u/Fontnsun2016

I wish this were my first time posting but I have been spiraling out on Reddit for a few months now LOL. But, now it is time for a new question...

I am almost 30 and my husband is 30. We tried for about 10 months unsuccessfully, then did testing. There was mild male factor but with lifestyle changes, that has improved to good numbers. I have anovulatory/ovulatory dysfunction, meaning I need medication to ovulate, but when medicated (letrozole 5mg and trigger shot), I ovulate healthily. My lining has been great, all bloodwork and HSG and SIS came back normal.

I just failed our third IUI. While I understand we could eventually get pregnant "naturally" or via IUI, I have hit a huge wall emotionally. I am not a patient person, and I have wanted to be a mom for years. I feel like my life is stuck. I feel like a shell of myself. I am a mental and emotional wreck 25 out of 30 days of the month. I'm becoming a bad friend, wife, sister, and employee.

Financially, we can afford IVF. Is it ideal? No. But it wouldn't break us. All fertility procedures are out of pocket for us (freaking USA...).

Is it unreasonable to move to IVF if we fail this next (4th) IUI?

I wish this were my first time posting but I have been spiraling out on Reddit for a few months now LOL. But, now it is time for a new question...

I am almost 30 and my husband is 30. We tried for about 10 months unsuccessfully, then did testing. There was mild male factor but with lifestyle changes, that has improved to good numbers. I have anovulatory/ovulatory dysfunction, meaning I need medication to ovulate, but when medicated (letrozole 5mg and trigger shot), I ovulate healthily. My lining has been great, all bloodwork and HSG and SIS came back normal.

I just failed our third IUI. While I understand we could eventually get pregnant "naturally" or via IUI, I have hit a huge wall emotionally. I am not a patient person, and I have wanted to be a mom for years. I feel like my life is stuck. I feel like a shell of myself. I am a mental and emotional wreck 25 out of 30 days of the month. I'm becoming a bad friend, wife, sister, and employee.

Financially, we can afford IVF. Is it ideal? No. But it wouldn't break us. All fertility procedures are out of pocket for us (freaking USA...).

Is it unreasonable to move to IVF if we fail this next (4th) IUI?

Hi!

I had a fertility acupuncture session today. I am on my third IUI, about 12 days after the trigger shot and 11 days after the IUI. I am currently taking progesterone during the two week wait.

My practitioner told me today that my pulse was slippery, but that my liver pulse wasn't super low (but wasn't not low/wasn't indicating getting my period either). Once she placed needles, she felt it moving lower.

What do y'all think?

This morning I took a dollar tree veriquick test and had a VFL but I didn't test out my trigger. This morning would have been just over 12 DPT and right at 11 DPIUI. Last IUI my trigger was out by this time.

Please help ease my anxiety either way... how long did it take you to test out your trigger? I feel like this could easily be leftover HCG and I am really trying not to get my hopes up but it is so hard.

(Ovidrel 250)

Really wishing I had tested out my trigger!!
Trigger shot: CD13 May 28th at about 10:30pm
IUI: CD 14 May 30th at about 10:30am

Third IUI
One follicle 19mm and one 14mm on the CD11 scan
Lining was trilaminar and 7.9mm at CD11 scan
Sperm post wash was 38 mil with 82% motility
F29 and M30
TTC one year

I should have either tested out the trigger or waiting until my beta blood test but of course I couldn’t!!!

Here are pictures of my dollar tree test this morning. No idea if it’s left over trigger or early pregnancy - what do yall think?

Let first IUI my trigger was still there super faint on 10DPO and totally gone by 11DPO

REALLY trying not to get my hopes up but it’s impossible. Can someone validate me OR bring me back down to earth??

Currently in the TWW after my third IUI, and I’m really struggling with the idea that if you stress about it too much, your body won't do what you need it to do

After my second IUI I was pretty calm... I wasn't really symptom spotting or overthinking and I actually felt pretty confident, but it didn't work. This time around, I’m the complete opposite. I’ve been really anxious, upset, impatient, and stressed.

Now I can’t shake the feeling that I’ve somehow hurt my chances because of it, which is making the stress even worse.

How do y'all handle the pressure to try to stay calm? Do you think being stressed during the TWW actually makes a meaningful difference?

Would love to hear how others cope with any similar feelings

Hi everyone 🤍

I’m currently in the TWW after my third IUI and I keep spiraling a little about the whole “don’t stress or it won’t work” thing.

After my second IUI, I was so chill — like weirdly calm, not obsessing, barely symptom spotting… and it didn’t work.

This time (IUI #3), I’m the complete opposite. I’ve been reallyyyy anxious, overthinking every little thing, googling constantly, and just generally feeling super stressed most days. And now I’m worried I’ve basically ruined my chances because of it.

I guess I’m just looking for some reassurance or real experiences…

• Do you think stress actually impacts success that much?
• Has anyone been really stressed/obsessive during the TWW and still gotten a positive?

I feel like it’s impossible not to think about it, especially after multiple cycles, but the guilt is getting to me.

Would love to hear your experiences 🤍

Would you “count” earlier IUIs if sperm parameters were lower?

Hi everyone — would really appreciate some perspective from people who’ve been through this.

I just completed IUI #3, but there’s a bit of a twist in our situation:

- IUI #1: ~3M post-wash
- IUI #2: ~9M post-wash
- IUI #3: 38M, 82% motility

So this is the first cycle where sperm parameters were really in a strong/normal range.

I keep seeing that most people either conceive by IUI #3–4 or move on to IVF after that. But I’m wondering — does that “3–4 cycle” guideline assume that all cycles had similar/adequate parameters?

In other words, would you personally:
- Still count those first two IUIs the same?
- Or think of this more like the “first truly optimized cycle” and consider doing more IUIs before moving on?

I’m trying to balance being realistic with not jumping to IVF too quickly if our situation has actually improved.

Would love to hear how others (or your doctors) approached this 🙏

Would you “count” earlier IUIs if sperm parameters were lower?

Hi everyone — would really appreciate some perspective from people who’ve been through this.

I just completed IUI #3, but there’s a bit of a twist in our situation:

- IUI #1: ~3M post-wash
- IUI #2: ~9M post-wash
- IUI #3: 38M, 82% motility

So this is the first cycle where sperm parameters were really in a strong/normal range.

I keep seeing that most people either conceive by IUI #3–4 or move on to IVF after that. But I’m wondering — does that “3–4 cycle” guideline assume that all cycles had similar/adequate parameters?

In other words, would you personally:
- Still count those first two IUIs the same?
- Or think of this more like the “first truly optimized cycle” and consider doing more IUIs before moving on?

I’m trying to balance being realistic with not jumping to IVF too quickly if our situation has actually improved.

Would love to hear how others (or your doctors) approached this 🙏