u/Flybri08

So some really beautiful girl I see at my gym occasionally recently matched with me on tinder. I sent her a message but it’s been 2 days and no response. Silly question though, If she doesn’t reply should I just approach her at the gym when I see her? I don’t want to come off as desperate or anything. I’m sure she gets a lot of matches cause she’s really attractive. I mean I’ve been getting in good shape so I prolly stood out to her at the gym. I just don’t know what the best course of action is here if she doesn’t respond back on the app. I feel like it’s pretty bold to match with someone you see at the gym if you’re not truly interested or anything.

So some really beautiful girl I see at my gym occasionally recently matched with me on tinder. I sent her a message but it’s been 2 days and no response. Silly question though, If she doesn’t reply should I just approach her at the gym when I see her? I don’t want to come off as desperate or anything. I’m sure she gets a lot of matches cause she’s really attractive. I mean I’ve been getting in good shape so I prolly stood out to her at the gym. I just don’t know what the best course of action is here if she doesn’t respond back on the app. I feel like it’s pretty bold to match with someone you see at the gym if you’re not truly interested or anything.

So I’m pretty anxious about what the outcome of my case is gonna be when I receive the letter in the mail. I got an attorney to fight to have it modified for me. I have regular medical expenses cause of my traumatic glaucoma in left eye. We live an hour apart and the judge is considering a travel credit for the distance. The last 2 months my parents have been picking my daughter up for me cause me and her haven’t been getting along after she filed. I gave her an offer that was realistic for me to afford after all bills are said and done. She of course denied it. So it went to trial last week and my attorney had a strong argument for a modification.

After the judge mentioned the travel credit my ex spoke up and said my parents have been picking her up and that we aren’t communicating. I told the judge and my attorney that I give them gas money every week. The judge basically just shrugged it off and said she had no way to prove whether they’re doing it as a gift or not. I already did the math and I would be 200 dollar in the negative every month without working overtime after food, gas and all my bills.

My ex tried telling the judge that I should get a second job like she’s had to do to get by. She works multiple part time jobs under the table by the way and quit her bank job last year. So that’s why she’s struggling cause she doesn’t have a consistent income each week. I work 40-52 hours a week at my job. My days off are the only 3 days I get to see her. If I got a second job I would never see my daughter.

Anyone have a similar experience as me with child support and how did it turn out for you. I’m just anxious as to if I’ll ultimately owe the max amount or not and basically be at a default and possibly face jail time all because my ex doesn’t want to find a better job. My daughter’s grandparents on each side watch her for free too, so it’s not like she needs to be home cause she can’t afford childcare expenses. What are my options if I do get hit with the max amount and causes me to be unable to meet my basic needs? I heard it’s not easy to modify once the order is in place. But I need to be realistic with how much I can actually afford here. Also overtime at my job isn’t always available so I can’t rely on that either. Getting a second job would pretty much mean I hardly ever see my daughter and my relationship with her is more important than anything.

Edit: I’m just telling you guys my experience and asking for potential outcomes in my situation. So don’t really understand the people that are downvoting me when I’m just telling the facts of my situation and what I experienced in court.