r/IslamicNikah

The truth is when it comes to marriage men prefer younger women

younger women, in general, are more physically attractive than older women.

What men desire more than anything in women is youth; that's just the way that it is.

.younger women are seen as more biologically capable of having kids.

Just remember women can't have kids over 40.

So just remember most men prefer younger women

I have a classmate from Sudan. At first, we only talked about school and assignments. After class, we did not really talk anymore. During Ramadan, I sent him a message saying “Ramadan Mubarak.” After that, we started talking more. He began asking about my studies, and slowly we started chatting every day. Our conversations were normal—just about daily life, school, and Islam. There was nothing romantic between us at all. Later, he started sharing his personal life with me. He told me that he was engaged before, but his fiancée was killed during the war in Sudan, along with her whole family. I felt very sorry for him and showed him sympathy. He also told me about his family and his struggles. Still, our conversations stayed respectful and not romantic. At one point, he even said he might never get married. Then suddenly, one day, he confessed his feelings to me. I accepted it because I never felt like he had bad intentions. He is close to Islam and said he wants me to be his wife in the future. He also wants to meet me and be with me, but right now we are not in a position to get married. I want to make it clear that we never crossed any limits. We never spoke in a romantic or inappropriate way. But now, I am starting to worry. I am thinking—am I doing something wrong? Is this considered zina? I know zina is a very serious sin, and I am scared about it.

We should create a hostile environment against brothers and sisters who cheat on their spouse.

If you cheat on your husband or wife you are a disgusting person who does not deserve any forgiveness or sympathy.

Just remember you will never be forgiven.

Also I think Muslim community should not forgive cheaters they are disgusting people

So i’m a F/23 yr old girl living in Australia. I’m also a law student currently studying. i was previously married at the age of 17 which was a childhood arrangement- specifically for the purpose of getting his visa, so i wasn’t living with him yet. though i was divorced 3yrs later as he had cheated on me and had a secret wife and kids. i have been very cautious since then and don’t want to rush into anything.

The issue now is that my parents have been looking for people for me ever since- even though i’ve been asking them for some time for myself, and my studies. Regardless, the rishta/proposals that they find are from people that are mostly living in pakistan, or are not so great when it comes to physical attributes or career- especially because a lot of people do have an issue with a divorced girl- even though i was so young and not even living with him.

They found this guy who’s M/25 and still studying via their family friends and are hell bent on considering him, to the point that they asked him to come to australia for a week. I had already rejected this guy as i wasn’t physically attracted to him nor did i like that he isn’t stable in relation to his career goals. The only thing my parents are liking is that his family is objectively wealthy in Pakistan, and that this guy is soft spoken and respectful.

I’m not a vain person, however my family has been making me feel like shit for not liking this guy even though he is quite short and just not my type physically. i also would rather want someone that already lives in Australia- because i do not want to sponsor anyone, and i would like someone who has something of himself rather than just his family’s wealth. They’ve also been saying that they’ve been looking for guys for me for 2 years and haven’t found anyone great as all the good looking guys are not from good families and such men are never ‘great people’ and their toxic. I’m a very religious person, i like to believe that whatever’s written for you will come to you, and i constantly make dua that i find someone that i will hopefully like in the first go. I just want to know if how im behaving with this isn’t me being dramatic, or egotistic and vain. I do not want to get into a marriage where im not completely satisfied or happy. like am i being crazy?!? need whatever advice