u/FixAnxious5149

My husband and I are trying to relocation out of state. My ex and I share 50/50 custody. Legal and physical custody of our 2 children 7 and 17. My children’s father is currently homeless. And barely struggling to survive with 2 jobs. And has decided to not exercise parenting time for the past 4 1/2 months and decides to only see them for 5 hours a week. And sometimes that’s doesn’t happen. He has no support system here in California as well. And I’ve given him enough time to try to stabilize. But this is effecting my finances and our cost of living is through the roof, my husband owns a house out of state. And we are starting to destabilize as well. This is our only option because my husband lost his Job a year ago due to the fires. And he’s applied to over 1000 Jobs. We are going to be out on the street soon with our 4 children. What are our chances of RFO and relocation request being approved? Has anyone won this type of case before? What could we do to help this situation. I tried reaching out to my ex about this and he says no he doesn’t approve the move. But he doesn’t help financially or does not house the kids anymore.

Ok, where do is start, we have been married for 5 years and and together for 7 years. The baby mother has always had unresolved feelings for him. Since the day he moved on, mind you she was in a relationship with someone at the time. But since then we’ve had a restraining order on her for the first 3 years of our relationship and marriage. This is a high conflict situation. We’ve been to court many times regarding RFOs and emergency custody situations. The are required by court to talk on talking parents App, but when she doesn’t get her way. She calls him 10x in a row. She’s always trying to argue. She always wants one on one conversations with him. He has set boundaries. Only responds if it pertains to the kids. But she constantly brings up our marriage etc. why can’t she get over him? The kids are the ones that are suffering because the mom tries her hardest to alienate them. My husband went 3 years with out seeing his daughter because mom used dad as a punishment if she didn’t listen. She would say. “ if you don’t start acting right, you’re going to your dads”. Or she would drive the teenage to the house and threaten to drop her off with dad. The daughter told him husband. But judge won’t allow because it comes off as heresy here in California. We don’t know what to do.

Ok, where do is start, we have been married for 5 years and and together for 7 years. The baby mother has always had unresolved feelings for him. Since the day he moved on, mind you she was in a relationship with someone at the time. But since then we’ve had a restraining order on her for the first 3 years of our relationship and marriage. This is a high conflict situation. We’ve been to court many times regarding RFOs and emergency custody situations. The are required by court to talk on talking parents App, but when she doesn’t get her way. She calls him 10x in a row. She’s always trying to argue. She always wants one on one conversations with him. He has set boundaries. Only responds if it pertains to the kids. But she constantly brings up our marriage etc. why can’t she get over him? The kids are the ones that are suffering because the mom tries her hardest to alienate them. My husband went 3 years with out seeing his daughter because mom used dad as a punishment if she didn’t listen. She would say. “ if you don’t start acting right, you’re going to your dads”. Or she would drive the teenage to the house and threaten to drop her off with dad. The daughter told him husband. But judge won’t allow because it comes off as heresy here in California. We don’t know what to do.