u/Future-Leadership271

I have a daughter who’s been married for a decade and has 2 young kids. I divorced my ex wife a couple decades ago. Last month, I found out my daughter had cheated on her husband at a bachelorette party 3 years ago. One of my daughter’s friends from the party told me about it last month.

I was obviously pretty shocked and asked my daughter about it, and my daughter seemed nervous but she confessed to it. She told me it was only a one time thing, and that she’s regretted it every day since and been the best possible wife she could be for her husband. However I told my daughter I cannot remain silent while I watch my son in law slog his butt off to provide for the family. My son in law is such a nice gentleman, and I was really happy my daughter chose to marry him.

I told my daughter either she had to tell him or I would. I gave her two weeks, and even after 2 weeks my daughter had still not told him about what she did. My daughter was begging me a lot and crying pretty badly not to tell him. I could see this was adding a lot of stress to her life, so I decided to just rip the bandaid off and tell him. He was obviously pretty shocked and even broke down in tears and it was tough to see his reaction.

They are currently looking at marriage counseling, but he has told me personally he’s most likely going to look for a divorce. My daughter’s obviously been going through a tough time, and I also bad for the kids as their house is sort of going through a turmoil.

But personally, I just don’t think I could have remained silent to my daughter cheating, especially because my son in law is such an amazing gentleman, he’s been really nice to me over the years. Was I wrong for what I did?

I have a daughter who’s been married for a decade and has 2 young kids. I divorced my ex wife a couple decades ago. Last month, I found out my daughter had cheated on her husband at a bachelorette party 3 years ago. One of my daughter’s friends from the party told me about it last month.

I was obviously pretty shocked and asked my daughter about it, and my daughter seemed nervous but she confessed to it. She told me it was only a one time thing, and that she’s regretted it every day since and been the best possible wife she could be for her husband. However I told my daughter I cannot remain silent while I watch my son in law slog his butt off to provide for the family. My son in law is such a nice gentleman, and I was really happy my daughter chose to marry him.

I told my daughter either she had to tell him or I would. I gave her two weeks, and even after 2 weeks my daughter had still not told him about what she did. My daughter was begging me a lot and crying pretty badly not to tell him. I could see this was adding a lot of stress to her life, so I decided to just rip the bandaid off and tell him. He was obviously pretty shocked and even broke down in tears and it was tough to see his reaction.

They are currently looking at marriage counseling, but he has told me personally he’s most likely going to look for a divorce. My daughter’s obviously been going through a tough time, and I also bad for the kids as their house is sort of going through a turmoil.

But personally, I just don’t think I could have remained silent to my daughter cheating, especially because my son in law is such an amazing gentleman, he’s been really nice to me over the years. Was I wrong for what I did?

I (26M) have a girl best friend (26F) I’ve known since kindergarten. We were super close growing up, helped each other through traumas, and I also had a huge crush on her and was sort of in love with her. 6 years ago, I asked her out, and she rejected me kindly and told her she doesn’t have the same feelings for me. It obviously stung, and I took some space, but our friendship resumed to normal after that.

We both got jobs in different states after graduating college, however last year, she got a job in my state, and she lives just a few minutes from me now. We’ve been spending a lot more time these past few months, going out on dates, movies, hikes etc. Last week when we were out on a romantic dinner she admitted she was in love with me and gave me a 5 page handwritten love letter. I was obviously super stoked and I told her I was always in love with her, and she seemed really emotional about it. We then made out for a bit and it was great and really emotional. However after that, she broke down in tears and admitted that she had HSV2 and that he wanted to be honest and let me know before we proceeded with further intimacy.

Obviously I was a bit shocked after hearing that, and I guess she could see my instant reaction and I felt bad. She tried to hold my hand and come closer to me, but I just freaked out and backed away. I apologized for my reaction and told her I just need some space, and I felt bad because she seemed really sad and was sort of crying.

She’s been texting me a lot this past week, and to be honest, I think I lost all my feelings for her after I found out she has HSV2. I am sort of a health freak, I think I got it from my sister. I’ve also booked appointments to get all my tests done. I asked my sister if I was being too judgmental and if I should give my friend a chance, and my sister told me never in a millions years to do it and it wasn’t worth it. She said my friend should have told me before she kissed
me and it was wrong of her to hide that information from me.

