u/Growth_Still

Hey all!! I’ve had nexplanon since 2021, got a new one in early 2024. However, in the end of 2024-early 2025, I had a near 20lb weight gain. I also get my period about 2x a month for the past two years.

I’ve spoken to my gyno about this and she’s been pretty dismissive, I am currently searching for a new one.

I have some other symptoms like hair on my chin and areolas which is new too, some on my stomach as well. I suspect that I may have PCOS. I don’t know if the nexplanon is the issue, but the extremely irregular periods are concerning. My gyno chalked it up to diet and exercise but I am very fit and workout several times a week, walk daily, and eat very healthy.

I started using a period tracker about a year ago because I couldn’t keep track and realized that it’s been consistent with biweekly periods for awhile now. They are heavy flows too.

Any advice here? Did other experience these symptoms? I didn’t have these issues with nexplanon the first time around. I was 21 when I got it and am now 26, I know my body is changing but am pretty much ready for it to be done. Have ya’ll lost weight when getting it out? Periods go back to normal? Any advice or commentary is helpful. Tyia!!

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Looking for some advice here. I (F27) met a nice guy off Hinge (M30) and have gone on a few dates. I can tell he’s being intentional, he’s respectful and funny. I feel like I sometimes don’t find him attractive and then sometimes I do, but I want to give it a chance. He’s really, really introverted and I’m a big extrovert but he definitely seems like he’s opening up to me.

Last night, he took me out to dinner, it was fun, good conversation. After dinner, we walked back to his and hung out for a bit before hooking up but it just *wasn’t good*. I felt like even kissing him wasn’t enjoyable and he didn’t really take control the way I wanted him to. I did communicate like hey, this is kind of what I like etc but he just sort of mumbled and would start laughing which I honestly found frustrating and it killed the vibe for me.

He was also kind of unable to perform and this is the second time we’ve hooked up and this happened. I tried my best to have empathy because I realize he was likely nervous but the positions I was in were not what I like and I just didn’t feel any remote attraction to him as we started to hook up. I do feel like I’ve kinda been forcing myself to find him attractive when I don’t and feel really bad. He’s been so lovely so far and I don’t want to make him feel bad or insecure but I’m getting the sense that the attraction thing isn’t going to change with time. Just unsure of what to do and if I should keep seeing him or end it, but am unsure of how to end it without hurting his feelings.

I mainly feel conflicted because if the roles were reversed, I’d be acting like the kind of guy who has hurt *me* in the past. Like it’s superficial to see someone for a bit, hookup, not like it, and move on, when this person is clearly making an effort. I can tell he’s shy and is making a big effort to try and be more out there with me but I just am not finding him attractive when we are intimate.

- TLDR: Been seeing a guy who is extremely kind and nice and funny and sweet and clearly has good intentions, but the attraction is dwindling for me because the hookups have been bad. AITAH for wanting to end it over bad sex?

So I work on a small team with less than 15 people. I’m pretty close with one of my colleagues, we were hired at the same time and are around the same age. We’ve hung out a bit outside of work too and have fun, but I find that she mirrors me a lot and will often copy things I say and do. I honestly find it annoying at times but know it’s a form of flattery and do like her.

However. She calls me when im on vacation. My calendar will clearly be marked for out of office and the team is well aware respecting space when we have time off.

First time, I was in Portugal for a few weeks and she called me and just wanted to “yap about work” which I didn’t mind, but found it odd considering the time difference with the US and all.

Second time, I was on a ski vacation with friends and she called because she had a “question” about something. Was literally about nothing.

Third time, I was at a professional development course and she called me, asking if I knew where to find a thing to send to a client. Like that’s literally our whole job, she should know. She said “oops I didn’t realize you’re probably still at your thing, right?” But everyone knew I was out and I wasn’t in any team meetings that week and was literally in another state.

I find it so annoying and I’m obviously not going to answer if and when she does it again. When she’s on vacation I don’t even think about calling her or anything. If I have something to share I’ll send it to her work chat so she sees it when she gets back. I don’t know why she always does this to me. AIO!?