I would love to understand this book despite the fact that I don’t really have much knowledge in basic physics. Is this realistic? I find it a bit difficult despite it being an introductory book, and feel a bit dumb. I’m considering just teaching myself physics fundamentals first but I’m not sure if I could power through it without doing this?
I’m 30F. I was just fired a few days ago from my serving job for poor performance and being caught with a medical marijuana vape. I live with my aunt and uncle who offered to let me come live with them rent free while I rebuild my life and savings after a failed relationship with my ex, who I was stuck living with.
I’ve been fired multiple times over the years, for being disorganized and not working quickly enough, particularly from almost every restaurant job I’ve had except for First Watch, where I worked for a year. I know I can serve, it just really depends on how comfortable and stimulated I am at work. If I feel watched or micromanaged, I easily lose confidence and my anxiety spirals into a self fulfilling prophecy that results in my being fired. If I am bored, (which was often the case at my recent job since it was so slow) I lose focus.
I smoke weed at work to tolerate being at work. I know this isn’t sustainable so I’m trying to only smoke at night before bed now.
All I want to do is read books. All day every day. And that is all I’ve been doing since I’ve been fired. My aunt said I do not need to stress about finding a new job yet, but I feel like a loser. I don’t know what I want to even do now for a job. Starting over again in a new restaurant around new people, a new menu, new seating arrangements, etc is fucking exhausting and daunting. I have no idea what I want to do for a career. I did well in school and used to be ambitious, but after my Dad died in 2018 I dropped out in my junior year of college and haven’t gone back yet.
I have a dog and have for 8 years now, and I’m overwhelmed with caring for her. I feel listless, lazy, tired, and all I want to do is read.
I do try to help out as much as I can around the house and be as useful as possible, but my dog possibly shit on the floor this morning and my uncle rolled through it in his wheelchair and then unbeknownst to him, all over the house tracking shit everywhere. My aunt is already burnt out being my uncles caregiver and doesn’t need more stress. They love my dog and my dog usually doesn’t have accidents in the house but I just feel like a loser who is getting in the way. They are so incredibly supportive of me but I just feel guilty and like a failure.
Meanwhile my ex(38M) is a successful strip club manager, wearing sophisticated suits and outfits and driving a 70s Chevy. And then there’s me, the college drop out living at home who can barely hold down a job or walk her dog consistently.
I recently moved in with my aunt and uncle. Ive lived here for 2 months so far. I have an 8 year old Pitt mix, and she’s always been very cuddly with me. But now she prefers to lay with my aunt whenever we are all watching tv on the couch. She looks so happy and comfy laying with my aunt on the other couch right now while I lay by myself with a blanket.
When we go to bed, she prefers to lay on the end of my bed now or in her crate than under the covers with me like we’ve always done. She also seems more excited and happy to see my aunt when she comes home than she does when I come home. Is this concerning at all, as in she likes my aunt more than she likes me? Otherwise she’s acting totally normal and is much happier since we’ve moved from my last house where I lived with my ex.
I’m just kinda bummed but I don’t know if I’m taking it too personally:( I love her and it makes me kinda sad.
I recently moved in with my aunt and uncle. Ive lived here for 2 months so far. I have an 8 year old Pitt mix, and she’s always been very cuddly with me. But now she prefers to lay with my aunt whenever we are all watching tv on the couch. She looks so happy and comfy laying with my aunt on the other couch right now while I lay by myself with a blanket.
When we go to bed, she prefers to lay on the end of my bed now or in her crate than under the covers with me like we’ve always done. She also seems more excited and happy to see my aunt when she comes home than she does when I come home. Is this concerning at all, as in she likes my aunt more than she likes me? Otherwise she’s acting totally normal and is much happier since we’ve moved from my last house where I lived with my ex.
I’m just kinda bummed but I don’t know if I’m taking it too personally:( I love her and it makes me kinda sad.
I (30F) started at a local restaurant a month ago as a server. It is renowned for being the best in the area. Before I worked here, I worked at First Watch for a year and did well there when I lived in a different state, but felt there were too many odd rules that corporate fixated on (such as not being allowed to use a server book for example) down here in Florida near headquarters, where I recently moved.
Serving dinner with appetizer courses is a little bit of an adjustment from First Watch, and I’ll be honest I was a bit forgetful about bringing out people’s appetizer salads or soups at the proper time. I would say I did bring them out at the right time most of the time, but whenever I didn’t, my GM happened to be right there and would notice and call me out for it. I could have having a great shift, would have customers complimenting me, but then would get the wrong customers who are very unforgiving about having an appetizer come out late, and my GM would hold that against me as if that is truly representative of my service.
