u/Goldenshrimpb

I (F 23) caught my boyfriend (M 23) masturbating to thirst traps.

For context, I am a very understanding girlfriend and we have a healthy relationship. We have been together for five years and we rarely fight. But this time, I accidentally discovered his secret account, and he used this account to watch thirst traps. I don’t like prying because I respect his privacy, but as a human who accidentally discovered it, I can’t help but feel bothered (I’m just a human with emotions).

I am well aware that he can be horny sometimes because he frequently goes to the gym and his testosterones are rising up. I know that masturbating is normal because everyone does it. I wouldn’t even mind if he watches porn as a way of stimulation since porn is INTENDED for stimulation.

But as for thirst traps, these are random girls in the internet, and what’s bothering me is that porn is there INTENDED for stimulation, while thirst traps is NOT PURELY INTENDED for stimulation since some of these girls are not really doing any form of sexual invitation but they just happen to be attractive or hot.

After multiple attempts of confronting him, he admitted that he masturbates to thirst traps. He also said that he is basing on their ATTRACTIVE FACES, and this is where it’s bothering me. If he is aroused because of their faces, then why can’t I be the source of his arousal when I am his girlfriend? why does his source of arousal have to be to other girls in the internet? Am I overreacting? Am I lacking as a girlfriend since we aren’t really sexually active (the best we could do is oral)?

Problem/Goal: I (F 23) caught my boyfriend (M 23) masturbating to thirst traps.

Context: I am a very understanding girlfriend and we have a healthy relationship. We have been together for five years and we rarely fight. But this time, I accidentally discovered his secret account, and he used this account to watch thirst traps. I don’t like prying because I respect his privacy, but as a human who accidentally discovered it, I can’t help but feel bothered (I’m just a human with emotions).

I am well aware that he can be horny sometimes because he frequently goes to the gym and his testosterones are rising up. I know that masturbating is normal because everyone does it. I wouldn’t even mind if he watches porn as a way of stimulation since porn is INTENDED for stimulation.

But as for thirst traps, these are random girls in the internet, and what’s bothering me is that porn is there INTENDED for stimulation, while thirst traps is NOT PURELY INTENDED for stimulation since some of these girls are not really doing any form of sexual invitation but they just happen to be attractive or hot.

Previous Attempts: After multiple attempts of confronting him, he admitted that he masturbates to thirst traps. He also said that he is basing on their ATTRACTIVE FACES, and this is where it’s bothering me. If he is aroused because of their faces, then why can’t I be the source of his arousal when I am his girlfriend? why does his source of arousal have to be to other girls in the internet? Am I overreacting? Am I lacking as a girlfriend since we aren’t really sexually active (the best we could do is oral)?

I (23 F) caught my boyfriend watching thirst trap (23 M) as a gooning material. I don’t mind if he watches porn since it is intended for stimulation but I feel uncomfortable with thirst traps because of the idea that he is aroused with random (not in the porn industry) girls who just happen to look hot in the videos. It’s bothering me because it’s making me feel insecure, especially that some of these girls have opposite features from me. I confronted him about it and he even admitted that he goons based off their “faces” and that’s bothering me much more.

It would be more understandable if it was porn since it was really intended for stimulation, but I really don’t know what to feel with thirst traps, it just doesn’t sit right to me. I feel a bit betrayed because if he really was just basing on faces, then why can’t I be the source? Why does it have to be on random girls?