surgery it was barely 0.65 and afterwards it came to be 0.45. The doctor said my endo could come back and I had to act swiftly after the three months healing period. We tried naturally for two months and failed. We did IUI with trigger shot and failed. We moved to IVF with so much hesitation since I was only 28 and we couldn't believe what we were going through. We kept our journey after the surgery very private. Nobody knew how I was suffering silently in 2025. The entire year of physical pain, mental suffering and deep longing.

Our self egg retrieval failed as we only yielded one embryo of poor grade. The doc said I had really poor quality eggs because endo destroyed the quality of it all. We moved on to donor eggs with heavy heart. First FET failed. I had taken break from work because my manager was shit and I couldn't continue. It was so so hard. I was literally harassed at work. I couldn't bear what I was going through. It was so so lonely. We went for another FET via the same donor egg embryos which had been earlier stored. It failed again. I was devastated. I was so broken. I wanted to take a break from life and go somewhere. I went to an Ayurvedic retreat centre for 3 days all alone. It was so refreshing. I cried during mediation and tried to relieve a lot of stored trauma and emotional wounds in my womb. I moved onto my third donor egg FET from another donor. By this time it had costed us a lot of money but my husband was so so kind to me and so supportive. I was trying to manifest a good life. A happy life full of kids.

I couldn't think of what was to occur in the same month. I lost my father to a cardiac arrest suddenly. It was so painful. I had to drop off my treatment to go home. I stayed there for a month. We had told my parents about IVF a couple of months before and my father had been very supportive by saying that we were welcome to come stay at my parental house if we wanted to take treatment from that city. He said he'd always support us no matter what and that I have to be brave for everything. It felt like my entire world had shattered. I was on a break from work, my career suffered, I had lost the person I cherished most since my childhood, I had to take care of my mother, I had to stop my treatment.

The following cycle I decided I needed to just let it go. I was so tired all the time running errands for my mum and taking care of many many important tasks at home after my father's death. I had taken letrozol during that cycle upon the recommendation of my doc because we didn't want to waste any cycle. I had ordered COQ 10 supplements and pressed lube which my husband earlier thought wasn't necessary. I had intercourse barely three times while I timed them roughly. Mind you I wasn't in an okay mental state. Physically I was tired and exhausted. I was supporting my mother who was grieving and my brother who was also going through a divorce. It was so difficult.

I had surrendered to God. I couldn't take it anymore. I would pray and cry everyday. Lo and behold, I fell pregnant the next month. I had missed my period. I had minor spotting and major cramps. I couldn't believe the tests because sometimes there are false positives. We were outside having dinner with some relatives from my in laws place when the beta HCG results came to be positive. I couldn't beloved it. The doctor had said it's impossible for me to conceive naturally given my endo and later diagnosed adeno.

I'm presently 9 weeks 5 days pregnant. Although still early but the baby is doing fine. I just wanted to share my story in case anyone out there is in the same state as I was in. I was sad, lonely and full of despair. May be God saved me or may be it was my father who blessed me before leaving. I don't know. All I know is that Doctors are not God, they can't do what God can. I'm so thankful and grateful for this. I hope my journey inspires someone other there looking for hope.

Hi everyone! I have been a constant lurker here and on many other such communities here on reddit occasionally asking my share of advices and affirmations for my prior uncertainties.

I was diagnosed with endometriosis when I was 19 and still in college. Despite having been gas lighted by mother that it's just period pain and i "apparently had low pain tolerance and women are able to bear even more"; I was hospitalized on one of the occasions of my very severe painful episode. The doctor said I had huge 9-10 cm chocolate cysts on both my ovaries, multiple fibroids in my uterus and the anatomy of my system was all disturbed. The doctor then recommended I do surgery only when the symptoms are unbearable and when I need to bear children. I was put on birth control and on which I remained for next 8 years. I did have irregular bleeds here and there but I was able to live my life by taking a withdrawal period bleed every 3 months. I was able to do well in career and enjoy my life. I met my now husband at 26 years of age and I told him about my condition after two months of dating and I told him he was free to leave me if he wanted to since conception would be difficult. He however to my surprise accepted me and I melted right away.

In 2024 we consulted many doctors while we began our journey to conceive. Many recommended that since my environment was not conductive, I undergo a laproscopic surgery which I did in December 2024. The doctor said it was a possibility that they would have to remove one of my tubes because it was all filled with blood. But by God's grace, everything went well and my anatomy was restored and endo was removed along with fibroids. It was a painful recovery. My work suffered but I bounced back through the help of my parents and spouse.

