I’m planning to call my mom soon and chew her out but I need help figuring out what to say so she’ll listen to me.
My mother recently got a new boyfriend no more than 4-5 months ago and he’s already living with her and my 9yo sister. I don’t like this guy. Myself, my boyfriend, and my sister feel that something is off with him. When I brought this up to my mom however, she blamed it on his PTSD.
For some detail on the guy, he has two kids. A daughter that he isn’t allowed to see and a delinquent son. He also shows major control and trust issues. He’s also a heavy drinker. Almost every night I see him he’s got a glass of bourbon and the fridge is full of alcohol.
My mother was never much of a drinker before this (maybe one or two glasses every few months). But she has been drinking so much more now and is frequently tipsy at night.
They also leave to get food almost all the time, never taking me or my sister. I don’t care and don’t want to go but they never make sure my sister eats an actual dinner, even when I’m not there. I’ve been keeping track and they did this 3 times in 11 days that I noticed and checked. They don’t often make/get her breakfast or lunch on weekends either.
She’s old enough to make some things herself but I’m pissed that she’s constantly having to do it when I’m not at my mom’s. I‘m going to call my mom and point this out as well as how much she’s changing because of her boyfriend. How do I go about this in a way she’ll actually listen?
TL;DR
My mom is starting to neglect my 9yo sister and become a worse person because of her new boyfriend. How can I talk to her in a way she’ll listen?