u/Final-Equal-9720

Hey everyone, I'm not sure if this is the right sub for me to vent about this but I will post this here anyways.

I'm an introvert, and I don't have any issue with me being an introvert, nor do I ever try to change who I am to please people in any way shape or form.

I genuinely don't care about being disliked or judged for being me, and in my normal life, if I meet somebody new and we don't immediately hit it off or click, I just don't try to force a friendship or connection with that person at all. But sometimes when it's certain family members that you don't necessarily get along with, it hurts to realize that you're not even understood within your own family.

I have a great relationship with my parents and siblings, but when it comes to my sister in law, I don't hate her or anything dramatic like that, we do get along pretty well, but she is soooo extroverted, so being with her ends up draining me so much.

Basically she spent a whole week with us, with her baby, actually 10 days to be exact, and i really tried my best within that week to socialize and stuff, thinking she would leave soon. Unfortunately for me, turns out she will spend almost an extra month with us, and I genuinely have no more social energy left in me for not even an extra day.

So have just been hiding in my room trying to ride this wave. Here's the catch though, all of my family members are homebodies like me, but maybe im the most introverted one. Still, I get along super well with my parents and siblings usually, but whenever she comes to visit, my mom and sister go from being homebodies like me to basically going out every single day to please her. I know for a fact that they only do it out of politeness and that they would much rather stay home like we usually do. So seeing them all leave and basically switch sides just to accomodate her, makes me feel so out of place, and I start questionning if i even belong in this family.

One thought thats been on my mind for the past few days is that these are simply not my people, and I say that because when I am in the company of people that I genuinely like , who don't drain my energy, I never feel this way, I feel like i actually belong with these people, and being all smiley and talkative comes so naturally to me, I don't have to fake anything.

I've just been going through the motions of realizing that my family as i used to know it will no longer be the same, and unfortunately, and i say this with a very sad heart, even though i love my parents and siblings, but i guess im gonna have to visit less and see them less, so that i don't have to be put in thsese situations as often, cause this lifestyle is truly not for me. It's really so sad how she changes our dynamic even though she is a good person.

Sorry for this long post, i hope some of you could relate to me, and please tell me what other sub is a better fit for this post if this is not the right one.

Hey everyone, I'm not sure if this is the right sub for me to vent about this but I will post this here anyways.

I'm an introvert, and I don't have any issue with me being an introvert, nor do I ever try to change who I am to please people in any way shape or form.

I genuinely don't care about being disliked or judged for being me, and in my normal life, if I meet somebody new and we don't immediately hit it off or click, I just don't try to force a friendship or connection with that person at all. But sometimes when it's certain family members that you don't necessarily get along with, it hurts to realize that you're not even understood within your own family.

I have a great relationship with my parents and siblings, but when it comes to my sister in law, I don't hate her or anything dramatic like that, we do get along pretty well, but she is soooo extroverted, so being with her ends up draining me so much.

Basically she spent a whole week with us, with her baby, actually 10 days to be exact, and i really tried my best within that week to socialize and stuff, thinking she would leave soon. Unfortunately for me, turns out she will spend almost an extra month with us, and I genuinely have no more social energy left in me for not even an extra day.

So have just been hiding in my room trying to ride this wave. Here's the catch though, all of my family members are homebodies like me, but maybe im the most introverted one. Still, I get along super well with my parents and siblings usually, but whenever she comes to visit, my mom and sister go from being homebodies like me to basically going out every single day to please her. I know for a fact that they only do it out of politeness and that they would much rather stay home like we usually do. So seeing them all leave and basically switch sides just to accomodate her, makes me feel so out of place, and I start questionning if i even belong in this family.

One thought thats been on my mind for the past few days is that these are simply not my people, and I say that because when I am in the company of people that I genuinely like , who don't drain my energy, I never feel this way, I feel like i actually belong with these people, and being all smiley and talkative comes so naturally to me, I don't have to fake anything.

I've just been going through the motions of realizing that my family as i used to know it will no longer be the same, and unfortunately, and i say this with a very sad heart, even though i love my parents and siblings, but i guess im gonna have to visit less and see them less, so that i don't have to be put in thsese situations as often, cause this lifestyle is truly not for me. It's really so sad how she changes our dynamic even though she is a good person.

Sorry for this long post, i hope some of you could relate to me, and please tell me what other sub is a better fit for this post if this is not the right one.

Hey everyone, this is my first time writing in this sub, so please be kind.

I'm an introvert, and i've always loved that about myself, and I wouldn't change it for the world. I don't have energy for people, i don't like people but i don't hate them either, I just prefer to be alone than to be with anybody really. Of course I have "my people" that I click with without making any effort at all, the people with whom that connection is just so natural.

I'm not a mean person, but I'm also not a hypocrite, so when i don't really vibe with somebody, or when I'm tired of being with somebody, you can see it all over my face.

I struggle with my mind being mean to me, giving me bad thoughts about how i come off as very rude or whatever.

My issue is not with strangers, my issue is when the person I don't really vibe with is part of my family and someone that I have to see a few times a year, and in my case it's my sister in law. She's really nice, and we don't have any beef going on between us or anything, but she's a biiiiiig extrovert, like at the very end of the spectrum kind of extrovert, and that absolutely tires me out, I genuinely cannot interact with her or be with her for longer than a few days/ a week tops, because she genuinely drains my social battery to an all time low.

Again, I can't hide it when I'm tired of somebody, and I just hide in my room and don't come out until her and my brother and their baby are gone, whebever they come to visit, and I've never been confronted by her or anyone in the family but i do know that deep down they do sense the shift in my energy, and it just hurts me that no one gets this side of me, and that my family that once was an exception to my introvercy, my family that was once a source of comfort and peace to me, now got bigger and became something that i want to run away from, to find my said peace and comfort.

I'm currently in a very bad state because I am stuck at home where my sister in law and her baby will be staying with us for a pretty long time, and this genuinely got me thinking that i need to move out and be in a position where I can control how often I have to see the people that I'm just not that comfortable with.

I'm sorry that this is all over the place and too long, but i just wanted to hear your guys's opinions on this. Can anybaody relate with the feelings that I wrote? Am I actually being rude without noticing it?