While it's not that big of a deal, I would like to know if anyone can give advice here. I'm amab and whenever I dress fem, I keep getting misgendered as a girl.
I don't mind it too much and deep down inside I actually take it as a compiliment. I also have gender dyshporia so being called a girl, she/her ect, isn't the worst thing to happen. Why I wanna not be misgendered tho is that it confuses me. I litterally don't know someone is talking to me when they start with "excuse me miss." and when ordering food with my mom and sister I actually thought the server thought I was in a different group or something when she said "what can I get you ladies to eat." I wanna dress how I like without necessarily being perceived as a girl. I'm still a boy, I just like to dress in cute skirts, have shaved skin, and have long thick hair.
I suppose part of it is also anxiety of not wanting to be discriminated for being trans. I don't want people to think I'm trans and hate on me for it. I dress fem, have long eyelashes, beutiful long thick hair, am short, skinny, and don't have an overly masculine facial structure, so I can kinda get it. But I don't wear makeup, earings, paint my nails, voice train, or take H.R.T. I knoe the line is fine between me vs a trans fem just starting out their transition and people are just wanting to be respectful so I'm not annoyed with them. I just don't know what to do about this dilemma.
Part of me wants to not care because I honeslty don't even see the value in gender. Like okay, I am a human with unique prefernces, styles, and traits that are based on my individuality, not what society says a gender is limited to being. I don't care if I'm a guy, I still like the the things I like. So I guess being gendered or misgendered isn't all that relevent. But I still get confused when it happens like "why are they calling me a gi- ohhhh right, I probably kinda look like one."