u/Extension-Fruit-1456

can we please keep this subreddit for people who are actually looking for genuine friendships and good conversations?

it just makes it harder for people who actually want to make friends when the subreddit gets filled with low-effort posts, spammy messages, or people who aren’t being genuine :(

also, if you actually want people to trust you and reply to you, you need to give them something to work with. sentence like “I’m bored, dm me” doesn’t really tell anyone who you are. especially if your account has no active history, no comments, then your introduction says almost nothing.

How do you talk about it without it turning into a fight? Do you avoid the topic?

I feel like most people, maybe even all people, have at least one part of their life that’s lacking something or could be so much better.

Do you ever look at your own kids and think one of them “came out better looking,” or has better features than the others? Or do you love them so much that you don’t even think about their looks in that kind of way?

We just started chatting in some subreddit, moved to private chat after that, and somehow the conversation just kept going. It was very unintentional and chill.

Now, three years later, we’re still together and still going strong. We are the same age and share similar values and interests, visit each other, make plans for the future, we've also travelled to many places together and met each other's families and so on :)

And it’s kind of crazy to think it all started from some random Reddit interaction.

But yeah, I know this is rare, and for most people I wouldn’t suggest trying to build something serious from here. It can be risky and difficult, especially when it’s long distance. Maybe it’s different if you’re from the same area and can meet up safely after some time, but with long distance, I’d usually say better not.

For people who have been through depression or a very dark period, was there something someone did that genuinely helped you, even if they probably didn’t realize how much it mattered?

I’m in uni and I feel like it’s not always easy to properly get to know people there, because most of the time it’s just lectures and everyone has their own stuff going on.

I have a boyfriend too, so I guess I’ve been in my own little bubble for a while and haven’t really had many natural chances to meet new people. Plus, hobbies/classes cost money, so “just join something” isn’t always that simple.

Online friendships sound easier in theory, but in reality it feels like so many conversations never get past the basic small talk stage.

It feels hard to find people online who are genuine and fun, because you often have to filter through creepy messages, bad vibes, and people who seem to be in such a dark place that the conversation becomes draining.

I’d love to hear if anyone here has had actual luck making friends online? 🤍

If you message me, tell me a little about yourself and send me one random thought or small life update from your day!