However I wasn't prepared for the journey to come. My Ahm had sharply declined due to endometriosis, constant use of pills and the surgery. Before surgery it was barely 0.65 and afterwards it came to be 0.45. The doctor said my endo could come back and I had to act swiftly after the three months healing period. We tried naturally for two months and failed. We did IUI with trigger shot and failed. We moved to IVF with so much hesitation since I was only 28 and we couldn't believe what we were going through. We kept our journey after the surgery very private. Nobody knew how I was suffering silently in 2025. The entire year of physical pain, mental suffering and deep longing.

Our self egg retrieval failed as we only yielded one embryo of poor grade. The doc said I had really poor quality eggs because endo destroyed the quality of it all. We moved on to donor eggs with heavy heart. First FET failed. I had taken break from work because my manager was shit and I couldn't continue. It was so so hard. I was literally harassed at work. I couldn't bear what I was going through. It was so so lonely. We went for another FET via the same donor egg embryos which had been earlier stored. It failed again. I was devastated. I was so broken. I wanted to take a break from life and go somewhere. I went to an Ayurvedic retreat centre for 3 days all alone. It was so refreshing. I cried during mediation and tried to relieve a lot of stored trauma and emotional wounds in my womb. I moved onto my third donor egg FET from another donor. By this time it had costed us a lot of money but my husband was so so kind to me and so supportive. I was trying to manifest a good life. A happy life full of kids.

I couldn't think of what was to occur in the same month. I lost my father to a cardiac arrest suddenly. It was so painful. I had to drop off my treatment to go home. I stayed there for a month. We had told my parents about IVF a couple of months before and my father had been very supportive by saying that we were welcome to come stay at my parental house if we wanted to take treatment from that city. He said he'd always support us no matter what and that I have to be brave for everything. It felt like my entire world had shattered. I was on a break from work, my career suffered, I had lost the person I cherished most since my childhood, I had to take care of my mother, I had to stop my treatment.

The following cycle I decided I needed to just let it go. I was so tired all the time running errands for my mum and taking care of many many important tasks at home after my father's death. I had taken letrozol during that cycle upon the recommendation of my doc because we didn't want to waste any cycle. I had ordered COQ 10 supplements and pressed lube which my husband earlier thought wasn't necessary. I had intercourse barely three times while I timed them roughly. Mind you I wasn't in an okay mental state. Physically I was tired and exhausted. I was supporting my mother who was grieving and my brother who was also going through a divorce. It was so difficult.

I had surrendered to God. I couldn't take it anymore. I would pray and cry everyday. Lo and behold, I fell pregnant the next month. I had missed my period. I had minor spotting and major cramps. I couldn't believe the tests because sometimes there are false positives. We were outside having dinner with some relatives from my in laws place when the beta HCG results came to be positive. I couldn't beloved it. The doctor had said it's impossible for me to conceive naturally given my endo and later diagnosed adeno.

I'm presently 9 weeks 5 days pregnant. Although still early but the baby is doing fine. I just wanted to share my story in case anyone out there is in the same state as I was in. I was sad, lonely and full of despair. May be God saved me or may be it was my father who blessed me before leaving. I don't know. All I know is that Doctors are not God, they can't do what God can. I'm so thankful and grateful for this. I hope my journey inspires someone other there looking for hope.

Hi everyone! I have been a constant lurker here and on many other such communities here on reddit occasionally asking my share of advices and affirmations for my prior uncertainties.

I was diagnosed with endometriosis when I was 19 and still in college. Despite having been gas lighted by mother that it's just period pain and i "apparently had low pain tolerance and women are able to bear even more"; I was hospitalized on one of the occasions of my very severe painful episode. The doctor said I had huge 9-10 cm chocolate cysts on both my ovaries, multiple fibroids in my uterus and the anatomy of my system was all disturbed. The doctor then recommended I do surgery only when the symptoms are unbearable and when I need to bear children. I was put on birth control and on which I remained for next 8 years. I did have irregular bleeds here and there but I was able to live my life by taking a withdrawal period bleed every 3 months. I was able to do well in career and enjoy my life. I met my now husband at 26 years of age and I told him about my condition after two months of dating and I told him he was free to leave me if he wanted to since conception would be difficult. He however to my surprise accepted me and I melted right away.

In 2024 we consulted many doctors while we began our journey to conceive. Many recommended that since my environment was not conductive, I undergo a laproscopic surgery which I did in December 2024. The doctor said it was a possibility that they would have to remove one of my tubes because it was all filled with blood. But by God's grace, everything went well and my anatomy was restored and endo was removed along with fibroids. It was a painful recovery. My work suffered but I bounced back through the help of my parents and spouse.

