u/Educational-Sun7535

I don't know what i like. I know what i dont like. Which is cooking and baking. But something that inspires passion in me and yearning and very positive and the occasional negative emotion? That ive yet to find.

I really do like animals, but not enough to dedicate myself to it. Im a teacher so thats fun, but I cant see it being a focused on activity in my life. Arts nice but I get bored quick. Reading is fun, but its reading. Make up, nice too but eh. Sewing, dress making, all of them just hit below the bar for me. Including, swimming, partying, archery, weight lifting, gardening, carving, history.

I do like learning though. I like have niche knowledge and learning is genuinely fun. But studying is not. I told myself once that I can dedicate myself to studying.

I was advised to do what I love, no matter what is because thats the only way you'll reach a sense of fulfillment in your life. So any ideas...

Title. Im 19, I have done what needs to be done as a 19 year old. And even more than that...

Recently, the girl who was my silent motivation got engaged to a rather average man. Its not bad, but its not what I expected from her. Shes my age, she tall, skinny, beautiful, has incredible work ethic and is the granddaughter of a billionaire. Im being very literal right now.

She was the one person who matched me. She also supersed me in wealth, and work ethic/dedication to her studies. Ive always used her as a bench mark to up my game.

Its just now that shes marrying an average man, it hurts me in a way?? Is that strange?? Like I cant compete with her anymore because she isn't even uni, and could've married WAY up but didnt. I feel like she left the race track and im all alone in my lane.

None of the other girls matched me, in what I do, have done, or did. Multiple of my girls my age, havent even completed school. None of my friends are in uni or have degrees. Some have jobs but like... same... Alhamdulillah ofcourse. Ofcourse they're all waayyyyyy more intelligent than me, but they don't utilize it so whats the point?

Even with the boy thing. I cant even use her getting engaged as motivation because ive even been proposed too by a man FAR superior and wealthier????

Like im bored now. Theres no itch in my heart when I see her and im bored.

This is my second year of teaching. If you told me last year, I would've typed that title, I'd call you mad. I loved teaching. It was such a joyous experience for me, something I was SO eager to do and unfortunately this year, I dread it.

A lot of generalization may happen here and I apologize but genuinely I need advice or a way to deal with this.

I teach Grade R, which is 5-6 year olds and the occasional 7 year old who started late. Last year, I had only girls in my class and 3 boys. My girls were angles. And this year, I have only boys and 3 girls. And i am loosing my mind.

Im not here to start a gender war, or discriminate against my kids because of their gender, but the cognitive abilities shown in girls are far superior at this age, atleast what i have recognized in my sample of kids. A 5-6 year old girls ability to listen, understand, follow instructions, follow storylines, write, draw, be responsible, be emotional intelligent equally compares to a 7 year old boy.

I remember telling my girls once to do, or not to do something and they would be able to follow suit perfectly. At most, I'd have to tell them maybe... thrice and for the rest of the week or even longer they would be perfect. For boys, what do you mean every boy student that I have, I have to tell them 5 times in a day to not rock on their chairs???? 5 times a day???? Okay, gently bring it to their attention. Okay done. They do it again. Give consequences. Okay done. They do it after 5 minutes. Okay show that you're visibly upset. Okay done. They do it again. Okay take away privileges. Okay done. They do it again. I don't know what to do. Even if it is developmental immaturity, how does one deal, cope, or rectify such behavior in order to keep class control. Even non verbal ques do NOT help.

Another thing. Intellectual capabilities regarding all of my students. I used to pride myself in my ability to teach. Oh boyyyy im about the worst teacher there is. I teach my kids a letter a week. What do you mean, all besides 3 know that letter?????? WHAT. We write the letter. We draw letter. We colour the letter. We paint the letter. We compare the letter. We do short memory time blocks. We do long intensive time blocks. We play games with the letter. We sing the letter. What do you meannnnnnnn I will come the next day and you won't know it. Its so bad, I had to go to the principal and tell her I will not be able to complete the syllabus this year.

Its so dreadful, because genuinely, the effort that goes into teaching... they cant do it. They just cant. I have done, EVERYTHING that chat said to do. And they cannot grasp it. I even decided okay, im overloading them, we'll do less. It doesnt work. Ive asked the principal, I was like please I need help, ive implemented exotic games, flash cards and everything that I could think about. And they don't remember. Lets be physical, we'll jump and hop and associate the letter with the activity we're doing. Nope. J-jump is not working. Fine, I will be as boring as can be... how'd you guys think that went??

