u/ExistingPause7406

today I almost lost my cat at the airport

for context when I was traveling , the police at the airport told me it’s either the cat pass through the bag scan or I had to take him out and walk with him. the cat was not on harness so I put him through the bag scan. I found out that its dangerous so today I had to go to the airport to see the vet for his paper works. he was on a harness and I was so shocked that when I took him out he started to panic and jumped like crazy and he removed the harness and I had to hold him really tight so he doesn’t escape . it was a more nightmare. I talked to the doctor that I have a pill 300mg gabapin and he weigh around 3 kilo

the doctor advised that I mix the powder in a 10ml syringe and feed him 1ml the day before the trip and 1ml day of the trip and also 3ml of anti nausea medicine

I’m just confused about the timing of it and if the dosage is enough for this cat since he’s really not easy to travel with

for more context my trip is 12pm 10 may 2026

this is a hypothetical question

let’s say a man that has an ex wife and a daughter who lives with the ex wife and the ex wife has a new boyfriend and the man has a new girlfriend as well. now the ex wife relationship didn’t work and she’s single now and living with her daughter . what are the chances the man gets back to his ex wife since she’s single now

so this is going to be a bit long but without going any details since someone who knows may read and notice 🥲

for some context I’m from a ”third world country” and my husband is from developed country. we go married and I am able to live in his country. before and during the relation I got the impression from his family and friends that I am using him for paper , at one point even his father told him “this girl will break your heart”. I really didn’t care much at that point since I was new and they may have the right to build an impression based on stereotype. now that we are married their opinion changed a bit but it is still there. for context again we both have different religion. and his family is not religious at all. as a religious person myself I don’t talk about it since it’s something very personal to me and I was raised this way that it’s a relation with a human and God. what bothers me is every time we meet his in laws they would talk bad about people that share the same religion as me and sometimes the religion itself. I would provide information and explanation without being defensive and attack mode. and they would make jokes about migrants in their country and speaking with me about foreigners and their behavior and sometimes I wonder do they see me as foreigner ? i dont share the same nationality with the foreigners they talk about but we are the same race and religion so its like I’m part of the stereo type and I explained many times it’s culture and there are bad and good culture. I was advised by family and friends to reduce the gathering since this makes me really tired and my feelings starting to be resentful towards them.

there are so many topics to talk about but it’s always the same immigrants and refugees issue that makes me really uncomfortable. and then there is also part of the conversation where my in laws were asking me personal question about why behave this way or not do this (due to religion). I never ask people personal question and this is so tiring.

why are they behaving like this? are they pushing my buttons to have evidence that I marry their son only for papers?

so I’m married for two years and my stepson is 7, everything is going well except for vacation.

the ex wife of my husband keep asking him about his vacation plans and he keeps asking me about mine so it aligns with my stepson. first of all I’m a spontaneous person and I don’t do much of planning (culture) and he keeps like pressuring me that his ex wants an answer so that her son can spend holiday with us which makes sense and I don’t object . but I don’t know how to tell my husband that it’s important for me to use my vacation days to see my parents (live abroad) and also spend time with my close friends and my sister. am I selfish to be thinking like this? maybe I still didn’t get the sacrifice of marriage but my parents and sibling and close friends means so much to me.

and also just that I was the family planner when I was single and it’s difficult for me to accept another person managing my vacation and schedule. I know this is a bit selfish. I would need some advise thank you.