u/FabulousMechanic303

We have another cat and want to introduce them strategically so we have the new kitty set up in the bathroom since we got her yesterday. She is so scared she just sits on the vanity and growls at us. We are checking on her and bringing her food without making eye contact or trying to get her to come to us. She is very spicy and tries to attack if we get too close.

I want her to know she is safe. Any advice on making her feel safe and loved and how to do this the right way?

Unfortunately she is sitting on the bathroom vanity right next to the toilet and has been there since last night and hasn’t moved. This is the only toilet in the apartment. We don’t have a spare bedroom either so I can’t put her in any other rooms. I literally peed in the shower to avoid scaring her but eventually we will have to use the toilet. What should we do??? 😂

I got a new job offer and I’m waiting for the background check to clear before I give notice, just to be safe.

This means I should be able to give notice by May 12th. However, I’m on already approved PTO the whole week of 5/11, and in our handbook it says they don’t have to pay PTO during a notice period but as long as I work the rest of my scheduled shifts in my notice period, they will pay me any remaining PTO I have left.

I really want to tell them I am giving notice, last day being June 5th, while I’m on PTO because the following week they want me to run this big event for a whole week and I really don’t want to do it. I’m hoping that by giving notice they tell me today is my last day but they’ll pay me through my notice period.

What’s the smartest thing to do? I don’t want to wait until the first day of the event, Monday may 18th, to give notice because they’re going to be pissed because it gave them zero time to come up with alternative plans if they don’t want me to handle the event.

Here’s the timeline:

May 11th- start PTO
May 12- projected date background check clears by
May 17th- last day of PTO and travel day to event
May 18th- event I am running
May 22nd- last day of event
June 5th- my last working day I am giving them notice until

I would just quit but then they don’t have to pay me PTO I have left over after next week off. I have another 40 hours PTO.

Would it be a dick move to give notice at 5pm on May 15th, the last day my PTO hours for my current planned vacation is used? Then they have the weekend to figure out if they still want me to do the event, and I’m not at risk for not getting paid for week of 5/11 PTO.

What would you do?

6 years ago I was homeless and on temporary disability for mental illness. Today I got a mid 6 figure job offer from a Fortune 500 company and I’m looking for advice?

I (31F) live with bipolar disorder type 1. In 2019, I was a manager of a salon and had a mental breakdown because I didn’t have access to medication.

I moved back to my home state, went to the psych ward, got in an intensive outpatient program and finally got my medication right for the first time. I was diagnosed with bipolar when I was 19, and at 25 was when I finally became stable.

I couldn’t move home with my parents because my father was also bipolar plus an alcoholic and was abusive financially, physically, and mentally to my mom. He didn’t let me to live at home because he thought I’d call the cops on him.

So I moved in with my aunt. We got into a disagreement about politics (she’s maga, I am the opposite) and she hit me in the face twice and kicked me out about three weeks into me living with her.

I had to go to social services because I was homeless. They placed me in a terrible, dirty, roach ridden motel near the Jersey shore where I was surrounded by drug addicts and sex offenders.

I eventually got stabilized on meds and went back to work. Since 2020 I also found a new boyfriend and we got married in 2023. I also built an amazing career in learning and development in the cannabis industry despite not having a bachelors degree.

I went from assistant manager of a dispensary to learning and development manager and then senior manager to HR Director.

Today I got a job offer from a Fortune 500 company that invited me to interview on LinkedIn even though I wasn’t looking!

I just got a $40,000 total comp pay raise. I’m in shock and so proud of myself that I cried today.

Between going through an abusive childhood, having to provide for myself since I was 17 years old and not living with my parents, to getting married and divorced by 25, to being homeless….

… and now I have a new husband I love dearly, a cat who is my child, and my dream job making great money. My husband and I are trying for a baby.

I never gave up even when I lived in the motel. I knew if I focused on my mental stability, everything else would get better.

If you struggle with mental illness there is hope for you- focus on getting meds right and getting the right therapy. It worked wonders for me. I suffered for 6 years after diagnosis before getting stable and then my life got better!

I still struggle with thoughts that I’m not good enough or I don’t deserve this. How do I get over it?

I (31F) live with bipolar disorder type 1. In 2019, I was a manager of a salon and had a mental breakdown because I didn’t have access to medication.

I moved back to my home state, went to the psych ward, got in an intensive outpatient program and finally got my medication right for the first time. I was diagnosed with bipolar when I was 19, and at 25 was when I finally became stable.

I couldn’t move home with my parents because my father was also bipolar plus an alcoholic and was abusive financially, physically, and mentally to my mom. He didn’t let me to live at home because he thought I’d call the cops on him.

So I moved in with my aunt. We got into a disagreement about politics (she’s maga, I am the opposite) and she hit me in the face twice and kicked me out about three weeks into me living with her.

I had to go to social services because I was homeless. They placed me in a terrible, dirty, roach ridden motel near the Jersey shore where I was surrounded by drug addicts and sex offenders.

I eventually got stabilized on meds and went back to work. Since 2020 I also found a new boyfriend and we got married in 2023. I also built an amazing career in learning and development in the cannabis industry despite not having a bachelors degree.

I went from assistant manager of a dispensary to learning and development manager and then senior manager to HR Director.

Today I got a job offer from a Fortune 500 company that invited me to interview on LinkedIn even though I wasn’t looking!

I just got a $40,000 total comp pay raise. I’m in shock and so proud of myself that I cried today.

Between going through an abusive childhood, having to provide for myself since I was 17 years old and not living with my parents, to getting married and divorced by 25, to being homeless….

… and now I have a new husband I love dearly, a cat who is my child, and my dream job making great money. My husband and I are trying for a baby.

I never gave up even when I lived in the motel. I knew if I focused on my mental stability, everything else would get better.

If you struggle with mental illness there is hope for you- focus on getting meds right and getting the right therapy. It worked wonders for me. I suffered for 6 years after diagnosis before getting stable and then my life got better!

I still struggle with thoughts that I’m not good enough or I don’t deserve this. How do I get over it?