u/Gold_Hair_7904

I applied for international protection in Poland during October 2024.

THAT IS 18 MONTHS! It’s supposed to be a 6 month process or in “some cases” 15 months (they do this with everyone and get away with it).

Anyways in September they “froze the time limit” with some law from 2022 apparently but isn’t this a violation of a Dublin regulation?

During the freeze they used the time to focus on Ukrainian migrants which is odd to me considering that the majority of Ukrainian migrants have already been processed long ago.

I might be cooked, eu migration pact is rolling around during my “deadline”, any advice?

dating 2 years and living together for 1. I've realized that my feelings for the relationship died and I really needed her to marry me to help me stay in the country but she kept moving the goal post over and over, proposed last year and still her parents don't even know about it. besides the marriage most of the financial responsibilities and chores are on me.

I have made so much sacrifices but she couldn't make one for me which is something I sat her down for at the start of the relationship and made clear my intent.

I feel like I got used and also it seems that either way in the future I will have to move out of this country due to the racism and lack of opportunity for foreigners, I already made up my goals and they don't involve staying here and she has made it clear to me that there is absolutely no way she sees herself ever leaving.

also in terms of relationship she never thinks I'm doing enough for her, she wants to have an open phone policy even though I have never given her reason to mistrust me and I like my privacy + I let her use my phone whenever and she knows my passcode. she still ignored me once and went through my phone behind my back and got mad at me when she found texts from way before we started dating or even met (she still brings it up).

our sex life isn't up to much either now.

TL;DR our plans don't align and I have lost feelings, I want to break it off around June, how do I tell her to leave and move back in with her parents?

We have been living together for over a year, the relationship is over two years, and I feel the relationship is dead. All I’ve wanted since the start is to get married. Made it clear and proposed early.

It wasn’t possible due to some paperwork and me being an immigrant but when it did become possible she started to move the goal post over and over.

I’m trying to be a bit vague cause a friend of hers is on a similar sub. I’ve provided financial support, do most chores and I really believe I’ve made her the happiest she can be but without my one condition of the marriage being met.

Now I’ve come to realize the relationship is dying and I’ve dropped the plan to get married and I plan on breaking up not just cause it’s not working out but I will not stay in the country most likely in the future and better separate

now than later and she doesn’t see a future at all outside this country.

Staying in this country is impossible for me due to the tremendous amount of racism and lack of opportunity for foreigners. Also she hasn’t even told her parents that we are getting married. I’ve simply lost feelings.