Another thing, parents. I had a parents meeting recently. So, I have a child in my class who has an attention span problem and is socially awkward? Forgive me for my inability to equitably describe his behavior. But short attention span, cant grasp onto stroylines, fails to read social ques ect ect. So, we're not allowed to diagnose a kid or say anything to the parents unless we have documented the child's behavior over a span of a month. Anyways, parents meeting comes, I speak to the mother, I use the sandwich method ofcourse, he is an incredibly intelligent student, indeed he is. I then bring up his ability to communicate with me as well as his attention span. She tells me "his going to speech therapy" okay thats good im glad, but his attention span "oh its, he has a short attention span". Honey what are you doing about it???

Another parent. The kid struggles to remember, specifically short term memory. He can remember stories but if I teach him something now and distract him for even a second and I ask what that is, he cannot tell me. Again, I bring this up with his mother. She tells me "i havent had time to sit with him at home and teach him. He gets so tired and I feel so bad for him". He is 6. We learn a letter a week. I dont give homework because why would they be coming here in the first place???? You not teaching at home is not the issue.

Another parent. Again, we're not allowed to bring things up, unless documented. Her child is a darling, his just not of exceeding intelligence. Nothing bad at all. An academically average child. Which is normal and lovely. So I tell her, her child is doing well. She then asks me if her kid can move further than his peers because she believes he is more capable. What????????

They don't know how to function as individuals. I mean, they are 6, I do not expect them to supersede my expectations in this category. But what do you mean to tell me, you need help opening a crisp packet???? And if I tell them do it yourself, they make a hugeeeeee fuss. "Oh i cant do it". You're 6, your expectations of yourself should be higher than that of anyone else beyond your age. Its the age for overconfidence. I don't mind you not being able to do something, but predicting your ability before any action? Now thats an issue. Where does that even stem from?

Guys, its not fun... even fun activities are not fun because they can't follow instructions.

I need help.

Title. Recently I havent had a connection with Allah at all and I don't know whats wrong. Alhamdulillah, i pray, i read quran, I dress modest, I try to stay away from excessive sin but I don't feel that connection at all. I don't know why. And I know what that feeling feels like but its not here. Is there any dhikr to read or dua to make because in this state I don't throughly enjoy doing ibadah. Nor is there motivation for me to be better. Everything feels so bleak.

Title. Recently I havent had a connection with Allah at all and I don't know whats wrong. Alhamdulillah, i pray, i read quran, I dress modest, I try to stay away from excessive haram but I don't feel that connection at all. I don't know why. And I know what that feeling feels like but its not here. Is there any dhikr to read or dua to make because in this state I don't throughly enjoy doing ibadah. Nor is there motivation for me to be better. Everything feels so bleak.

His such an upright man... what he told Will at the end??? Hello??? Nd he loved her too.

I watched it this movie so many times ans I never realized how great he actually was.

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I have been in niqab for a while Alhamdulillah, but im not that strict at all. Like I talk to my cousins and only recently ive started wearing my niqab at the beach and while swimming. And I dress really fancy so... like heels and makeup and everything else 🤣🤣 But I have been thinking I want to change just a teeny bit more. I want to wear jilbab, im not sure what others call it, but its a full covering from head to toe. But I don't know how to start or what to do. Because I feel with jilbab, ill have to stop talking to my cousins which im not sure i can do?? I've always spoken to them so they're just a part of my life?? And even inner haya, I don't have that as yet for the step of jilbab. How do you know when you're ready. Do you have to prep yourself up for it or what??

Because the girls who i know that are in jilbab, they're pious pious. Like goooooddd girls and im really not there, may Allah forgive and guide me. Even socially, when someone is in jilbab theyre respected alot more but i don't have those inner qualities of those girls. Im worried ill feel hypocritical. Ive really been thinking about it and have become really aware of how i dress.

Im wondering if there's any new coverage on this topic. Because of recent times, there has been alot of theft in farm areas. These farmers are experiencing major losses because of it. It's actually really sad and no body knows whos behind these premeditated attacks. Does anyone have any more information regarding this??

I have designed a gorgeous peice of jewellery that has 2 pearls. I was supposed to use fresh water pearls from a strand that my grandmother gave me but I wanted to make it extra special. After doing some research, i learnt that South Sea pearls are generally best. Theyre big and perfect for what I have designed. Does anyone know where I can find 2 undrilled pearls?? But they must be able to ship internationally.