u/Efficient-Author-633 — reddlx

I’m 18F and I have a close friend (also 18F) that I’ve known since high school. We tell each other pretty much everything, or at least I thought we did.

A few days ago we were hanging out and I was venting about another girl in our friend group. I wasn’t being nice, I’ll admit that. I said she comes off fake sometimes and that I don’t really trust her.

I didn’t think much of it because it was just me venting in what I thought was a private conversation.

Yesterday though, that girl confronted me out of nowhere and basically repeated almost word for word what I had said. So obviously the only way she would know is if my friend told her.

I asked my friend about it and she didn’t even deny it. She said she felt “weird keeping it from her” and thought she deserved to know.

Now things are awkward in the whole group and I feel kind of betrayed, but at the same time I did say those things.

I just thought there was an unspoken rule that when you vent to a close friend, it stays between you.

Now I’m being made out to be the problem because “I said it in the first place.”

I don’t know if I’m more upset at her for repeating it or at myself for saying it at all.

AIO for being mad at her for telling, even though I said it?

I’m 18F and just had my birthday last weekend. I didn’t do anything huge, just dinner with a few friends and some family at a nicer restaurant. Nothing crazy expensive, but definitely not the kind of place where people bring little kids.

My cousin (23F) has a 4 year old, and she asked me a couple days before if she could bring her because her babysitter canceled. I told her I’d rather she didn’t, mostly because: • the reservation was already set for a certain number of people • it wasn’t really a kid-friendly place • I just wanted one night that didn’t revolve around a child

She got kind of annoyed but said she’d “figure something out.”

The night of, she shows up… with her kid anyway.

I pulled her aside and told her I wasn’t okay with it and that I’d already said no. She told me she had no other option and wasn’t going to miss my birthday over it.

I told her then she probably should’ve just stayed home, because I didn’t want a kid there.

She got really upset and ended up leaving with her daughter, and now my aunt is mad at me saying I embarrassed her and made her feel unwelcome over something she couldn’t control.

Some of my family agrees with her and says I should’ve just let it go since it was “just one kid,” but my friends are on my side and say she crossed a boundary by showing up with her anyway.

Now it’s turned into this whole thing and I’m being told I ruined my own birthday over it.

AITA?