What's your lot's views on this.
I’m looking for some outside perspective on a relationship that I’m still trying to make sense of. I'm M 33 Sikh UK.
We were together for around 2 years, and at one point it was quite serious — families were involved and marriage had already been discussed on both sides.
In October 2025, both sets of parents met to discuss things after her parents had previously blocked us from continuing to date for about a month. After that meeting, things did continue, but there was still a lot of pressure from her side for things to move quickly toward marriage, while I felt it should be our decision and not rushed.
Around the same period, her circumstances changed quite a bit. She lost her job in London, moved back home to Southampton, and had a couple of months unemployed before starting a new role. That seemed to affect her mindset and emotional stability around the future in general.
Over time, she became more uncertain, including changing her views on having children after a close friend had a difficult birth experience. The relationship gradually became more distant and unclear, and at one point she even described us as “platonic,” which felt very different from how things had been previously.
We eventually ended the relationship in November 2025.
What’s made it hard to process is that it didn’t feel like a clean breakup with one clear reason — more a mix of family pressure, life instability, and shifting perspectives that slowly changed things over time.
I’ve been trying to move forward since then, but seeing her graduation photo recently brought a lot of it back up unexpectedly.
Just looking for outside perspective on how people process situations where there isn’t a clear “ending,” just a gradual shift.