However I wasn't prepared for the journey to come. My Ahm had sharply declined due to endometriosis, constant use of pills and the surgery. Before surgery it was barely 0.65 and afterwards it came to be 0.45. The doctor said my endo could come back and I had to act swiftly after the three months healing period. We tried naturally for two months and failed. We did IUI with trigger shot and failed. We moved to IVF with so much hesitation since I was only 28 and we couldn't believe what we were going through. We kept our journey after the surgery very private. Nobody knew how I was suffering silently in 2025. The entire year of physical pain, mental suffering and deep longing.

Our self egg retrieval failed as we only yielded one embryo of poor grade. The doc said I had really poor quality eggs because endo destroyed the quality of it all. We moved on to donor eggs with heavy heart. First FET failed. I had taken break from work because my manager was shit and I couldn't continue. It was so so hard. I was literally harassed at work. I couldn't bear what I was going through. It was so so lonely. We went for another FET via the same donor egg embryos which had been earlier stored. It failed again. I was devastated. I was so broken. I wanted to take a break from life and go somewhere. I went to an Ayurvedic retreat centre for 3 days all alone. It was so refreshing. I cried during mediation and tried to relieve a lot of stored trauma and emotional wounds in my womb. I moved onto my third donor egg FET from another donor. By this time it had costed us a lot of money but my husband was so so kind to me and so supportive. I was trying to manifest a good life. A happy life full of kids.

I couldn't think of what was to occur in the same month. I lost my father to a cardiac arrest suddenly. It was so painful. I had to drop off my treatment to go home. I stayed there for a month. We had told my parents about IVF a couple of months before and my father had been very supportive by saying that we were welcome to come stay at my parental house if we wanted to take treatment from that city. He said he'd always support us no matter what and that I have to be brave for everything. It felt like my entire world had shattered. I was on a break from work, my career suffered, I had lost the person I cherished most since my childhood, I had to take care of my mother, I had to stop my treatment.

The following cycle I decided I needed to just let it go. I was so tired all the time running errands for my mum and taking care of many many important tasks at home after my father's death. I had taken letrozol during that cycle upon the recommendation of my doc because we didn't want to waste any cycle. I had ordered COQ 10 supplements and pressed lube which my husband earlier thought wasn't necessary. I had intercourse barely three times while I timed them roughly. Mind you I wasn't in an okay mental state. Physically I was tired and exhausted. I was supporting my mother who was grieving and my brother who was also going through a divorce. It was so difficult.

I had surrendered to God. I couldn't take it anymore. I would pray and cry everyday. Lo and behold, I fell pregnant the next month. I had missed my period. I had minor spotting and major cramps. I couldn't believe the tests because sometimes there are false positives. We were outside having dinner with some relatives from my in laws place when the beta HCG results came to be positive. I couldn't beloved it. The doctor had said it's impossible for me to conceive naturally given my endo and later diagnosed adeno.

I'm presently 9 weeks 5 days pregnant. Although still early but the baby is doing fine. I just wanted to share my story in case anyone out there is in the same state as I was in. I was sad, lonely and full of despair. May be God saved me or may be it was my father who blessed me before leaving. I don't know. All I know is that Doctors are not God, they can't do what God can. I'm so thankful and grateful for this. I hope my journey inspires someone other there looking for hope.

He was completely fine but started to become agitated and irritated in the last 6 months. He cut off contact with a lot of people and started living a lonely life. Many of his friends upon his death said they hadn't talked to him for about 6 months. He would get angry for no reason. Could tantra cause death? Please help me understand.

I know it sounds bizarre. But I find the timing to be really weird. I had been trying to get pregnant from the starting of 2025 and was undergoing IVF because of some issues I had. The doctor told me the chances of me getting pregnant naturally were quite low.

My father passed away on 16th of February and the very next cycle in March (towards the end of March) I found out I'm pregnant naturally. Doctor said it was miracle and God is good. I don't know what to make of it.

I'm happy I'm pregnant but I'm struggling to move on from the loss of my loving father. I was a pampered daughter and he sacrificed a lot for us kids to get us to where we are today. I miss him dearly everyday. I cry everyday because I desparately want to talk to him. I sometimes dream of him and think may be he visits me like that. Once I dreamt where he couldn't speak and made a sign of flying above. Then he vomitted on the roadside (he passed away from a cardiac arrest after vomiting). I saw him one day again where he said he didn't know he'd pass away and he was all confused and he meant to do and give me so much more. I don't know if it's my imagination or what.

The entire timing of everything is shocking.

