u/Emergency_Minute_957

Hello everyone, i am a 23M and my ex is 22F. about 2 months ago i found out she had cheated on me with somebody from work. the cheating happened last year from feb-july. A quick back story is she tried to lie and say this guy was making “rumours” about her at work, she told me everything and it just didnt add up at all. i would constantly be in my head about it, id ask her she would lie, tell me im being paranoid etc.

it got so bad i eventually decided to text the guys ex girlfriend as she knew the details what went on. she told me exactly what had happened and my body went into complete shock, even though i had that gut feeling it really did sink in when she told me. the guy and her both told me details where she had apparently said i had assulted her, i have never assulted her. there was also parts that didnt add up such as she apparently had an abortion last march at the hospital. i knew she was at the hospital but not for that, whether that was true or not i dont know but he said it wasnt his child. then i had found out she got fed up of this guy half way through they were talking and decided to flirt with another guy at work. he didnt show her attention so she went back to this other guy, he then was trying to flirt with another girl at work, she told the girl how he is talking to loads of girls at once etc.

when the girlfriend found out about her and him, my girlfriend had gotten so angry, the girls had a conversation together one day about it all and my girlfriend had actually reported him and got him fired from work, she said she wanted to “ruin his life”

I eventually told my girlfriend i know about it all, she got very defensive and told me she doesnt know what im talking about. i told her i have proof and she still denied it and told me she didnt do nothing. a few days later she admitted it but told me it was nothing , that she didnt like him and said she just likes to play guys because she finds it fun. she told me she was sorry etc, but i wasnt giving into her so she switched the whole thing around onto me and basically said she didn’t technically cheated because apparently she thought we wasnt together, we was together . then said if i was a better boyfriend maybe she wouldnt of cheated.

these words have honestly took a toll on my emotions, over the past 2 weeks ive noticed how ive become very drained, depressed, not wanting to do anything, every day tasks are a struggle sometimes . i dont even have an identity anymore everything i once loved isn’t interesting to me and in my head im replaying everything, thinking what i couldve done better or for her not to cheat. i feel guilty that she probably felt she had to cheat something like that.

Hello everyone, i am a 23M and my ex is 22F. about 2 months ago i found out she had cheated on me with somebody from work. the cheating happened last year from feb-july. A quick back story is she tried to lie and say this guy was making “rumours” about her at work, she told me everything and it just didnt add up at all. i would constantly be in my head about it, id ask her she would lie, tell me im being paranoid etc.

it got so bad i eventually decided to text the guys ex girlfriend as she knew the details what went on. she told me exactly what had happened and my body went into complete shock, even though i had that gut feeling it really did sink in when she told me. the guy and her both told me details where she had apparently said i had assulted her, i have never assulted her. there was also parts that didnt add up such as she apparently had an abortion last march at the hospital. i knew she was at the hospital but not for that, whether that was true or not i dont know but he said it wasnt his child. then i had found out she got fed up of this guy half way through they were talking and decided to flirt with another guy at work. he didnt show her attention so she went back to this other guy, he then was trying to flirt with another girl at work, she told the girl how he is talking to loads of girls at once etc.

when the girlfriend found out about her and him, my girlfriend had gotten so angry, the girls had a conversation together one day about it all and my girlfriend had actually reported him and got him fired from work, she said she wanted to “ruin his life”

I eventually told my girlfriend i know about it all, she got very defensive and told me she doesnt know what im talking about. i told her i have proof and she still denied it and told me she didnt do nothing. a few days later she admitted it but told me it was nothing , that she didnt like him and said she just likes to play guys because she finds it fun. she told me she was sorry etc, but i wasnt giving into her so she switched the whole thing around onto me and basically said she didn’t technically cheated because apparently she thought we wasnt together, we was together . then said if i was a better boyfriend maybe she wouldnt of cheated.

these words have honestly took a toll on my emotions, over the past 2 weeks ive noticed how ive become very drained, depressed, not wanting to do anything, every day tasks are a struggle sometimes . i dont even have an identity anymore everything i once loved isn’t interesting to me and in my head im replaying everything, thinking what i couldve done better or for her not to cheat. i feel guilty that she probably felt she had to cheat something like that.

id like to hear thoughts about this and what i can do to try improve

i am 23M and my ex is 21F. we was together a while , she cheated with someone from work. i found out a year later and confronted her where she denied the whole thing , but then admitted it , she then tried to become the victim because i wasn’t taking her empty words no me she started blaming me for her cheating, basically saying i was a shit boyfriend . she then told the guy i sexually assulted her which is a complete lie. she also got him fired when she found out he had a girlfriend , she said he choked her, he lost his only source of income and was humiliated.

A few days ago was my birthday. she had sent me card. in the card was thoughtful words, her apologising saying she regrets what shes put me through and that im the only person she wants to be with. i ignored it but then got a no caller id from her. i answered it and i said thankyou for the card and proceeded to tell her i dont want nothing to do with her. she started to get very defensive, i stood my ground and was firm with her that i did not want to be in contact with her. she starts saying she doesnt care, laughing at me and i felt like a complete fool. she then said she was recording the conversation on her ipad and told me to “ carry on being abusive im recordingnyou ” she didnt let me talk and ended the phone call. i just dont understand how me not putting up with her bs is me being abusive. its left me so afraid and its made me feel sick to my stomach how she has shown her true colours. it has made me afraid to be vulnerable to any one again.

i am 23M and my ex is 21F. we was together a while , she cheated with someone from work. i found out a year later and confronted her where she denied the whole thing , but then admitted it , she then tried to become the victim because i wasn’t taking her empty words no me she started blaming me for her cheating, basically saying i was a shit boyfriend . she then told the guy i sexually assulted her which is a complete lie. she also got him fired when she found out he had a girlfriend , she said he choked her, he lost his only source of income and was humiliated.

A few days ago was my birthday. she had sent mea card. in the card was thoughtful words, her apologising saying she regrets what shes put me through and that im the only person she wants to be with. i ignored it but then got a no caller id from her. i answered it and i said thankyou for the card and proceeded to tell her i dont want nothing to do with her. she started to get very defensive, i stood my ground and was firm with her that i did not want to be in contact with her. she starts saying she doesnt care, laughing at me and i felt like a complete fool. she then said she was recording the conversation on her ipad and told me to “ carry on being abusive im recordingnyou ” she didnt let me talk and ended the phone call. i just dont understand how me not putting up with her bs is me being abusive. its left me so afraid and its made me feel sick to my stomach how she has shown her true colours. it has made me afraid to be vulnerable to any one again.