u/EthericVoyager

My husband 37M and me 39F have been together for 15 years. When we met I had a little dog that went everywhere with me. He wanted to get his own dog as well, so he got a corgi 14 years ago. My fur baby passed away 4.5 years ago @ age 16, and I was heartbroken, but he said we should not get another dog because at the time our corgi had naughty habits- such as excessive barking and not getting along well with other dogs, and he didn’t want him to teach a new dog bad habits. We also live in a condo complex where you are not allowed to have more than 1 dog. So no problem, we did not get another dog.

For the last couple years of his life, our corgi was handicapped as both of his back legs stopped working, and he never liked his back leg wheelchair he had. My husband made the difficult choice to end his suffering as he also had a slow growing cancer, and had lost a lot of strength and was clearly suffering. This was a month ago.

I love animals and have never not had a pet in my life. We do have a cat, we’ve had for about a year,

I paid for and take on all responsibilities associated with. I would like to get another dog. My husband says he doesn’t want another dog for another year, or the earliest for the rest of the year. I feel this is unreasonable. I feel we haven't had the experience or responsibility of a dog for many years now- since our corgi didn’t play well with others he couldn’t go on walks or hikes, and earlier in his life- he had surgery on both of his back legs, so we were careful he wouldn’t re-injure them and then eventually they both stopped working anyway. My fur baby lived to 16 years old, and was very elderly in her end of life also.

I respect and understand our corgi has only passed on 1 month ago, and I have no problem waiting for a few more months, but the end of the year feels too long. Also, that is the prime of winter, and where we live- we have cold snowy winters, & that is not an ideal time to potty train a puppy- should we go that route. I work 3 days a week, and have decided our next dog would go to a doggie daycare (paid by me) for 3 days a week, to prevent socializing issues we had with our previous dogs. So any dog being home alone would not be an issue.

He is frustrated I have brought up wanting to get a dog sooner than his end of year timeline, and I feel I have been respecting his timeline of not getting another dog for the reasons mentioned above. I have done a lot of research and have a particular breed in mind that would be an ideal fit for our family, but he has mentioned he would like to rescue a dog from a shelter, which I am open to- he has even recently sent me a video of shelter dogs picking their own people and also told me a story about how an adorable lab came up to him the other day for pets and it made his day. I feel this is sending me mixed messages, so when I asked him today if our 2 children and I should stop by the animal shelter- just to see what they have, he got very upset with me, and then we got into an argument and he said “just go get a dog” implying I do whatever I want, and don’t respect his wishes of wanting to wait. Obviously I’m not going to just get a dog, but I’m not sure what to feel, as I’m getting mixed messages, I really do want one, and I want us all to be on the same page.

My husband 37M and me 39F have been together for 15 years. When we met I had a little dog that went everywhere with me. He wanted to get his own dog as well, so he got a corgi 14 years ago. My fur baby passed away 4.5 years ago @ age 16, and I was heartbroken, but he said we should not get another dog because at the time our corgi had naughty habits- such as excessive barking and not getting along well with other dogs, and he didn’t want him to teach a new dog bad habits. We also live in a condo complex where you are not allowed to have more than 1 dog. So no problem, we did not get another dog.

For the last couple years of his life, our corgi was handicapped as both of his back legs stopped working, and he never liked his back leg wheelchair he had. My husband made the difficult choice to end his suffering as he also had a slow growing cancer, and had lost a lot of strength and was clearly suffering. This was a month ago.

I love animals and have never not had a pet in my life. We do have a cat, we’ve had for about a year,

I paid for and take on all responsibilities associated with. I would like to get another dog. My husband says he doesn’t want another dog for another year, or the earliest for the rest of the year. I feel this is unreasonable. I feel we haven't had the experience or responsibility of a dog for many years now- since our corgi didn’t play well with others he couldn’t go on walks or hikes, and earlier in his life- he had surgery on both of his back legs, so we were careful he wouldn’t re-injure them and then eventually they both stopped working anyway. My fur baby lived to 16 years old, and was very elderly in her end of life also.