I know it sounds bizarre. But I find the timing to be really weird. I had been trying to get pregnant from the starting of 2025 and was undergoing IVF because of some issues I had. The doctor told me the chances of me getting pregnant naturally were quite low.

My father passed away on 16th of February and the very next cycle in March (towards the end of March) I found out I'm pregnant. Doctor said it was miracle and God is good. I don't know what to make of it.

I'm happy I'm pregnant but I'm struggling to move on from the loss of my loving father. I was a pampered daughter and he sacrificed a lot for us kids to get us to where we are today. I miss him dearly everyday. I cry everyday because I desparately want to talk to him. I sometimes dream of him and think may be he visits me like that. Once I dreamt where he couldn't speak and make a sign of flying above. Then he vomitted on the roadside (he passed away from a cardiac arrest after vomiting). I saw him one day again where he said he didn't know he'd pass away and he was all confused and he meant to do and give me so much more. I don't know if it's my imagination or what.

The entire timing of everything is shocking.

1. Brief background about our family-

I'm his younger sister. My brother is 36 yo well educated MBA guy. We belong to an upper middle class family. My father worked in a Bank and my mother was a teacher. I'm also happily settled with a well educated man. We own a house which my father recently constructed two years ago. My father passed away suddenly from cardiac arrest in Feb. He was our anchor and pillar of our family. My mom is a soft submissive woman. We are Punjabis.

2. Background of my SIL-

She is also an MBA qualified woman. Appearance wise she is not very good (apologies for being superficial but it's for a later context). Her mother is also a divorcee, parties and does some political work I guess. She barely has any family apart from maternal uncle who also doesn't have good terms with his wife. They are Kanpur.

3. Exact issues-

My brother and SIL met in 2018/2019 via online dating site. My parents were looking for rishtas for my brother but he would find faults in every via Arrange marriage. Later he revealed about his relationship which my parents opposed as the family background and culture didn't match yet they agreed to meet once. Upon meeting, my parents realised the lack of shared values and my father had a keen eye and could judge people from a far. My parents refused and said setting nahi ayegi. My brother resisted and fought with my parents on numerous occasions many a times disrespecting them. They weren't a good match at least from the superficial point of view. Slowly things started to transpire and she poisoned him against the family that your family doesn't accept me for who I am etc etc just because my mother is a divorcee etc etc. So my brother initially reduced contact and then went no contact with us. Eventually I also had to get married and it was a love one but I chose my partner wisely based on family background, education and shared values. My parents agreed for me. Just before my Roka we found out that my brother had secretly married and in order to protect our ijjat in the society my parents finally decided to get them married formally. Before that there were many fights in the family and between brother and SIL as well; wherein they both had heated arguments with each other and parents regarding getting married and who said what. She also had issues with me because my wedding was a grand one as my parents spent a lot on my wedding and she didn't have a grand wedding but just a reception and Gurudwara wedding. The thing is they barely had 4 people in the family, who is supposed to do a grand wedding? After that also she'd often call up my parents and harrass them by saying your son isn't good, you guys aren't good etc etc. My parents had accepted her before but she continued to hold grudges and pin point every minor inconvenience as a big one. Not only that verbal abuse existed. Fast forward, she got a job in UK and my brother left his well paying job to move with her to UK thinking everything will be fine if they moved away from my parent's/India. But they would often fight alot and she would say extremely nasty things about my parents.

4. Present situation-

She once falsely called the cops on him saying he hit her but the cops couldn't find any proof for her allegations despite the fact that my brother spent a night in Jail because of that. She would continue to instigate him. Moreover the interference of her mother regarding tiny matters that then became huge ones to cause fights between the couple and our family. On many occasions she has called my parents to abuse them. My parents begged her Mama to convince her to take my brother out of the jail and to drop the charges which we knew were false. She faked marks on neck and stuff and clicked pictures. They would live separately on multiple occasions. She would also threatened him with court case and dragging my parents and me with false allegations. Everyone in my family was depressed and stressed because of that especially my brother. She herself filed for divorce and insisted to file in India but my brother insisted for UK. Then the cooling period of 6 months ended and now she isn't filing for divorce and says she'll drag him to court in India. I don't know what to do. My brother is not ok mentally, he has panic attacks. We belong to a reputed family and all this is tarnishing our image in the society. She has already called each and every relative making false allegations that he hits her etc etc which isn't true. She sends him long messages speaking bad even about my dead father. Papa was our support and it hurts to undergo everything all at once.

I'd truly appreciate some guidance in this regard. Thanks a lot. Think of me like your younger sister and help me out please. I'm willing to connect on call for further details.