Am I wrong for not wanting to pursue a relationship with my girl best friend? We are really compatible in every other way, know each other inside and out, work in the same field, can talk and joke for hours on end. But I just don’t think I can’t mentally get over her having HSV2. Also my sister told me it feels weird that my friend would only pursue me after she got HSV2, kind of like I’m a backup option. She told me I need to have more self respect.

So my ex wife and I were married for almost 17 years and we have two kids (15M, 15F). A few months ago, my ex wife told me she wanted a divorce, and I was shocked by it. She told me she wasn’t in love with me anymore. She was really apologetic and I suggested everything possible to save the marriage like couples counseling or therapy but she didn’t want it. Our divorce was finalized last month.

My sister too was surprised and sort of pissed, and she did some investigation of her own, and found out that my ex wife’s been seeing some guy, and she told me my ex wife most likely was cheating on me with this guy. She also told me my ex wife only sees him when the kids are away. I was obviously pretty sad about it, but tried to let it go.

My kids though have been able to sense it, and I told them it’s nothing, and tried to put on a happy face and be a great dad to my kids. However, my sister was over at my place last week, and my kids asked her about me, and my sister told them everything my ex wife was doing and even show them the photos. I can’t really blame my sister because I think I would have told my kids sooner rather than later too.

However, what I didn’t expect was my kids reaction too, especially my daughter’s. My daughter has been calling her mom all sorts of words like sl*t, wh*re etc, and I’m not really stopping her venting.

Am I wrong for not stopping my daughter from venting about her mom?

Wife and I have been married for 15 years and we have 2 kids under 10. We have a pretty solid life, own a home, have great careers, go on romantic dates and vacations etc. 4 years ago, my wife went through sort of a mid life crisis and was open and honest with me about it. She told me she fell for a dude at work, and made the mistake of confessing her feelings for him and he confessed his feelings to her too. I was obviously pretty hurt, but did not consider divorce and wanted to work through our marriage to get the spark back. We went to couples therapy, and that was the best decision we could have ever made, and we did a lot of things to reignite that “spark” in our marriage.

My wife even changed jobs after that and she was very grateful that I was understanding and was also very apologetic about developing feelings for her co worker. I was still sort of hurt by it, but my wife was very open and honest and was willing to do anything to reignite the marriage instead of just stepping out so I was grateful for that.

Well it’s been 4 years since then and I’m sort of going through my own midlife crisis now, except I actually want a divorce. I don’t want to be married to someone who developed feelings for someone else. I‘ve told my wife what I’m feeling and my wife has been crying a lot asking to save the marriage and asking about counseling or therapy or anything, and I told her I’m not interested.

I understand we have two young kids, and this would result in split homes for them. I understand financially divorce would be tough. I understand my wife loves me a lot and is trying to do anything to save the marriage. But I don’t think I love my wife. I want to be single and free and date again and to be a great dad to my kids.

I have admittedly stopped a close friendship with a woman recently when I think the emotional boundaries were being crossed and she was complimenting me lot. But it just made me realize I’ve never felt like this ever in the last 4 years. The excitement and the nervous energy and sparks. My wife destroyed the love I had for her. I am in the best shape of my life, it’s just that mentally, I think I would be better if I was single. Am I wrong for feeling this way?

Wife and I have been married for 15 years and we have 2 kids under 10. We have a pretty solid life, own a home, have great careers, go on romantic dates and vacations etc. 4 years ago, my wife went through sort of a mid life crisis and was open and honest with me about it. She told me she fell for a dude at work, and made the mistake of confessing her feelings for him and he confessed his feelings to her too. I was obviously pretty hurt, but did not consider divorce and wanted to work through our marriage to get the spark back. We went to couples therapy, and that was the best decision we could have ever made, and we did a lot of things to reignite that “spark” in our marriage.

My wife even changed jobs after that and she was very grateful that I was understanding and was also very apologetic about developing feelings for her co worker. I was still sort of hurt by it, but my wife was very open and honest and was willing to do anything to reignite the marriage instead of just stepping out so I was grateful for that.

Well it’s been 4 years since then and I’m sort of going through my own midlife crisis now, except I actually want a divorce. I don’t want to be married to someone who developed feelings for someone else. I‘ve told my wife what I’m feeling and my wife has been crying a lot asking to save the marriage and asking about counseling or therapy or anything, and I told her I’m not interested.

