u/FellowTarnished01

​

So people I know told me to post here and even they are split whether I am in the wrong in this situation. My friend group decided to have a potluck. We chose one of our friend's houses as a venue and the friend also volunteered to host. Since our friend had a relatively large house, and there were only a few of us actually close friends going to this, we agreed to invite our significant others or another person.

This potluck was one of our only chances to get together again after a long time. I wanted to bring some wine and prepare a special recipe I have for seafood paella. I told everybody and they were excited, as expected, they know even as a teen that I had a thing for cooking.

However, one of my friend's partner texted "ohh, Im actually allergic to seafood." I replied "oh I am sorry, that's too bad, I was excited for everyone to try it, I'm sure you will get to it other foods at the potluck."

She said after a few hours after the conversation was already drowned out by others "Are you gonna make something else" I said "Nah sorry, just some wine though"

Oh my goodness, I still dread remembering this exact moment. My friend of that partner texted me that I was highly offensive, discriminative, and insensitive to her for not considering her allergy or even create something else. I said "WTF?!" in my mind, but of course I just said sorry and I hope this will not refrain them from attending. They said no. The day of the potluck comes and I still of course bring the seafood paella and they confront me again. They said I was unbelievable and should have not even bothered bringing something. They said I was the only one who brought something that someone could not eat or drink.

So Reddit, was ITBF?

So people I know told me to post here and even they are split whether I am in the wrong in this situation. My friend group decided to have a potluck. We chose one of our friend's houses as a venue and the friend also volunteered to host. Since our friend had a relatively large house, and there were only a few of us actually close friends going to this, we agreed to invite our significant others or another person.

This potluck was one of our only chances to get together again after a long time. I wanted to bring some wine and prepare a special recipe I have for seafood paella. I told everybody and they were excited, as expected, they know even as a teen that I had a thing for cooking.

However, one of my friend's partner texted "ohh, Im actually allergic to seafood." I replied "oh I am sorry, that's too bad, I was excited for everyone to try it, I'm sure you will get to it other foods at the potluck."

She said after a few hours after the conversation was already drowned out by others "Are you gonna make something else" I said "Nah sorry, just some wine though"

Oh my goodness, I still dread remembering this exact moment. My friend of that partner texted me that I was highly offensive, discriminative, and insensitive to her for not considering her allergy or even create something else. I said "WTF?!" in my mind, but of course I just said sorry and I hope this will not refrain them from attending. They said no. The day of the potluck comes and I still of course bring the seafood paella and they confront me again. They said I was unbelievable and should have not even bothered bringing something. They said I was the only one who brought something that someone could not eat or drink.

So Reddit, was ITJ?

​

This happened to me a few years ago but J can still remember it clearly and seeking if I was the jerk in this situation. I was in my final year of High school and for that year I made taking notes a priority. I do research and other precautions to make sure I have a complete arsenal for reviewing. This is the final year so I needed to lock in. My friends and classmates know this.

I do not have a strict rule about not sharing my notes to people, if they ask for something they need, I am more than happy to comply. However, it seems more and more people keep asking me for my notes. It would have been understandable but they ask for EVERYTHING. I was still willing since I do have nice classmates and friends and I have never felt taken advantage of before.

Then something happened. A lot of people asked me for notes for an important exam and they of course as usual ask me for notes. At this point we created a gc and I would share pictures, gdcos, and a drive, plus reference videos and everything has a given source.

This was when I heard about a party and everybody was going, I of course went as my friends and classmates were asking me if I wnat dot meet up to go there so I decided to have a little fun before the exam.

We got to the party and a few minutes in somebody dragged a friend of mine away from me to talk, I noticed they were glancing at me while speaking. Then they went towards me again and said the host did not invite and asked me to leave for I was not friends with them. The thing is, the host approached me before in a friendly manner to ask for notes. My friend said "I'm sorry bro" and obviously I left and none of my friends or anybody I came ther with left with me. I stayed long enough on the porch to hear "is the notes guy gone?" somebody said "yeah" and "who even made him come?" and laughter after that.

I did not bother but soemthing inside me woke up in that moment. After going home, I deleted all the drives, pictures, videos, and all possible reviewer that I has sent. A LOT of people were in that gc including my friends. A lot of then chatted me asking what happened to notes, some said to me that this was because I was petty that I was not allowed in the party and I was being unfair.

Not all failed, but a notable amount did. My friend became cold to me since thta day, but atleast some were still nice enough to stay friends with me and just said I was crazy for doing that but still said sorry. After a couple years,I coudk definitely see that I light be wrong.

So Reddit, was ITJ?

I honestly am stuck on this situation if I should continue to stand my ground or not depending if IATA so I came to Reddit. This situation began when I started to organize my room, this includes the stuff I stored and have not used for years. I recovered my Ps4, it was still in good condition, during my time playing with, I made sure with absolute certainty that I do not damage or compromise any of the device's components.

My father gifted this to me, and it was the first console I ever received. It holds a sentimental place in my heart. I still live with my parents, but I pay for space and utilities, plus contribute to expenses like groceries and gas. This is an important detail for later.

I let my cousins take a few toys of mine plus my gift on top of that after he went through it without permission but it was his bday so what could I do? My aunt also let him go through it and just her to not touch some stuff as they might be private or important. He went further and found my room which I do not know how he knew where my room was and took my Ps4 out and said to my aunt, "Mommy, I got a ps4!” with an excited voice. I expected my aunt to try and take it away and tell him to not touch stuff from somebody else’s room, but she looked happy and just said “Wow, now you can play it!”.

