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I come from Europe but my maternal relatives come from South East Asia. Some of them there touch little children down there. Like poke, pinch or rub there. I’ve seen it mostly on girls cuz there are more girls. They don’t do it like suggestively.

My grandma also used to put her face down in my vagina and I don’t remember exactly what she did. She does it even with clothes off. I remember she did up to I was like 6-8 years old. I had to kick her face away cuz I don’t want her to. They prob been touching me more down there when I was a baby cuz I have noticed they do it more to younger children.

They started doing it to my 2,8 year old sister too. Which I really didn’t want them to do. She says ‘stop’, ‘no’ and looks really uncomfortable but they don’t listen, I also did that when I was younger. My older uncle when he’s drunk keeps asking to touch her butt and genital area. He took off her pants and kissed her on her bare butt. She screamed and cried, so I got really scared for her. So I kept pushing his hands away. My mom and grandma blame me for being scared for her. Said something in their language, which I didn’t fully understand but I know it was something about my actions being ‘overreacting’. My grandma jokes to my sister about our uncle touching her butt and genitals. My uncle also goes around in the village and touches other kids in front of their caretaker.

Many of them also asks her for a kiss, if she says no. Then they will just ask over and over again. If she keeps saying no, they will just force to kiss her anyway. It’s mostly my uncles doing this. If she says no, sometimes they will say that they will be sad or that they need a kiss, to do this particular favour for her. I don’t really like this because I feel like it teaches her the wrong things and won’t teach her consent. She barely knows these people too, she hasn’t met them before in real life except my grandma.

But my mom let it all happen, if I didn’t step up, they would still keep touching her. But they still keep asking for kisses like 24/7 (no kidding). I brought it up with my mom, she got really mad and screamed at me and told me that this is what they do here. She told me it’s okay to do it when they are younger and they don’t do it when they are older. Why is it okay to touch her however they want because she’s younger? I don’t understand why. But my uncle keeps touching me weirdly too but I’m 20, maybe not on my privates. But he keeps kissing me on places other than my face. On my waist, back and such.

In my opinion, I don’t think it’s right and the laws say that as well. But everyone makes it seem like it’s okay and it seems to be a cultural thing there. I mean I didn’t like being touched down there so why should you. It’s not necessary, I didn’t feel so loved when they did that. I don’t think my sister felt so loved when they did that as well and forcefully kissing her.

What do you guys think?

He’s my maternal uncle by blood btw. We live in different countries, I haven’t seen my relatives there in 6 years and when I visited them there, my uncle came. He was drunk and he kept kissing on me on my cheek. And on my back and waist without consent. And touched my lower back and rubbed my back.

I did feel like I liked it but at the same time I was uncomfortable, and of some reason I want him to touch me more. Maybe it’s because I crave being loved and cared for, that’s why I want him to keep on doing it. I did feel sad when he didn’t do it as much anymore and now when I’m back I won’t see him in a while. When he’s near my heart beats really fast and I get a really bad gut feeling, but somehow I still want him to touch me.

I’m (20f) and he’s my maternal uncle by blood. We live in different countries and I haven’t been visiting my relatives there, since late 2019. Until now, April 2026. He has known me since I was a baby.

He visited us at my grandparents home. Without any introduction he came drunk into our room. He wanted a hug from me and I accepted it as I didn’t think much of it, I’ve been hugging my male relatives before without them doing anything weird. At first, I didn’t know he was drunk either. What I thought that was really weird is that he kept his hand on my lower back after we hugged, and he slid it slowly off.

Then he asked to kiss me on the cheek I said okay, I didn’t think that much of it. Then he started rubbing my back. After that he kissed me several times more.

I’m not entirely sure, but I also think he asked me if I would stay in my cousin’s room, who is his daughter. In that room he also stays in when he’s at my grandparents’. I dunno why he wants me to stay there but I’m not oblivious, I know he might try something.

After this incident, my memories came back to me of him pressuring me to kiss him or he kiss me. I’ve completely forgotten about that. That’s why I let him, before I didn’t. I have a tendency to forget things.

The next day my uncle was drunk again and he kissed me more times, I don’t really see him doing that as a big problem, I guessed he missed me a lot. But then he started kissing me on my back and grabbed my waist to kiss me on my waist. Which I thought was really weird. I told him to stop but I don’t know if he heard me. He did this in front of my relatives btw, they didn’t say any or tried to stop him.

Before this happened, I used to tell my mom about things I used to do there, when I was younger. About when my uncle took me on a moped ride through the village at night. I don’t remember anything bad happening, I do like that memory. And when I came along with his family to some small house bedroom hotel. I don’t understand or remember why they brought me there, maybe because it had AC. My mom questions me why, like she’s concerned. Back then, when I told her about it, my memories of his strange actions wasn’t there.

I remember he used to send me messages back in 2021 and 2023. Looking back at them, he texted me asking what I was doing and I asked what he was doing. He said he was drinking beer, then he asked me about other stuff like school, if I missed him and such. He never sent anything inappropriate tho. My mom found out about this, I dunno how tho because I never told her about it.

If he were to intend to groom me, I guess it could make sense. I mean I look like a preteen, I sound like a child and I like childish things. I age regress involuntarily but it doesn’t mean I can’t see red flags and it doesn’t mean my brain development is delayed. I just age regress constantly, it’s mostly when I’m alone that I’ll stop. I still let him touch me tho and I did trust him at first. I do have a hard time saying no. I also of some reason like older men, I didn’t know the cause at first and maybe there isn’t a cause but maybe it’s because of him or someone else over there.