For example one day I was having a good shift, no issues. Then I had a couple come in that told me right off the bat how they know the owners and this is their first time my company’s restaurant (they had been to their other restaurants around town). The customer told me how he wanted his Crown/Diet Pepsi tall with the Diet Pepsi on the side, and told me in an odd way, but I wrote it down exactly as he said it and when I brought it out as Crown on the rocks in a tall glass with Diet Pepsi on the side, he said “No no no no no, that is NOT what I ordered.” And reexplained to me. All he needed to do was pour the Diet Pepsi in his glass and ask for another Diet Pepsi. But anyway. He then orders his sandwich and specifies “NO SETUP.” I figured he meant no lettuce, tomato onion, etc but looked at him a little confused and he said “Oh, I guess you haven’t been a server long. I’m a server.” And condescendingly explained what he meant.
I was pretty anxious during this whole encounter and my mind blanked out and I couldn’t really function. My GM of course was the person who noticed all of this and went up to talk to them and convince them to give them another chance because at this point I was avoiding the table and they were extremely upset. Later I was written up for this because I gave a “very seasoned guest” bad service.
I asked for feedback from multiple managers and they said I was doing fine, that it’s a “challenging place to work,” “you’re going to make mistakes! You’ve only been here a month, it’ll just take time, dont worry.” One manager said he would have some difficulty with it and it would take him a couple of months to get into a groove.
I also have a lot of anxiety in restaurants from bad experiences in the past of being fired for my forgetfulness and disorganization. So whenever I make mistakes and especially if I have a GM that notices takes them very seriously, my anxiety ramps up and then I can’t think clearly enough to perform. I’ll start spiraling about how stupid I feel and blank out.
So one day I went up to one of my managers and asked them if they ever get anxious before work, and he said he does everyday. He coached me and gave me good advice and I felt very heard and supported. At the end of the shift, he prefaced by saying how I am not in trouble at all, but that at our restaurant we just have to document all conversations. He wrote in the comments how he had coached me to let loose more and have fun with the job. To me it looked like a write up, but he assured me everything was fine, so I wrote in the comments about how I appreciated the support and understanding from him and signed it.
I smoke medical marijuana and I bring my vape to work. It is discreet and doesn’t smell. I have been vaping more out back because it has been so slow since season ended and the snowbirds have gone home. My GM ended up finding it yesterday and told me after finding that, coupled with my performance, I was terminated. He had printed out my first write up with the GM about the crown/Diet Pepsi guy, and also the “write up” from the other manager that I was told wasn’t a write up, and used those against me.
As I was walked out with another manager, I asked him if I was really that bad at serving. He said no, he thought I was fine.
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I get that I’m not the most fantastic server. I am absentminded and forgetful in my daily life. But I overall had more happy guests leave than upset guests, and do not feel like my GM took a holistic view of my actual performance but highlighted and zoned in on any mistakes I made and used them against me. I do try, and I’m just not sure how to process this. I feel like a hopeless failure.
Another question I have. My ex boyfriend is a manager at a strip club, and brings his (pretty smelly) dab pen to work every day and shares it with the dancers, bartenders, etc. In an illegal state. How is he able to get away with this?
I started at a local restaurant a month ago. It is renowned for being the best in the area. Before I worked here, I worked at First Watch for a year and did well there when I lived in a different state, but felt there were too many odd rules that corporate fixated on (such as not being allowed to use a server book for example) down here in Florida near headquarters, where I recently moved.
Serving dinner with appetizer courses is a little bit of an adjustment from First Watch, and I’ll be honest I was a bit forgetful about bringing out people’s appetizer salads or soups at the proper time. I would say I did bring them out at the right time most of the time, but whenever I didn’t, my GM happened to be right there and would notice and call me out for it. I could have having a great shift, would have customers complimenting me, but then would get the wrong customers who are very unforgiving about having an appetizer come out late, and my GM would hold that against me as if that is truly representative of my service.
For example one day I was having a good shift, and had a couple come in that told me right off the bat how they know the owners and this is their first time my company’s restaurant (they had been to their other restaurants around town). The customer told me how he wanted his Crown/Diet Pepsi with the Diet Pepsi on the side, and told me in an odd way, but I wrote it down exactly as he said it and when I brought it out as Crown on the rocks in a tall glass with Diet Pepsi on the side, he said “No no no no no, that is NOT what I ordered.” And reexplained to me. All he needed to do was pour the Diet Pepsi in his glass and ask for another Diet Pepsi. But anyway. He then orders his sandwich and specifies “NO SETUP.” I figured he meant no lettuce, tomato onion, etc but looked at him a little confused and he said “Oh, I guess you haven’t been a server long. I’m a server.” And condescendingly explained what he meant.
