u/Girl-bunny5609

I really hate when people casually throw around words like anxiety, depression, or OCD without understanding what they actually mean.

If someone worries a little too much, suddenly people say, “Oh, he has anxiety too, just like you.”

If someone likes keeping things clean, they say, “I’m so OCD.”

No. That’s not how it works.

These aren’t just personality traits or moods. For some people, these things affect their whole life. Their thoughts, sleep, relationships, energy, everything.

What annoys me the most is when people compare someone else’s “small stress” to what I go through. Like they think it’s all the same. They don’t see the intensity because many of us don’t even fully share it with others. Even people close to us may never know how hard it actually gets.

And depression is another one people misuse all the time. Being sad for a few days is not the same as depression. Having actual depression can make even basic things feel impossible.

I’m not saying people can’t struggle. Everyone struggles differently. But I wish people would stop using these heavy words so casually.

Mental illness is not a trend, a joke, or a random adjective. And people who truly suffer from it deserve to be understood, not compared or minimized.

Don’t want to sound like the bad person here, but I genuinely need some perspective.

I met my current boyfriend 8 months ago on a dating app. We’ve been long-distance the entire time and have only met 4–5 times, but it’s always been serious for me.

When we started dating, I didn’t properly delete my account,I removed my photos and paused it, assuming my profile wouldn’t be visible anymore(That’s on me, I should’ve handled it better)

Recently, I opened the app again after a long time and saw a lot of requests, which confused me because I thought my account was inactive. A few days later, my boyfriend’s friend told him he saw my profile and that it showed me as “ONLINE.”

I honestly don’t understand how that happened😭😭 and I know opening the app again probably made things worse. But I didn’t cheat or talk to anyone I never intended to.

Now my boyfriend wants to end things, and I understand why he feels hurt or betrayed. I’m not trying to stop him if that’s what he needs, but it still hurts because I never wanted the relationship to end like this.

Don’t want to sound like the bad person here, but I genuinely need some perspective.

I met my current boyfriend 8 months ago on a dating app. We’ve been long-distance the entire time and have only met 4–5 times, but it’s always been serious for me.

When we started dating, I didn’t properly delete my account,I removed my photos and paused it, assuming my profile wouldn’t be visible anymore(That’s on me, I should’ve handled it better)

Recently, I opened the app again after a long time and saw a lot of requests, which confused me because I thought my account was inactive. A few days later, my boyfriend’s friend told him he saw my profile and that it showed me as “ONLINE.”

I honestly don’t understand how that happened😭😭 and I know opening the app again probably made things worse. But I didn’t cheat or talk to anyone I never intended to.

Now my boyfriend wants to end things, and I understand why he feels hurt or betrayed. I’m not trying to stop him if that’s what he needs, but it still hurts because I never wanted the relationship to end like this.