She gave me my stuff back but I need to make sure she deletes all my personal data (we were looking for a flat so she has everything). Also she kept my ps4, where I’m still logged in, I don’t care about the console but she needs to log off.
Should I break NC to ask that? I really don’t want to.
Im wondering if I should cut my friend out of my life. My ex broke up and cheated and lied to me.
I went no contact the second she told me.
But we have a friend in common, that is talking to both of us. She doesn’t tell me anything about my ex, but she kinda justified her actions because she got her version.
What would you do in a situation like this?
Also if that’s relevant, we all live in different cities, so it’s not like I’ll run into my ex.
Im gonna give a bit of context for better understand my question and I’ll reply in comments if necessary.
For the past few months, things have been difficult with my gf of 5 years. She wouldn’t commit and still live together. Other from that we were happy together. But for the past 3 weeks, she has been in depression crisis, rethinking every aspects of her life (family, job, herself and our couple). So I gave her space, and it was hard and painful as I have anxious attachment. But I did it anyway, I fought, we fought. We talked a lot and told ourself we would get over it, together.
Yesterday, we met. I sensed instantly something was wrong. We was cheating. She « fell in love » with someone else and been with him. I left almost instantly, didn’t cared for details or apologizes.
Thing is, she came at my place the day before because I was away to take her stuff and give mine back. And she left a letter.
This letter is completely bullshit. She says I save her, made her someone better, that I am amazing all and all.
So now I feel so angry, she’s trying to clear her conscience, make it seems this is a clean breakup and she did the right thing. I’m so mad and I don’t want her to find peace. I want her to know that she screwed up so bad and that she is a bad person. I want her to face reality and consequences. I don’t want to just disappear and make it easy.
I will go no contact, but I think I need to tell her these things.
What do you think?
Im gonna give a bit of context for better understand my question and I’ll reply in comments if necessary.
For the past few months, things have been difficult with my gf of 5 years. She wouldn’t commit and still live together. Other from that we were happy together. But for the past 3 weeks, she has been in depression crisis, rethinking every aspects of her life (family, job, herself and our couple). So I gave her space, and it was hard and painful as I have anxious attachment. But I did it anyway, I fought, we fought. We talked a lot and told ourself we would get over it, together.
Yesterday, we met. I sensed instantly something was wrong. We was cheating. She « fell in love » with someone else and been with him. I left almost instantly, didn’t cared for details or apologizes.
Thing is, she came at my place the day before because I was away to take her stuff and give mine back. And she left a letter.
This letter is completely bullshit. She says I save her, made her someone better, that I am amazing all and all.
So now I feel so angry, she’s trying to clear her conscience, make it seems this is a clean breakup and she did the right thing. I’m so mad and I don’t want her to find peace. I want her to know that she screwed up so bad and that she is a bad person. I want her to face reality and consequences. I don’t want to just disappear and make it easy.
I will go no contact, but I think I need to tell her these things.
What do you think?
My girlfriend of 5 years is in a full depression phase for the second time. Her doctor prescribed her time of work and meds. She is now lost in every aspects of her life; family, job, hobbies and even our relationship.
I have a huge fear of abandonment and she’s now avoiding. I am then fully triggered, a lot of anxiety and fear all the time. We barely talk and meet. I’m afraid she is going to break up at any time.
I love her so much and I want to help her but there is nothing I can do. She said that only respecting the distance helps and she’s grateful for that. Then a day later she doesn’t know if she wants to be with me.
It is so hard to handle, I’m in a lot of pain.
Are there people like me here who have been through something similar? Anyone to talk? I feel so lonely. Everyone tells to stop and breakup. I don’t want to but I don’t know what to do. I want to be with her.
Help please
My girlfriend of 5 years is in a full depression phase for the second time. Her doctor prescribed her time of work and meds. She is now lost in every aspects of her life; family, job, hobbies and even our relationship.
I have a huge fear of abandonment and she’s now avoiding. I am then fully triggered, a lot of anxiety and fear all the time. We barely talk and meet. I’m afraid she is going to break up at any time.
I love her so much and I want to help her but there is nothing I can do. She said that only respecting the distance helps and she’s grateful for that. Then a day later she doesn’t if she wants to be with me.
It is so hard to handle, I’m in a lot of pain.
Are there people like me here who have been through something similar? Anyone to talk? I feel so lonely. Everyone tells to stop and breakup. I don’t want to but I don’t know what to do. I want to be with her.
Help please