I understand we have two young kids, and this would result in split homes for them. I understand financially divorce would be tough. I understand my wife loves me a lot and is trying to do anything to save the marriage. But I don’t think I love my wife. I want to be single and free and date again, and to be a great dad to my kids. I have admittedly stopped a close friendship with a woman recently when I think the emotional boundaries were being crossed and she was complimenting me lot. But it just made me feel really good and I realized I have never felt like that in the past 4 years. I am in the best shape of my life, it’s just that mentally, I think I would be better if I was single. Am I wrong for feeling this way?

My ex wife and I were married for almost 15 years, and we finalized our divorce a decade ago. She had cheated on me with her co worker. I won’t lie, it stung pretty bad, and I was a mess. I have 2 daughters (27F, 25F) who we were teens at the time and it definitely affected the household.

It’s been more than a decade since, both my daughters have gotten married over the past couple of year:, and my eldest daughter even had a baby recently and I’m being an active grandad in her life. Both my daughters are no contact with their mom and did not invite her to their wedding. My eldest daughter doesn’t want her son to have any contact with her mom.

I feel bad because I understand the influence I had in their decision. After I found out about the cheating, I spent years badmouthing their mom to them. I said pretty horrible and pretty nasty things about my wife which definitely had an influence on them. However, I have a pretty happy life now, I have a great relationship with my daughters and am looking forward to being a grandad.

However, my ex wife has occasionally been FaceTiming me and begging me to speak to my daughters and telling me that she can’t handle not being in their lives and that she feels like a failure. She has cried a lot on those calls and talked about k*lling herself and I felt bad. I haven’t blocked my ex wife, and still respond to her calls, because I don’t believe in blocking people.

However, I just don’t have interest in telling my daughters to resume contact with their mom. They are grown adults, it’s up to them whether they want their mom in their lives. Personally, I do feel they’ve moved on from their mom, they’re both happily married, and have a such a positive outlook on life, and I think their mom might just add a dark cloud on them.

Am I wrong for staying silent about it?

My ex wife and I were married for almost 15 years, and we finalized our divorce a decade ago. She had cheated on me with her co worker. I won’t lie, it stung pretty bad, and I was a mess. I have 2 daughters (27F, 25F) who we were teens at the time and it definitely affected the household.

It’s been more than a decade since, both my daughters have gotten married over the past couple of year:, and my eldest daughter even had a baby recently and I’m being an active grandad in her life. Both my daughters are no contact with their mom and did not invite her to their wedding. My eldest daughter doesn’t want her son to have any contact with her mom.

I feel bad because I understand the influence I had in their decision. When I found out about my wife cheating, I definitely badmouthed my wife a lot and said a lot of horrible things about her to my daughters. However, I have a pretty happy life now, I have a great relationship with my daughters and am looking forward to being a grandad.

However, my ex wife has occasionally been reaching out me and begging me to speak to my daughters and telling me that she can’t handle not being in their lives and that she feels like a failure. She has even sent videos where she was crying a lot and I felt bad. I haven’t blocked my ex wife, because I don’t believe in blocking people.

However, I just don’t have interest in telling my daughters to resume contact with their mom. They are grown adults, it’s up to them whether they want their mom in their lives. Personally, I do feel they’ve moved on from their mom, they’re both happily married, and have a such a positive outlook on life, and I think their mom might just add a dark cloud on them.

Am I wrong for staying silent about it?

So my ex wife and I finalized our divorce proceedings a few months ago. For context, my brother has 1 kid (8F). His wife sadly passed 6 years ago, and I’ve been there for him every step of the way, and developed a really close bond with his kid.

My brother confessed to me last year that he and my wife had a one time fling years ago. He said he couldn’t hold in the guilt anymore, especially after how much I’ve been there for him these past few years. He said it was a one time thing with my wife, just a few months after his wife passed away, when they were both drunk and he was crying a lot, and my wife consoled him and they ended up having sex. He said he’s felt horribly guilty about it ever since.

Obviously I felt a bit numb and nauseous after my brother’s confession. When I asked my wife about it, seeing her reaction pretty much confirmed that my brother was telling the truth, and I started looking into divorce proceedings.

It’s been a few months since the divorce, and my brother has been telling me how his niece has been crying a lot asking where I am and that he’s even had to put her in therapy for it, but that even therapy isn’t helping. He’s even sent a few videos where my niece was crying pretty badly asking where I am, and I won’t lie, it did hurt to see that.

But she’s not my responsibility anymore, and I told my brother that. I’m moving to a new state in a couple of months, starting fresh, and washing my hands of the stain of my brother and ex wife. I feel bad for my niece, I did develop a really close bond with her, I still have all the drawings she drew for me and the letters she wrote me,but I just don’t want to be in her father’s life anymore.

