u/HealthNo2829

My mother had arranged marriage and her husband turned out to be a drunkard and good for nothing ( he barely had elementary education while my mother has done graduation. It is even possible that he is kicked from his house by his siblings). My mother divorced him and since then, we live in our maternal grandparents house.

It is a very well known fact that my Maami ( maternal aunt) hates my mother. She has even mentioned it many times that her parents married her in this house only because of the only son ( my maama, uncle, is the only son).

Now things are very cold in our household ever since my grandmother mentioned she wants the pension in her own hands because she has to go through cataract surgery. My grandfather had a government job and after his death, grandmother gave every document and pension to my uncle. All my Mausis and my mother (4 sister and 1 brother in total) all signed the papers as grandfather put everyone under his name.

so from the last 2 years, my aunt( maami) has become very hostile.

So, continuously we are reminded that it is fine for her to act because it is her house after all while we are just passing time.

Few days back, when I confronted my aunt about her behaviour, she started making a scene. Her daughter video called her father while saying stuff like why did you marry me? and started hitting herself seeing which I left immediately. She started hitting her bangles on the kitchen counter and it cut her. Two of my neighbours came rushing when hearing her daughter continuously crying and pleading her mother to stop. She went to the hospital and the doctor just cleaned the wound. When she came back, she just laid down on the street outside the house and crying while her husband and kids were all trying to calm her down. She continuously saying stuff like If my daughter messes her exam, I am going to kill either A or B ( assume Me and my sister), they have ruined my marriage and now my daughters life will be ruined. Her daughter called her maternal uncles.

Does it have anything to do with the property or is she having a hard time with her 5 children in this economy? or why she doing this? she has done this drama before as well when my grandfather died.

I am in shock as I don't have any legal knowledge regarding this.

I came across a reel on Instagram which was a stitch reel. It had a woman who was guiding on how to write names on paper and do stuff to it.

To this whole process the stitch women explained that many people think of it as a meaningless ritual which does not hold any value or real meaning to it. But what they forget to understand is the intent behind it which is our suppressed emotions from incidents, people which many people are not able to process for years and hence they feel stuck and unable to move on. This ritual can be seen as the understanding, acceptance and hence, materialization of our intangible feelings.

She, later, mentioned the studies with two groups of people. One performed "rituals" and moved on quickly while others didn't do anything for their emotional turmoil and the difference was significant in both the groups.

This made me realize that there have been many instances in my life where I used to process stuff even after one or two years since it happened. I used to play the entire incident in my head. Dialogue to dialogue. Expression to expression.

Now is a very critical time in my life and I believe I must let go people and stuff that happened to me. And also the people that are currently in my life affecting me in ways that confuse me if it is right or am I just overreacting.

where can I learn to do it for my own peace of mind? where can I contact? i am tired and sick of feeling like I should just let it go and later realize that It comes back to haunt me even after years. This is enough.

For the 2025 graduates.

Also if I give improvement exams for a few subjects, will my degree get delayed?

yeh automatically carry forward nahi krte kya? like I filled in for improvement and the admin told me to update every subject teacher to carry forward marks and tell them that I wish to appear only in theory..

will it cause any discrepancy in my marks if teachers somehow mess up and don't update or some teachers just don't care? as I will passout and I will need my marksheet and degree..

so I have filled in for a few theory improvement exams. now when I went to submit the fee ss in the office, the admin told me to tell all the teachers to carry forward my ia and ca marks..

I didn't know the marks were not automatically carried like previously also I have given improvement but I just simply didn't go to the practical and teacher called me and simply carry forwarded practical marks. same with ia and ca.

are bhai mujhe improvements dene h but idk if any of my improvement exams will overlap with my pg entrance test..

I have been trying to gain for so long but diet is what I am struggling with and seeing almost no result in the mirror and only gaining strength, it's confusing. do I need to eat even more?

how long were you consistent in the gym and with diet when you started seeing differences in your body?