I was pretty anxious during this whole encounter and my mind blanked out and I couldn’t really function. My GM of course was the person who noticed all of this and went up to talk to them and convince them to give them another chance. Later I was written up for this because I have a “very seasoned guest” bad service.
I asked for feedback from multiple managers and they said I was doing fine, that it’s a “challenging place to work,” “I’ve only been here a month, it’ll just take time, dont worry.” One manager said he would have some difficulty with it and it would take him a couple of months to get into a groove.
I also have a lot of anxiety in restaurants from bad experiences in the past of being fired for my forgetfulness and disorganization. So whenever I make mistakes and especially if I have a GM that notices takes them very seriously, my anxiety ramps up and then I can’t think clearly enough to perform. I’ll start spiraling about how stupid I feel and blank out.
So one day I went up to one of my managers and asked them if they ever get anxious before work, and he said he does everyday. He coached me and gave me good advice and I felt very heard and supported. At the end of the shift, he prefaced by saying how I am not in trouble at all, but that at our restaurant we just have to document all conversations. He wrote in the comments how he had coached me to let loose more and have fun with the job. To me it looked like a write up, but he assured me everything was fine, so I wrote in the comments about how I appreciated the support and understanding from him and signed it.
I smoke medical marijuana and I bring my vape to work. It is discreet and doesn’t smell. I have been vaping more out back because it has been so slow since season ended and the snowbirds have gone home. My GM ended up finding it yesterday and told me after finding that, coupled with my performance, I was terminated. He had printed out my first write up with the GM about the crown/Diet Pepsi guy, and also the “write up” from the other manager that I was told wasn’t a write up, and used those against me.
As I was walked out with another manager, I asked him if I was really that bad at serving. He said no, he thought I was fine.
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I get that I’m not the most fantastic server. I am absentminded and forgetful in my daily life. But I do try, and I’m just not sure how to process this. I feel like a hopeless failure.
What is wrong with people? How hard is it to remember salads? Absolutely unacceptable.
I work at a popular grill as a server. My shift starts at 10:30, restaurant opens at 11. It is now slow season here in Florida, so business is a lot slower everywhere, particularly in the mornings/afternoon shift. It will often take a good while until things start picking up. I’m not concerned about making money here, I know severs do well here overall particularly during season and during dinner shifts (which I don’t get often yet as a newbie). There’s definitely money to be made so I don’t plan on quitting.
In the mornings though, the hosts let people basically choose where to sit. And everyone chooses to sit in a certain area of the restaurant with the best views first, which often means my section is dead until noon. Servers will just stand around talking, or eating until they’re sat or while it is slow. There really isn’t anything to do. I could run food, but there is a food runner and there isn’t much to run. So I’ll run drinks for people at the bar when they are there. Sidework can’t be done till the end of the shift, and there is no silver to roll.
I am an introvert and I’m new here also. I have social anxiety. I prefer to be busy at work, and hate standing around awkwardly in a relatively new environment around a bunch of new people. So during these times I will pull out my Kindle and try to read a bit to kill time, (not in front of customers), while paying attention to the one or two tables I have of course.
My manager told me to put it away today.
So, what am I supposed to be doing in the morning when it’s slow if I don’t feel like chatting with coworkers? Assuming cups are all stocked, etc. Walking in laps around the restaurant? Standing and staring into space with a big smile plastered on my face?
I work at a popular grill as a server. My shift starts at 10:30, restaurant opens at 11. It is now slow season here in Florida, so business is a lot slower everywhere, particularly in the mornings/afternoon shift. It will often take a good while until things start picking up. I’m not concerned about making money here, I know severs do well here overall particularly during season and during dinner shifts (which I don’t get often yet as a newbie). There’s definitely money to be made so I don’t plan on quitting.
In the mornings though, the hosts let people basically choose where to sit. And everyone chooses to sit in a certain area of the restaurant with the best views first, which often means my section is dead until noon. Servers will just stand around talking, or eating until they’re sat or while it is slow. There really isn’t anything to do. I could run food, but there is a food runner and there isn’t much to run. So I’ll run drinks for people at the bar when they are there. Sidework can’t be done till the end of the shift, and there is no silver to roll.
I am an introvert and I’m new here also. I have social anxiety. I prefer to be busy at work, and hate standing around awkwardly in a relatively new environment around a bunch of new people. So during these times I will pull out my Kindle and try to read a bit to kill time, (not in front of customers), while paying attention to the one or two tables I have of course.
My manager told me to put it away today.
So, what am I supposed to be doing in the morning when it’s slow if I don’t feel like chatting with coworkers? Assuming cups are all stocked, etc. Walking in laps around the restaurant? Standing and staring into space with a big smile plastered on my face?