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My (34F) husband (35M) has started calling me a bad mother. For context, we have a 2.5 year old and we live in an Asian country and we do have a live in nanny/helper for the last 4 months.

Before that, my husband and I used to split chores and baby duties. Everything was fine then, I had a traumatic birth experience that led to walking difficulties for at least 6 months and now constant backaches. My husband understood and was always hands on with baby care. Now we got a nanny and i have been letting the nanny handle my child’s meals and playtime. I have finally gotten some relief. The last couple of weeks, my husband has been berating me for letting the nanny feed and play with my child and constantly calls me a bad mother.

I’ve tried to explain to him that I need to recover mentally and emotionally from this whole child raising situation, I feel emotionally distant from child and I’m constantly tired. Some days I can’t even get out of bed. But he keeps calling me a bad mother. So much has happened since my child was born, from the loss of my job, death of my parent and raising my child who as a child refused to eat and sleep.

I know I’m not doing the best as a mother but I’m feel so mentally and physically checked out. What’s best situation for my child?

My (34F) husband (35M) has started calling me a bad mother. For context, we have a 2.5 year old and we live in an Asian country and we do have a live in nanny/helper for the last 4 months. Before that, my husband and I used to split chores and baby duties. Everything was fine then, I had a traumatic birth experience that led to walking difficulties for at least 6 months and now constant backaches. My husband understood and was always hands on with baby care. Now we got a nanny and i have been letting the nanny handle my child’s meals and playtime. I have finally gotten some relief. The last couple of weeks, my husband has been berating me for letting the nanny feed and play with my child and constantly calls me a bad mother. I’ve tried to explain to him that I need to recover mentally and emotionally from this whole child raising situation, I feel emotionally distant from child and I’m constantly tired. Some days I can’t even get out of bed. But he keeps calling me a bad mother. So much has happened since my child was born, from the loss of my job, death of my parent and raising my child who as a child refused to eat and sleep. I know I’m not doing the best as a mother but I’m feel so mentally and physically checked out. Is there any way to resolve this or should I just file for separation? I cannot deal with this daily berating.

My (34F) husband (35M) has started calling me a bad mother. For context, we have a 2.5 year old and we live in an Asian country and we do have a live in nanny/helper for the last 4 months. Before that, my husband and I used to split chores and baby duties. Everything was fine then, I had a traumatic birth experience that led to walking difficulties for at least 6 months and now constant backaches. My husband understood and was always hands on with baby care. Now we got a nanny and i have been letting the nanny handle my child’s meals and playtime. I have finally gotten some relief. The last couple of weeks, my husband has been berating me for letting the nanny feed and play with my child and constantly calls me a bad mother. I’ve tried to explain to him that I need to recover mentally and emotionally from this whole child raising situation, I feel emotionally distant from child and I’m constantly tired. Some days I can’t even get out of bed. But he keeps calling me a bad mother. So much has happened since my child was born, from the loss of my job, death of my parent and raising my child who as a child refused to eat and sleep. I know I’m not doing the best as a mother but I’m feel so mentally and physically checked out. Is there any way to resolve this or should I just file for separation? I cannot deal with this daily berating.