I told my cousin that I was not planning on gifting that and apologized for the misunderstanding to him and my aunt. I was holding back some of my true thoughts but I did not want to deal with them. My aunt then replied “Well you got him all excited so you have to give it now”. I then said “Sorry I really am not ready to give it, I could do other stuff with it or perhaps even play with it. I would need more time to think”. We had am irritating exchange of asking and saying no while my cousin was starting to cry in the corner during the party, it was getting more intense each second. The true turning point was when my aunt frustratingly replied as my cousins was whining that he wanted my console “ Well, a man child freeloader like you should not playing around with some consoles anymore and actually get a Job”.

This is where I might be the Jerk. I replied, “just because you can’t control your child does not mean you need to make it a problem for other people.” Then she said “ Are you accusing me of being a bad parent?” She said more, mostly just slurs and insults but I let her finish. I said, “Well I know you are a bad wife” in a sarcastic voice.

The whole room went silent. For context, she and her ex-husband split almost a year ago and now the husband is already dating again and according to my aunt, looking much happier which was allegedly unfair to her she said. My parents said to me after everybody left that I had crossed a line and should have just gave up the console since I was more than capable to get a much better console but I do not think so, but I still did say something bad in response.

So Reddit, was ITJ?

I honestly am stuck on this situation if I should continue to stand my ground or not depending if IATA so I came to Reddit. This situation began when I started to organize my room, this includes the stuff I stored and have not used for years. I recovered my Ps4, it was still in good condition, during my time playing with, I made sure with absolute certainty that I do not damage or compromise any of the device's components.

My father gifted this to me, and it was the first console I ever received. It holds a sentimental place in my heart. I still live with my parents, but I pay for space and utilities, plus contribute to expenses like groceries and gas. I buy everything I own now. This is an important detail for later.

I let my cousins take a few toys of mine plus my gift on top of that after he went through it without permission but it was his bday so what could I do? My aunt also let him go through it and just her to not touch some stuff as they might be private or important. He went further and found my room which I do not know how he knew where my room was and took my Ps4 out and said to my aunt, "Mommy, I got a ps4!” with an excited voice. I expected my aunt to try and take it away and tell him to not touch stuff from somebody else’s room, but she looked happy and just said “Wow, now you can play it!”.

I told my cousin that I was not planning on gifting that and apologized for the misunderstanding to him and my aunt. I was holding back some of my true thoughts but I did not want to deal with them. My aunt then replied “Well you got him all excited so you have to give it now”. I then said “Sorry I really am not ready to give it, I could do other stuff with it or perhaps even play with it. I would need more time to think”. We had am irritating exchange of asking and saying no while my cousin was starting to cry in the corner during the party, it was getting more intense each second. The true turning point was when my aunt frustratingly replied as my cousins was whining that he wanted my console “ Well, a man child freeloader like you should not playing around with some consoles anymore and actually get a Job”.

This is where I might be the AH. I replied, “just because you can’t control your child does not mean you need to make it a problem for other people.” Then she said “ Are you accusing me of being a bad parent?” She said more, mostly just slurs and insults but I let her finish. I said, “Well I know you are a bad wife” in a sarcastic voice.

The whole room went silent. For context, she and her ex-husband split almost a year ago and now the husband is already dating again and according to my aunt, looking much happier which was allegedly unfair to her she said. My parents said to me after everybody left that I had crossed a line and should have just gave up the console since I was more than capable to get a much better console but I do not think so, but I am now wondering if truly was TAH

So Reddit, was AITA?

I honestly am stuck on this situation if I should continue to stand my ground or not depending if IATA so I came to Reddit. This situation began when I started to organize my room, this includes the stuff I stored and have not used for years. I recovered my Ps4, it was still in good condition, during my time playing with, I made sure with absolute certainty that I do not damage or compromise any of the device's components.

My father gifted this to me, and it was the first console I ever received. It holds a sentimental place in my heart. I still live with my parents, but I pay for space and utilities, plus contribute to expenses like groceries and gas. This is an important detail for later.

I let my cousins take a few toys of mine plus my gift on top of that after he went through it without permission but it was his bday so what could I do? My aunt also let him go through it and just her to not touch some stuff as they might be private or important. He went further and found my room which I do not know how he knew where my room was and took my Ps4 out and said to my aunt, "Mommy, I got a ps4!” with an excited voice. I expected my aunt to try and take it away and tell him to not touch stuff from somebody else’s room, but she looked happy and just said “Wow, now you can play it!”.

I told my cousin that I was not planning on gifting that and apologized for the misunderstanding to him and my aunt. I was holding back some of my true thoughts but I did not want to deal with them. My aunt then replied “Well you got him all excited so you have to give it now”. I then said “Sorry I really am not ready to give it, I could do other stuff with it or perhaps even play with it. I would need more time to think”. We had am irritating exchange of asking and saying no while my cousin was starting to cry in the corner during the party, it was getting more intense each second. The true turning point was when my aunt frustratingly replied as my cousins was whining that he wanted my console “ Well, a man child freeloader like you should not playing around with some consoles anymore and actually get a Job”.

This is where I might be the BF.I replied, “just because you can’t control your child does not mean you need to make it a problem for other people.” Then she said “ Are you accusing me of being a bad parent?” She said more, mostly just slurs and insults but I let her finish. I said, “Well I know you are a bad wife” in a sarcastic voice.

The whole room went silent. For context, she and her ex-husband split almost a year ago and now the husband is already dating again and according to my aunt, looking much happier which was allegedly unfair to her she said. My parents said to me after everybody left that I had crossed a line and should have just gave up the console since I was more than capable to get a much better console but I do not think so, but I still did say something bad in response.

So Reddit, was ITBF