u/Future-Ingenuity2227

I am long distance with my bf and he recently made a friend that I don’t know about. He has been spending a lot of time with her, exploring cafes during library lunch breaks. And I didn’t like it. Hes someone who is very social and makes friends very easily. That was one of the things that I loved about him before we got together

And then they posted a cutesy picture of getting matcha and i didn’t like it. We had a fight and he explained its just a friend and he consoled me and I was fine.

We are ldr anf he visited me this weekend. I took his phone to the bathroom cuz mine died. Very common between us. I saw a notification from her and opened their chat. Lots of meme exchanges and messages all okay. But here and there it crosses the line i feel. They bonded over horses I think and talked about gym.

My bf always tells people to always do more and have fun and is always encouraging. I saw a message that says she is going to the gym now and he said take pics or she sent a horse meme that says something wholesome ig and she asks “can we be horses in our mext life”.

Idk what to think. I got cheated in my last relationship and am struggling with this one. My bf has always had a lot of female friends and nothing bothered me but this does.

I want to be honest and tell him that I checked his phone so we can sort this but idk what to do now. What if its something or worse what if it’s nothing.

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u/Future-Ingenuity2227 — 10 days ago

Just gonna throw up my thoughts here. I feel very insignificant. I can never put myself first. Everyone always tells me i make myself small and don’t have confidence and I’m always too nice.

One of my bfs new friend made me insecure and i told him about it. It wasn’t a fight at all but i felt so sorry and that i let him down. I didn’t feel happy about myself and ended up crying despite him telling me that i don’t have to and he’ll give me any assurance he needs.

I anyways assume the fault was in me even in my workplace. I just accept any bs and convince myself that i dropped the ball somewhere. It’s like my default setting

I don’t think highly of myself, my body and don’t know how to love myself. I make myself small and keep throwing a pity party. I want to learn to love myself, put myself first and be strong and confident. I’m too comfortable being thee worst critic of myself and not being able to accept myself

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u/Future-Ingenuity2227 — 15 days ago

Just gonna throw up my thoughts here. I feel very insignificant. I can never put myself first. Everyone always tells me i make myself small and don’t have confidence and I’m always too nice.

One of my bfs new friend made me insecure and i told him about it. It wasn’t a fight at all but i felt so sorry and that i let him down. I didn’t feel happy about myself and ended up crying despite him telling me that i don’t have to and he’ll give me any assurance he needs.

I anyways assume the fault was in me even in my workplace. I just accept any bs and convince myself that i dropped the ball somewhere. It’s like my default setting

I don’t think highly of myself, my body and don’t know how to love myself. I make myself small and keep throwing a pity party. I want to learn to love myself, put myself first and be strong and confident. I’m too comfortable being thee worst critic of myself and not being able to accept myself

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u/Future-Ingenuity2227 — 15 days ago