I respect and understand our corgi has only passed on 1 month ago, and I have no problem waiting for a few more months, but the end of the year feels too long. Also, that is the prime of winter, and where we live- we have cold snowy winters, & that is not an ideal time to potty train a puppy- should we go that route. I work 3 days a week, and have decided our next dog would go to a doggie daycare (paid by me) for 3 days a week, to prevent socializing issues we had with our previous dogs. So any dog being home alone would not be an issue.

He is frustrated I have brought up wanting to get a dog sooner than his end of year timeline, and I feel I have been respecting his timeline of not getting another dog for the reasons mentioned above. I have done a lot of research and have a particular breed in mind that would be an ideal fit for our family, but he has mentioned he would like to rescue a dog from a shelter, which I am open to- he has even recently sent me a video of shelter dogs picking their own people and also told me a story about how an adorable lab came up to him the other day for pets and it made his day. I feel this is sending me mixed messages, so when I asked him today if our 2 children and I should stop by the animal shelter- just to see what they have, he got very upset with me, and then we got into an argument and he said “just go get a dog” implying I do whatever I want, and don’t respect his wishes of wanting to wait. Obviously I’m not going to just get a dog, but I’m not sure what to feel, as I’m getting mixed messages, I really do want one, and I want us all to be on the same page.

My husband 37M and me 39F have been together for 15 years. When we met I had a little dog that went everywhere with me. He wanted to get his own dog as well, so he got a corgi 14 years ago. My fur baby passed away 4.5 years ago @ age 16, and I was heartbroken, but he said we should not get another dog because at the time our corgi had naughty habits- such as excessive barking and not getting along well with other dogs, and he didn’t want him to teach a new dog bad habits. We also live in a condo complex where you are not allowed to have more than 1 dog. So no problem, we did not get another dog.

For the last couple years of his life, our corgi was handicapped as both of his back legs stopped working, and he never liked his back leg wheelchair he had. My husband made the difficult choice to end his suffering as he also had a slow growing cancer, and had lost a lot of strength and was clearly suffering. This was a month ago.

I love animals and have never not had a pet in my life. We do have a cat, we’ve had for about a year,

I paid for and take on all responsibilities associated with. I would like to get another dog. My husband says he doesn’t want another dog for another year, or the earliest for the rest of the year. I feel this is unreasonable. I feel we haven't had the experience or responsibility of a dog for many years now- since our corgi didn’t play well with others he couldn’t go on walks or hikes, and earlier in his life- he had surgery on both of his back legs, so we were careful he wouldn’t re-injure them and then eventually they both stopped working anyway. My fur baby lived to 16 years old, and was very elderly in her end of life also.

I respect and understand our corgi has only passed on 1 month ago, and I have no problem waiting for a few more months, but the end of the year feels too long. Also, that is the prime of winter, and where we live- we have cold snowy winters, & that is not an ideal time to potty train a puppy- should we go that route. I work 3 days a week, and have decided our next dog would go to a doggie daycare (paid by me) for 3 days a week, to prevent socializing issues we had with our previous dogs. So any dog being home alone would not be an issue.

He is frustrated I have brought up wanting to get a dog sooner than his end of year timeline, and I feel I have been respecting his timeline of not getting another dog for the reasons mentioned above. I have done a lot of research and have a particular breed in mind that would be an ideal fit for our family, but he has mentioned he would like to rescue a dog from a shelter, which I am open to- he has even recently sent me a video of shelter dogs picking their own people and also told me a story about how an adorable lab came up to him the other day for pets and it made his day. I feel this is sending me mixed messages, so when I asked him today if our 2 children and I should stop by the animal shelter- just to see what they have, he got very upset with me, and then we got into an argument and he said “just go get a dog” implying I do whatever I want, and don’t respect his wishes of wanting to wait. Obviously I’m not going to just get a dog, but I’m not sure what to feel, as I’m getting mixed messages, I really do want one, and I want us all to be on the same page.