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I’m a 27 year old guy, heaviest weight was 275 pounds about a 16 months ago. I’ve lost about 75 pounds with another 25 to hit my goal weight. 

I’m gonna be honest, the major reason I’m losing weight is to improve my dating life. It’s like 90% of the reason I didn’t want to be fat anymore. I’ve never had a dating life because my self-esteem has always been so bad due to my weight. No one has ever been attracted to me, so I wanted to change that. 

I’m still dedicating a few more months to pushing towards my goal, but after that I want to put focus on dating. Some days though, it feels like it won’t matter. It feels like I’m so far behind that even if I get my dream body I’ll never catch up in relationship experience. I’m worried it will always be like this even with all the self-improvement I’ve been doing.

Can anyone relate and can anyone tell me if there’s light at the end of the tunnel? Will losing weight help my dating life?

By late bloomer, I mean people that did not find a relationship and or lose their virginity until later in life, like mid-20s or later.

I’m a 27 year old guy, and I’m a late bloomer when it comes to dating and sex. I’ve never been in a relationship, I’ve never had sex, and I’ve never kissed anyone. I’ve always had low self-esteem and confidence issues due to being fat and shy, but I’m working on that. I’ve lost about 75 pounds with another 25 to lose, and I’m not completely inept when it comes to socializing.

I’m worried that I waited too long and I will have a significant uphill battle trying to date as a 27 year old late bloomer. I’m worried women my age will not want to be someone’s first girlfriend and will reject me if they find out. My worst dating fear is going on a multiple dates with a woman only for her to stop seeing me because she asks me about my relationship experience. I’m not going to lead with it, but I’m also not going to lie about it.

So, fellow late bloomers, I need to hear some success stories. What did you do to finally find a relationship?

I’m a 27 year old guy and my weight has always affected my confidence. It has affected my self-esteem so much that I have never tried to date and now I have no romantic experience. Never had a girlfriend, never kissed a girl.

In the past year I’ve lost about 70 pounds and am planning on losing 30 more to be at 175. I’m going to be honest, my sole motivation has been dating. I want a dating life and I want women to like how I look. 

I need to hear some stories about how weight loss affected your dating life. I’m worried it’s not going to matter and it’s too late to start dating. I’m worried the ship has sailed. I need some motivation and I need to know that there’s light at the end of the tunnel. Thanks

Long story short, I’m a 27 year old guy and I’m a virgin. Never had a girlfriend or kissed a girl either. Main reasons are that I have always been fat and shy. I’ve lost about 70 pounds from my heaviest weight with about 30 pounds I still want to lose. Still shy but I’m not completely incapable of speaking to people, I’m just very quiet. I’ve never given any effort into dating but I want to now. 

I’m worried my lack of experience will be a limiting factor in my dating life. I’m worried that a woman will go on a few dates with me and then find out I’ve never had a girlfriend before and will not want to see me anymore. I’m worried she’ll think something must be wrong with me if I’ve gone all these years without any experience. I don’t plan on leading with this but if it comes up I’m going to be honest and say yeah I’ve never been in a relationship before.

Can I meet women who won’t care that I’m a virgin? Will there be women that actually want to be my first girlfriend? Sometimes it feels like the ship has sailed. 

Long story short, I’m a 27 year old guy and I’m a virgin. Never had a girlfriend or kissed a girl either. Main reasons are that I have always been fat and shy. I’ve lost about 70 pounds from my heaviest weight with about 30 pounds I still want to lose. Still shy but I’m not completely incapable of speaking to people, I’m just very quiet. I’ve never given any effort into dating but I want to now. 

I’m worried my lack of experience will be a limiting factor in my dating life. I’m worried that a woman will go on a few dates with me and then find out I’ve never had a girlfriend before and will not want to see me anymore. I’m worried she’ll think something must be wrong with me if I’ve gone all these years without any experience. I don’t plan on leading with this but if it comes up I’m going to be honest and say yeah I’ve never been in a relationship before.

Can I meet women who won’t care that I’m a virgin? Will there be women that actually want to be my first girlfriend? Sometimes it feels like the ship has sailed. 

Long story short, I’m a 27 year old guy and I’m a virgin. Never had a girlfriend or kissed a girl either. Main reasons are that I have always been fat and shy. I’ve lost about 70 pounds from my heaviest weight with about 30 pounds I still want to lose. Still shy but I’m not completely incapable of speaking to people, I’m just very quiet. I’ve never given any effort into dating but I want to now. 

I’m worried my lack of experience will be a limiting factor in my dating life. I’m worried that a woman will go on a few dates with me and then find out I’ve never had a girlfriend before and will not want to see me anymore. I’m worried she’ll think something must be wrong with me if I’ve gone all these years without any experience. I don’t plan on leading with this but if it comes up I’m going to be honest and say yeah I’ve never been in a relationship before.

Can I meet women who won’t care that I’m a virgin? Will there be women that actually want to be my first girlfriend? Sometimes it feels like the ship has sailed.