My parents think they are supportive when they kind of aren't, what do I do?
When I (16 ftm) was a kid (like 7 years old maybe) I tried to tell my mom that I wasn't a girl, but she brushed it off and denied it. I don't think she even ever told my dad. We haven't talked about this since and I think she probably forgot.
When I was 12, I came out as a trans boy, and my parents reacted pretty badly. At first they were just dismissive, saying that I was 'too young to know' or whatever. But they got angry when they found out I had started using a new name with my friends and teachers at school, calling me 'untrustworthy' and 'disappointing'.
Eventually they came to terms with it when they realized it wasn't going to change. A year or two after I came out they started (attempting to at least) using my name and pronouns. They never apologized for how they reacted.
I have had to do everything regarding my transition by myself. Figuring out how to start hormones, how to change my name, how to change my passport, etc. I did everything with little to no help. It's been pretty lonely, especially when I see those posts of supportive parents helping their trans kids, I just wish they were like that. My parents did, you know, sign the papers and consent to what I needed to do and everything, but they really do the very minimum.
There's also little things, like if someone misgenders me, a stranger or my parent's friend or whoever, my parents won't correct them. Correcting people is really difficult for me, and I wish they would help. Sometimes my dad even says things like 'you've got to learn to do it yourself' or he defends the people like 'it's just what they're programmed to think, it's not their fault.'
Thing is, they think they are being supportive. When I tell them they aren't, they get mad and say I'm ungrateful. They act like because they use my name and pronouns and don't kick me out of the house, they are amazing supportive parents. Don't get me wrong, I am very grateful for the support I do get. I know I am very lucky that I get to be on hormones and everything.
I just don't know what to do or if I'm overreacting.