u/DisastrousRegret92

So i’m a F/23 yr old girl living in Australia. I’m also a law student currently studying. i was previously married at the age of 17 which was a childhood arrangement- specifically for the purpose of getting his visa, so i wasn’t living with him yet. though i was divorced 3yrs later as he had cheated on me and had a secret wife and kids. i have been very cautious since then and don’t want to rush into anything.

The issue now is that my parents have been looking for people for me ever since- even though i’ve been asking them for some time for myself, and my studies. Regardless, the rishta/proposals that they find are from people that are mostly living in pakistan, or are not so great when it comes to physical attributes or career- especially because a lot of people do have an issue with a divorced girl- even though i was so young and not even living with him.

They found this guy who’s M/25 and still studying via their family friends and are hell bent on considering him, to the point that they asked him to come to australia for a week. I had already rejected this guy as i wasn’t physically attracted to him nor did i like that he isn’t stable in relation to his career goals. The only thing my parents are liking is that his family is objectively wealthy in Pakistan, and that this guy is soft spoken and respectful.

I’m not a vain person, however my family has been making me feel like shit for not liking this guy even though he is quite short and just not my type physically. i also would rather want someone that already lives in Australia- because i do not want to sponsor anyone, and i would like someone who has something of himself rather than just his family’s wealth. They’ve also been saying that they’ve been looking for guys for me for 2 years and haven’t found anyone great as all the good looking guys are not from good families and such men are never ‘great people’ and their toxic. I’m a very religious person, i like to believe that whatever’s written for you will come to you, and i constantly make dua that i find someone that i will hopefully like in the first go. I just want to know if how im behaving with this isn’t me being dramatic, or egotistic and vain. I do not want to get into a marriage where im not completely satisfied or happy. like am i being crazy?!? need whatever advice

So i’m a F/23 yr old girl living in Australia. I’m also a law student currently studying. i was previously married at the age of 17 which was a childhood arrangement- specifically for the purpose of getting his visa, so i wasn’t living with him yet. though i was divorced 3yrs later as he had cheated on me and had a secret wife and kids. i have been very cautious since then and don’t want to rush into anything.

The issue now is that my parents have been looking for people for me ever since- even though i’ve been asking them for some time for myself, and my studies. Regardless, the rishta/proposals that they find are from people that are mostly living in pakistan, or are not so great when it comes to physical attributes or career- especially because a lot of people do have an issue with a divorced girl- even though i was so young and not even living with him.

They found this guy who’s M/25 and still studying via their family friends and are hell bent on considering him, to the point that they asked him to come to australia for a week. I had already rejected this guy as i wasn’t physically attracted to him nor did i like that he isn’t stable in relation to his career goals. The only thing my parents are liking is that his family is objectively wealthy in Pakistan, and that this guy is soft spoken and respectful.

I’m not a vain person, however my family has been making me feel like shit for not liking this guy even though he is quite short and just not my type physically. i also would rather want someone that already lives in Australia- because i do not want to sponsor anyone, and i would like someone who has something of himself rather than just his family’s wealth. They’ve also been saying that they’ve been looking for guys for me for 2 years and haven’t found anyone great as all the good looking guys are not from good families and such men are never ‘great people’ and their toxic. I’m a very religious person, i like to believe that whatever’s written for you will come to you, and i constantly make dua that i find someone that i will hopefully like in the first go. I just want to know if how im behaving with this isn’t me being dramatic, or egotistic and vain. I do not want to get into a marriage where im not completely satisfied or happy. like am i being crazy?!? need whatever advice

So i’m a F/23 yr old girl living in Australia. I’m also a law student currently studying. i was previously married at the age of 17 which was a childhood arrangement- specifically for the purpose of getting his visa, so i wasn’t living with him yet. though i was divorced 3yrs later as he had cheated on me and had a secret wife and kids. i have been very cautious since then and don’t want to rush into anything.

The issue now is that my parents have been looking for people for me ever since- even though i’ve been asking them for some time for myself, and my studies. Regardless, the rishta/proposals that they find are from people that are mostly living in pakistan, or are not so great when it comes to physical attributes or career- especially because a lot of people do have an issue with a divorced girl- even though i was so young and not even living with him.

They found this guy who’s M/25 and still studying via their family friends and are hell bent on considering him, to the point that they asked him to come to australia for a week. I had already rejected this guy as i wasn’t physically attracted to him nor did i like that he isn’t stable in relation to his career goals. The only thing my parents are liking is that his family is objectively wealthy in Pakistan, and that this guy is soft spoken and respectful.

I’m not a vain person, however my family has been making me feel like shit for not liking this guy even though he is quite short and just not my type physically. i also would rather want someone that already lives in Australia- because i do not want to sponsor anyone, and i would like someone who has something of himself rather than just his family’s wealth. They’ve also been saying that they’ve been looking for guys for me for 2 years and haven’t found anyone great as all the good looking guys are not from good families and such men are never ‘great people’ and their toxic. I’m a very religious person, i like to believe that whatever’s written for you will come to you, and i constantly make dua that i find someone that i will hopefully like in the first go. I just want to know if how im behaving with this isn’t me being dramatic, or egotistic and vain. I do not want to get into a marriage where im not completely satisfied or happy. like am i being crazy?!? need whatever advice