He also goes around poking at small kids private parts, which no one there cares to stop him from doing. (It’s normalised there btw, not saying it’s okay). He might have done the same to me.

(I’m not sure if this counts as sexual assault or if the NSFW tag is appropriate, I’ll put it up anyway)

I’m (20F) and I recently visited my mother’s side of the family in a different country. We stayed at my grandparents house. I haven’t visited them since late 2019.

My uncle came and visited us a few days later. He came in drunk in our room with no introduction. He asked me if he could hug me which I accepted. When I visited them in 2019 and before he used to pressure me to kiss him or he kiss me back then, which I didn’t have a memory when this incident occurred so I didn’t feel weird about him wanting a hug. The hug was pretty long. He then held his hand at my lower back for quite some time after we hugged, before removing it.

After that he asked me if he could kiss me on my cheek. Once again at this time I still didn’t have any memory of what he did before so I said okay. Yeah he kissed me, then he started rubbing my back. This is when I started getting really uncomfortable cuz he kept throwing red flags at me and I could smell the alcohol. Then he asked me something in English, I don’t know if it was cuz he was slurring or if it was cuz I couldn’t think straight that I didn’t understand what he said. My uncle after that kept kissing me several times, I laid down in my bed with the covers covering me. He sat on my bed, then he kissed me more times, he has probably kissed me like over at least 5 times that day.

Then next day in the evening it just kept escalating. (At this point I started to remember that he used to pressure me back then. I didn’t understand that he was being creepy I just thought he was annoying, but now I know when I’ve become an adult). My uncle was drunk again and he kept kissing me when I was in my room. Then he started kissing me on my back.

After that I got to the kitchen, mind you everyone knows and sees. He kept kissing me on my cheek. Then when I tried shoving his face away he kisses me on my arm, which I felt was disgusting because I dunno I got his saliva on me I guess. I said stop but I didn’t sound so serious so I guess that’s why he kept going.

Then I stood up and he grabbed my waist and started kissing me on my waist, that’s when I knew he really crossed a serious boundary. I said stop but he kept going, I dunno if he didn’t hear me or not because I was quite quiet.

I remember that my uncle used to text me back in 2021 and 2023. When I look back at the messages, he texted me asking me what I was doing, then I asked him what he was doing and he said he was drinking beer. He asked me also about like school, if I missed him and such. My mom found out about it, I don’t know how my mom found out about him texting me because I never told her.

I felt like I was too trusting. I really didn’t expect him to do what he did. When I hug my uncle from my dad’s side, my dad or any of my other male relatives, they are always respectful. So I believed I could trust him but now I’m starting to have a harder time trusting other men more than before. I don’t have super strong bad feelings about him doing this to me because I don’t know him all too well. If it were some male relative that did this to me, that I was closer to, I would feel much more worse about it.

I genuinely thought he was a good guy. I forgot about the bad memories of him, I only had good memories. After this occurred, the memories came back of him being weird.

I’m (20F) and I recently visited my mother’s side of the family in a different country. We stayed at my grandparents house. I haven’t visited them since late 2019.

My uncle came and visited us a few days later. He came in drunk in our room with no introduction. He asked me if he could hug me which I accepted. When I visited them in 2019 and before he used to pressure me to kiss him or he kiss me back then, which I didn’t have a memory when this incident occurred so I didn’t feel weird about him wanting a hug. The hug was pretty long. He then held his hand at my lower back for quite some time after we hugged, before removing it.

After that he asked me if he could kiss me on my cheek. Once again at this time I still didn’t have any memory of what he did before so I said okay. Yeah he kissed me, then he started rubbing my back. This is when I started getting really uncomfortable cuz he kept throwing red flags at me and I could smell the alcohol. Then he asked me something in English, I don’t know if it was cuz he was slurring or if it was cuz I couldn’t think straight that I didn’t understand what he said. My uncle after that kept kissing me several times, I laid down in my bed with the covers covering me. He sat on my bed, then he kissed me more times, he has probably kissed me like over at least 5 times that day.

Then next day in the evening it just kept escalating. (At this point I started to remember that he used to pressure me back then. I didn’t understand that he was being creepy I just thought he was annoying, but now I know when I’ve become an adult). My uncle was drunk again and he kept kissing me when I was in my room. Then he started kissing me on my back.

After that I got to the kitchen, mind you everyone knows and sees. He kept kissing me on my cheek. Then when I tried shoving his face away he kisses me on my arm, which I felt was disgusting because I dunno I got his saliva on me I guess. I said stop but I didn’t sound so serious so I guess that’s why he kept going.

Then I stood up and he grabbed my waist and started kissing me on my waist, that’s when I knew he really crossed a serious boundary. I said stop but he kept going, I dunno if he didn’t hear me or not because I was quite quiet.

I remember that my uncle used to text me back in 2021 and 2023. When I look back at the messages, he texted me asking me what I was doing, then I asked him what he was doing and he said he was drinking beer. He asked me also about like school, if I missed him and such. My mom found out about it, I don’t know how my mom found out about him texting me because I never told her.

I felt like I was too trusting. I really didn’t expect him to do what he did. When I hug my uncle from my dad’s side, my dad or any of my other male relatives, they are always respectful. So I believed I could trust him but now I’m starting to have a harder time trusting other men more than before. I don’t have super strong bad feelings about him doing this to me because I don’t know him all too well. If it were some male relative that did this to me, that I was closer to, I would feel much more worse about it.

I genuinely thought he was a good guy. I forgot about the bad memories of him, I only had good memories. After this occurred, the memories came back of him being weird.