Am I wrong for cutting off my niece?

So my ex wife and I finalized our divorce proceedings a few months ago. For context, my brother has 1 kid (8F). His wife sadly passed 6 years ago, and I’ve been there for him every step of the way, and developed a really close bond with his kid.

My brother confessed to me last year that he and my wife had a one time fling years ago. He said he couldn’t hold in the guilt anymore, especially after how much I’ve been there for him these past few years. He said it was a one time thing with my wife, just a few months after his wife passed away, when they were both drunk and he was crying a lot, and my wife consoled him and they ended up having sex. He said he’s felt horribly guilty about it ever since.

Obviously I felt a bit numb and nauseous after my brother’s confession. When I asked my wife about it, seeing her reaction pretty much confirmed that my brother was telling the truth, and I started looking into divorce proceedings.

It’s been a few months since the divorce, and my brother has been telling me how his niece has been crying a lot asking where I am and that he’s even had to put her in therapy for it, but that even therapy isn’t helping. He’s even sent a few videos where my niece was crying pretty badly asking where I am, and I won’t lie, it did hurt to see that.

But she’s not my responsibility anymore, and I told my brother that. I’m moving to a new state in a couple of months, starting fresh, and washing my hands of the stain of my brother and ex wife. I feel bad for my niece, I did develop a really close bond with her, I still have all the drawings she drew for me and the letters she wrote me,but I just don’t want to be in her father’s life anymore.

Am I wrong for cutting off my niece?

So my wife (34F) and I (35M) and have been married for a decade and we have 2 kids. Over the past couple of years or so, I’ve gone through a major physical transformation through gym and diet. A lot of my family are shocked with how I look now, and my wife is really happy about it.

However, my wife’s asked me if I could limit working out because of my increased libido. For context, I had a pretty average libido prior to a couple years ago and now it’s extremely high. My wife isn’t really able to meet it, and I don’t blame her for it, but I do need to take care of needs often so I watch p*rn. My wife was never really against it, but now she says she’s uncomfortable with it and that maybe I should limit working out to reduce my libido.

I also had my T levels checked recently and they were extremely high, which surprises me because all I’ve done these past 2 years is just workout and diet, I haven’t taken any steroids or anything.

I’m not sure what I should do. Should I just reduce working out? I’ve already reduced it significantly, I only go thrice a week for a couple hours or so, but those 2 hours are extremely intense, and by the time I’m done my libido is through the roof.

I don’t really want to limit working out any further. I’ve also gotten a few compliments from strangers and at work, I’m not really looking for validation, but it does feel nice to be complimented.

What do I do?

I was married for over a decade and have 2 kids (16F, 14M). I finalized my divorce from my wife a few years ago after I find out she had been having an affair for months. I also found out that my sister had known about it all along.

My sister and my ex wife were childhood best friends, so I understood my sister having her back, but I just didn’t understand why it had to come at the expense of me. My sister and I were super close growing up, we were orphans taken in by our grandparents, and we had a really close bond growing up. So I just couldn’t how she could betray me like that.

It’s been a few years since the divorce and I’ve gone no contact with her, I’ve changed states, I’ve blocked her everywhere, but she still keeps reaching out through different emails or phone numbers. She always sends these long apologies on emails, talking about how she’s ended her friendship with her friend, how she misses our bond, how she going to therapy for what she did etc but I just don’t think it’s worth it to have a relationship with her anymore.

Am I wrong for feeling this way?

I was married for over a decade and have 2 kids (16F, 14M). I finalized my divorce from my wife a few years ago after I find out she had been having an affair for months. I also found out that my sister had known about it all along.

My sister and my ex wife were childhood best friends, so I understood my sister having her back, but I just didn’t understand why it had to come at the expense of me. My sister and I were super close growing up, we were orphans taken in by our grandparents, and we had a really close bond growing up. So I just couldn’t how she could betray me like that.

It’s been a few years since the divorce and I’ve gone no contact with her, I’ve changed states, I’ve blocked her everywhere, but she still keeps reaching out through different emails or phone numbers. She always sends these long apologies on emails, talking about how she’s ended her friendship with her friend, how she misses our bond, how she going to therapy for what she did etc but I just don’t think it’s worth it to have a relationship with her anymore.

Am I wrong for feeling this way?